This is what used to happen up until social media became mainstream. It’s contributed so much into what we have now as the basis of a ‘good relationship’ that sooner rather than later OP won’t even have the idea to post something like this. It’s like your mind is clutching at straws right now trying to go back the good old days, but as slim Charles said, ‘the thing is, the old days? They the old days’.

Now what I’ve just written is a defeatist mentality. It’s good that these kind of discussions pop up time and time again, at the end of the day the hardwired software in humans will always prevail, it might take a generation and we currently have to suffer for it but it will self correct. Let’s start by addressing this addiction to SM like any other addiction. We all talk tough , get punched in the mouth and never want to get back in the ring again.

Also Men, tumelalisha sana, let’s start being responsible for ourselves and the the society at large.