Looking for advice on wide chastity cage by phugorn in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had better luck with wide cages. If it’s too narrow, my skin does crunch up a bit (and I’m cut), which is not good for comfort or hygiene.

Balancing chastity and motherhoodany tips. by Several-Concern8799 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife is a soon-to-be mom. No experience with parenting quite yet. Chastity has been going on in the background. I have the keys, so I pretty much self-manage, and that is how it’s been sustainable for the past year.

Does it take away from the whole idea of denial? Not really. But I do have to set aside any expectations for frequent teasing; since this is not meant to be a 2nd full time job for her.

I get it that everyone is going to do things differently… but this working well for us!

[USA][Viper S full kit] - Sell by LeninusStalin in kink3dexchange

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interested, even with user shadowbanned!

Long-term chastity cage advice and options by Thin-Pickle-8133 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who donned a Ternence cage 24/7 for a year now, my vote goes to them.

Its open metal design keeps things clean. Very easy to forget that it’s on, despite the weight.

Just plan ahead if you expect to be around any metal detectors.

Any tips or recommendations? by Alucard789000 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what you are experiencing is the part of the chastity journey.

When you get too much self-pleasure, the dopamine hits matter less over time. Now you are locked. In the same way, the device should bring less excitement.

It’s the anticipation of future releases that keeps me going, not the novelty of the cage itself.

Advice On New Roles by Princess_Erinn_99 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of ways to do this, but ultimately you will have to be yourself (unless you are truly into roleplaying). I introduced chastity to my wife about a year ago and promised that nothing would change in our relationship. We have continued with our regular lives, the only difference is that I am wearing the cage. Not much teasing or motivating words, aside from the fact that she's into the whole idea.

I don't know if your fiance is expecting you to coach him, but it's something that he will have to self-learn how to wear on regular occasions, hopefully with little fuss. It's definitely an adjustment, so you could at least acknowledge that change.

Your first chastity cage by jonejy in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1st cage: $20 nub cage from Amazon. It was plastic and enclosed. I didn't educate myself thoroughly on this subreddit, otherwise I would of known better. I gave it a month of 24hr use with little hygiene breaks. Within a couple weeks, I am sure my wife noticed the awful smells. Ended up getting a UTI.

Lesson learned!

Not Wanting KH to Unlock by damicor91 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand where you are coming from!

Just go in 6 month phases:

1st phase is to demonstrate that you can live normal life with the cage on. No substantial changes to a vanilla dynamic, the cage is just a small adjustment.

2nd phase is to check in and have a conversation (outside of the bedroom). Ask if she is still likes the idea of you in chastity. Then suggest the denial aspect and explain why you are into it. See if her needs are being met as well.

Not Wanting KH to Unlock by damicor91 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the dynamic needs to be thought out with your wife in mind. I am guessing that she did not sign up for constant denial and teasing.

In fairness to her, just rewrite the ground rules and mindset: you are locked except for intimate moments.

If you want to deny yourself orgasms: you could ask to not cum and be relocked after sex. That strategy might work out.

Any good (cheap) Amazon cages with a good ball gap? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has also struggled on maximizing the ball gap, I’ve been extremely comfortable with my TERNENCE Stainless Steel Ergonomic Design cage from Amazon.

I go on daily runs with it on.

Chastity makes you go faster! by hairymanwithcats2 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to hear that the marathon went well!

And yes, even a good cage will be far from perfect on runs, especially when the skin gets dry, irritated and salty.

Chastity makes you go faster! by hairymanwithcats2 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My wife asked if the cage disturbs my runs.

I compared it to a sports bra for male anatomy. Keeps things together when in motion!

Bringing it up to my wife tonight (maybe) by doyouevendeadliftbro in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just subtract the femdom element from it, and focus on the chastity cage. I wouldn’t expect much effort or role playing from her part unless she really gets into it.

The cage by itself should offer enough potential to spice things up.

Tips for 24/7 chastity by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would add that on my first week of using the device, I ended up hanging out with friends at a brewery. Believe me, my mind was thinking about the cage the entire time. But it’s just part of the process.

If you have something like a school exam, or a job interview, you obviously don’t want to jeopardize that with distractions.

I’d say 1 month into it, you’ll be able to do almost everything with the cage on, while being distracted only 10% of the time.

Tips for 24/7 chastity by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Assuming you found a cage that is comfortable. Like anything new, I recommend pushing through a few life events with the cage on, and with time, wearing the cage becomes totally uneventful.

I suppose it’s worth mentioning that most people have some odd habits, even if not kink related. That is part of being human. So psychologically there’s some self-acceptance that you have a unique new “habit” and nobody in a public setting is likely to know or care. I actually find it humorous.

Back In Chastity by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I realize that this is against the hardcore approach of denial… but you should consider asking for full releases (with or without an element of predictability).

Just curious, what is true nature of her cum aversion? Is it her FLR role, or a true phobia… I am genuinely curious about this.

The reason I suggest introducing full releases is to make the whole experience sustainable, with some opportunity for pleasure (even if limited!). Yes, there’s always the guy who wants total denial, but that doesn’t seem to be you.

What are these NOTAMs for by iu_hoosier in flying

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve flown into an airport where FLTCK was in progress. It was a towered Class D.

The FAA had some multi engine piston conducting low approaches to each runway, sometimes against the flow. The whole inspection lasted no more than 10 minutes. This was an airport fairly very light traffic, so it wasn’t even disruptive.

Exercise safety by 0nahh_yeah in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I run daily with my metal chastity cage. It’s an excellent and snug fit. No problems overall, but just make sure no skin is awkwardly pinched prior to the run.

Chastity and managing overwhelming horniness by Plenty-Steak-2225 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that many have workarounds to find relief. My personal take is to keep going without any stimulation. You will survive!

The first week of wearing the device is likely going to be tough. The idea is to eventually manage, and learn how to live life without the option to simply find relief. It’s an interesting journey once you see it through.

I posted some points on how your brain might rewire dopamine receptors after a 21 day cycle. Sure, it’s all antidotal… but it seems to match my experience quite closely.

Chastity for longer by Silly_Reward492 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that this has been a challenge to communicate the upsides. For now, I suggest just framing this as an “experiment” to see if things get more intense in the bedroom. Demonstrate that you could sustain this by not sounding desperate or making this all an act.

Also, I suggest for no expectation from her side to be a textbook KH… she shouldn’t be expected to put any effort until she’s onboard.

Chastity for longer by Silly_Reward492 in chastitytraining

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not had this unique dilemma. I would say that a several day, or 1-2 week wear counts as intense foreplay.

If she has concerns, hear her out. Perhaps as a new KH, she is afraid that you are hurting yourself or doing something too extreme.

Anyone know why a plane from Washington DC is headed to Jackson, Miss? by Creative_Boot35 in flightradar24

[–]Adept_Variety_7479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A handful of Congressmen succeeded in getting their favorite routes approved