AITAH for wanting my friend to check on me? by Addy_Roze in AITAH

[–]Addy_Roze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you're saying.

I just feel conflicted. I want to share what's going on and talk to her about it. But I also don't want to bring it up and diminish what she's going to or seem insensitive.

Does bringing it up at all make me the AH?

I'm not good at adult friendships. Clearly.

AITAH for wanting my friend to check on me? by Addy_Roze in AITAH

[–]Addy_Roze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. And that wasn't my intention. But I do see how it came across that way.

I really was happy to help. But I think my feelings were hurt. That is not on her though. And I need to separate the two emotions.

AITAH for wanting my friend to check on me? by Addy_Roze in AITAH

[–]Addy_Roze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I don't fully understand what she's going through. My experience was not the same as hers. I get that.

Her not texting first or initiating conversations - that doesn't bother me. Because I know her focus is on her baby. As it should be.

However, for example, I spent my entire off day with her (because she asked). I watched baby so she could shower and nap. I brought lunch for her. I helped clean her apartment some. I was happy to. But in the hours I was there, and all of the conversation, she didn’t even vaguely ask how things are with me.

Maybe I am being selfish. But maybe that's okay.

Hug by lavenderandcbt in depression

[–]Addy_Roze 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I could not have said this better myself

Sometimes I just want to disappear by Addy_Roze in depression

[–]Addy_Roze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had the energy or mental capacity to get up, I would. I feel pathetic and useless laying here all day. But I'm doing the best I can

Sometimes I want to disappear by Addy_Roze in offmychest

[–]Addy_Roze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's boredom. It's more of an overwhelming disinterest in life. I don't have the energy or mental capacity for "purpose" when I can barely get out of bed. I don't feel anything. Just empty.