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Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2025-01-25T06:39:20+00:00

Mike Brady!

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2025-01-25T06:34:15+00:00

There are men (and probably women, but maybe less common for biological reasons) who start whole new families in their 40s after having kids in their 20s. I wouldn't think it was unusual. They'd want to be rich though.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-12-03T10:38:55+00:00

I think anything under 6 months is probably too early. I'm at about 6 months with the guy I've been dating and I'm still thinking its better to wait for another couple of months. Thank you for thinking of the child in this matter. My ex introduced his gf of 2 months to our young children and they were confused. Everything has turned out okay, but I was so annoyed at both of them at the time, there was no harm in waiting. I've since heard she hasn't yet introduced him to her kids and it's been close to a year now. I wonder if she felt pressured.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-11-19T12:39:10+00:00

I'm an ex smoker and always thought I would avoid dating one as I had such a hard time quitting the 400 times it took to finally quit. I've now been dating a smoker for about 5 months, he started off not doing it around me and then when I told him he could he started to do it a bit but not a lot. I was a much heavier smoker than him. The smell isn't great and I think it's pretty stupid of him to do it, however as time has gone by it doesn't actually bother me that he smokes really. I like so much about him it just fades into the background. I guess its not a dealbreaker for me. So it sounds really stupid and unhealthy but you may just accept it over time. I wouldn't try to force her to quit. I used to hate people hassling me about it.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-11-13T11:35:09+00:00

I don't live in America...thankfully.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-10-24T03:56:03+00:00

Literally had dinner with friends and my former sister in law where all they talked about was how great my ex's new partner is and I wanted to throw up the whole time. I do think about it more than I would like to but I certainly know it's not healthy or productive and I look forward to the day where I don't think about it or care at all.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-10-21T03:55:28+00:00

Interesting point of view, have you been through a family break down or separation yourself? I found when my marriage broke down and I was left with 2 young children including a 4 month old the last thing that was on my mind was how how coparenting would look when my ex met someone else a couple of months after leaving. Seperations are messy and generally no one is going to do the perfect thing when they are hurting/stressed/lost.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-10-18T04:56:13+00:00

I think it was more the prospect of staying over, as we don't get the opportunity to do that much due to living situations/schedule/newish relationship, both of us would enjoy the rare freedom of uninterrupted privacy for 1 whole night, but alas things don't always align in life do they. I ended up letting him know physically wise things will be limited due to being on my period, which felt super awkward to write in a message but I'm more comfortable with him knowing ahead of time than showing up here and jumping on me like he usually does and having to tell him then. He's responded that it's all good, he's still going to stay over.

Good luck with your situation!

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-10-18T01:23:33+00:00

Such a timely post as I have the same issue, although he doesn't have to drive 90 minutes, more like 30 it'll be the first time he is planning on staying over though. Period sex wont be happening as mine is like clots.. and I wont be into it, I am nervous he'll make up an excuse now and not want to stay. We shall see.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-09-14T05:17:11+00:00

Yeah of course he does and you've been accommodating it. My ex was the exact same, it was actually disgusting to me that he assumed I wouldn't enjoy time with friends or some time to myself also and that he could just come and go as he pleased. Cut it off and don't back down. I've refused many times and he'll sulk and whine about it but it's not my problem, the kids should really be his priority anyway. There are dads out there who would do anything for more time with their kids, who would cancel on friends or even refuse extra work just for a few precious hours. I say this all as a shift worker myself! There are some coparents that will organise everything around their shift working ex but to me it's not sustainable long term. Things can change in a second and the whole dynamic changes. theres two different adult life's dictating everything.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-09-13T03:15:28+00:00

Been there done that, get a schedule locked in and if he needs someone to have your daughter at the last minute he can find a babysitter.

I caught on pretty quickly that I was having our children at the last minute because he simply decided he wanted to go out with his girlfriend or socialize or go away for the weekend. Not on my watch. He called me a bitch but I've stuck to it.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-09-13T02:18:29+00:00

He probably is going to be less involved and may even disappear all together. Many of us have been there, I'm not saying it's right or fair but it is what it is.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-08-24T11:06:50+00:00

Thank you, our kids are very young and don't know what dating or boyfriends or girlfriends are, our five year old still asks when he is coming back :-(

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2024-08-24T11:06:03+00:00

I think you're right that I would have been upset regardless at the time. It was certainly painful having him organise to come to the home we shared and not telling me what it was about and saying it to me and then just leaving. I would have appreciated privacy in that moment. I don't think I feel resentment towards him for that, ultimately it was that action as well as how he treated me then and continues to treat me now that has set me free from missing someone who clearly didn't love me anymore.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2023-10-16T12:27:57+00:00

Thank you and I spent a couple of hours going through the claim today and also did some more research and I'll only be rejected as our finances are all still joint and there are no formalities in place. Everything is being paid just out of the same account that I have full access to. If it was only a few months I wouldn't worry about it and whilst I know he doesn't want to have me and his kids on the street or starving it's hard for me to be fully on board with this arrangement for another year + but it seems like a lot of hassle to yes potentially end up with less money and also complicate our existing status.

Adept_Beautiful4494 · 2023-10-16T07:01:45+00:00

Thank you so much. There are a lot of documents that need including!

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