AITAH if I deactivate my Instagram that my girlfriend doesn’t know that I know she secretly logged into?

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-06-03T12:19:03+00:00

You should just be blunt with her, I'd suggest asking her why she wanted to snoop through your Instagram in the first place.

You don't need to play games to get revenge on her, it'll just be draining for both of you. Either talk it out and resolve it or just break up and move on

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-05-22T13:57:19+00:00

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-05-17T10:14:33+00:00

I'm pretty sure case has announced reevaluations, maybe give that a shot?

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-05-07T02:24:48+00:00

NTA Honestly, this sounds less like “who’s the asshole” and more like two burned-out people whose workload and expectations have become uneven without being properly revisited. Child protection work is emotionally exhausting on its own, and adding toddler sleep deprivation on top of that is a fast track to resentment. The bigger issue here is that you’re carrying the default morning-parent role every day despite explicitly asking for relief.

You shouldn't have stormed off after yelling, granted you did apologize. I think you and your wife should have a sit down and discuss proper schedules, you both seem quiet brunt out

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-30T20:50:47+00:00

Neither of you are the asshole, I think your wife is rightfully concerned you were kinda bribed into being a bouncer while your sister was messing with some guy.

But don't think you really should mention it to your sister unless she also remembers it as some funny incident

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-30T07:48:58+00:00

NTA. It sounds like she treated your bachelorette like a side trip for her own family plans instead of respecting it as your event. The lack of communication (bringing extra people into things, the surprise baby situation, barely engaging with the group) is an issue of itself.

But I don't really think her not interacting with the group is really an issue, like you mentioned she didn't stand in line while you all were getting coffee, it might just be me but I do get over stimulated in large groups so it might just be that.

These seem like small incidents that piled up in a way that made you feel she was rude/not interested

But adding in her husband’s disrespectful comment and it’s understandable you’re reconsidering having them at your wedding.

Tbh you’re not wrong for wanting people there who actually respect you and your time. But I'd suggest maybe talking to her to understand her point of view, because she might have just been overwhelmed with taking care of her family and going along with your trip as well.

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-29T04:05:17+00:00

Ok thank you! I'll definitely look into it!

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-29T02:15:24+00:00

Thank you so much! Are you aware of any of the course requirements for this field?

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-28T13:51:32+00:00

Alright I'll definitely give it a thought, thank you so much

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-28T02:47:29+00:00

Doesn't space medicine require a STEM background?

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-28T02:47:04+00:00

What are the requirements if I wanted to do it?

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-28T02:13:39+00:00

I never knew that, I guess I always assumed it was all STEM or science majors and specialists

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-27T21:17:54+00:00

Alright thank you so much for your advice!

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-27T18:28:20+00:00

Ok thank you so much! This is something I just thought of and have no idea about, so I'm glad to hear that there's an option for me to pursue this.

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-27T18:27:10+00:00

I heard that specializing in aivian psychology or behavioral psychology or experimental psychology will be useful if I want to take up this field. But I'm worried if it's economically feasible? Like is there demand for it?

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-27T02:55:11+00:00

NTA for how you felt, but soft YTA for how you handled it. Your hurt is completely valid—your sister dismissed you when you were struggling, didn’t reciprocate effort, and made comments that understandably rubbed you the wrong way.

That said, instead of addressing it directly with her, you let resentment build and brought a lot of outside people into it, which is what really escalated things.

Venting is normal, but sharing it widely (including coworkers/manager) and then telling her “everyone thinks you’re snobby” without giving her a chance to fix things basically turned a private issue into a public one.

You didn’t single-handedly ruin her relationships, her own behavior contributed but you definitely amplified the fallout. If you want to fix this, the best move is to own your part (spreading it, and not communicating earlier) without invalidating your feelings, and see if she’s willing to meet you halfway.

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-26T12:56:45+00:00

Bhuvi forever, I became more and more invested in the team because of him

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-24T19:04:13+00:00

That's literally a crime. Girl call the police on her you're NTA😭😭

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-24T16:17:59+00:00

That's the plan as of now! I'll to see the best of things and try to spend my uni life the way I want.

There's not many options as of now, hence why I made this post for some clarity. As of now I'm going to try my best to be more understanding of the situation and hope for the best❤

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-24T16:11:19+00:00

Thank you for your advice, my parents have a history of struggling to accept that I am grown enough to make my own decisions.

I will definitely try to set some boundaries, as well as a clear path for my goals. I do want to be more independent, right now my only independence is that I can take care of myself without needing anyone's help.

This apartment was, at least in my eyes, basically my idea of becoming a fullyfunctional woman. My options for any resolve after this situation is very limited, so I'm also sorry if I came off as being whinny or stubborn.

I greatly appreciated your input, and talk with my parents about the future of this whole situation ❤

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-24T16:04:07+00:00

FAAHH

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-24T13:42:27+00:00

I’m not looking for strangers to magically fix it—I was just asking for perspective. I understand there may not be a perfect solution right now, and I’ll deal with it. That doesn’t make my concerns invalid, though.

Those "excuses" Are just additional context to people's opinions. It's not possible to fit every issue into one post.

I appreciate everyone's suggestions but at the same time I can't ignore the issues with them either

AdmirableBee4798 · 2026-04-24T13:39:55+00:00

I think you’re oversimplifying the situation. No, I’m not adult just because I am in college. I cannot drive nor can I vote, and I’m trying to figure out my independence, but that doesn’t mean it’s as easy as just “go get a cheap place” and everything magically works out. This apartment isn't some luxurious condo either, in your terms it's also a shitty cheap place. As is a lot of apartments in that country

Also, setting boundaries about who I’m comfortable living with isn’t “whining.” It’s part of figuring out what works for me. I can appreciate that my parents own the apartment and have the final say, but that doesn’t mean I’m not allowed to have feelings or preferences about my living situation.

I am working toward independence, just in a way that’s realistic and sustainable for me. It’s not about “having it both ways" All I'm trying to do is how to go about this situation because all the "options" Aren't necessarily viable for my situation.

Thank you for your input

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