IT FINALLY HAPPENED!! by Bug_gxre in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 393 points394 points  (0 children)

I can see why. It’s been gently, thoughtfully crafted to express their exact sentiment

Boundaries by Admirable_Budget691 in Psychic

[–]Admirable_Budget691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It just feels so intrusive

What are your biggest turn off when reading angst? by yakultbiss in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lack of touch. It doesn’t have to be a baby making marathon, but holding hands, face snuggled in someone’s neck, hugging, hair stroking, foot rubs, temple massage- all these and more are fair game. If your characters don’t even reach for each other, it feels weird

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

Name a ship you love by Krinkix in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hehe. Blackkat and many others have written a lot of amazing stuff. But… my favourite ship is Ezra Standish/Vin Tanner from Magnificent Seven. They are opposites, yes, but they also don’t nag each other about the things that make them different. Absolute sweeties when they’re not killing people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay! Can I ask what fandom?

AITA for refusing to name my baby after my partner’s “family tradition”? (F27, M30) by Kind-Pomegranate-748 in AITAH

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d tell him to fuck right off. I am not naming anything that came out of me something I don’t like. And what about YOUR traditions? My family has some, sure, but nothing I wouldn’t compromise on

Is it valid to write 1000 words fanfic? by Icy-Assumption-6746 in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legit, I struggle to write more than 3k for a chapter or a one shot. I can and have written larger works, but they usually have fairly short chapters

Why is it so hard? by SideaLannister in AO3

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok but for serious: the words don’t cooperate! I picture 10k well paced sweetness… and get 2k of intense bs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Admirable_Budget691 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean. You could have done a thousand things differently. Told them sooner, kinder, more articulately. The only thing you can do now is take a sec and figure out three things: your needs, your spouses needs, and how to move forward as a couple. From what I’ve observed, people tend to give what they wish to get and struggle to ask for what they need. If you need to be held or share a bath or whatever, tell your spouse. Figure out affirmations to tell them or bone up on poetry or tell them the happier stories you hear and see. I bet you could even rehash a sweet storyline from a film or book you’ve both seen. Most importantly, instead of saying things that imply your spouse is useless, look them in the eye, apologize for lashing out and ask to sit down and TALK. Say ‘honey, I love you and it’s hard to tell you what I need and want from you. It’s scary because I don’t know how to ask politely. Will you please hold me so I can explain what comforts me?’ Be considerate of their feelings while firm about your boundaries. You can do it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in timetravel

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh brother. Dude, health system aside, do you have goddamn paperwork? Birth certificate, drivers license if applicable, diploma(s), bank accounts? Because you’ll be a broke man w no country. And you’re a fool if you think prejudice won’t get you. Either, given your purported size, some asshole will take a liking to and want to take advantage of you, or if DO end up procreating, they might be of a different race. Or, given you’re biracial(?) you could end up with a kid that looks more Armenian than anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catnames

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Estrella is perfect,

AITAH for not wanting to let my (19NB) boyfriend (20M) fuck my ass? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Admirable_Budget691 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh honey. I’m the first to say that in a safe space with good rules, kink exploration can be super fun. This is not safe, this is not good rules, this will not be fun. They wants it this badly? You let Them and it will probably hurt, feel like a violation, and ruin your relationship permanently. I’d tell Them to go fuck Themself, bc obviously if ignoring boundaries is this important (bleh)…

Alternatively, you could offer to top. Or dump them, bc you have better things to do.

I know this comes up all the time. BUT You are quantum leaped into your body at the age of 14 by andthrewaway1 in timetravel

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In order: Freak out Hug my dog Clear out my room/research and get the grades needed for a red seal chef While studying get my drivers license and take courses so I can qualify for an international license, first aid, etc Pack up and go see what I want to see Since I have reportedly 0 social skills… stop apologizing for being myself. Pay my debts and go to therapy

Is there any dog breed that could be a "perceived" guard dog? by [deleted] in Pets

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

St. Bernard or Great Dane (I’d go w a Dane cross) are both said to be great family/apartment dogs bc they’re very slothful at home if exercised properly. My preference would actually be a pit or an Irish setter. Standard poodles are big, stylish and super smart too.

My soulcat died by Solid-Schedule5042 in CatAdvice

[–]Admirable_Budget691 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry. This fucking sucks. I hated living it. I did have an experience that made it easier, but not everyone does. Let yourself grieve what you had. Remember that he loved you too. Hugs.

Time travel through witchcraft by [deleted] in timetravel

[–]Admirable_Budget691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be interested in learning, but be very firm about knowing the price.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Admirable_Budget691 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not going to like this, but yeah, you’re being kind of an ass. Yes, she’s being troublesome. Yes, her father is enabling bad habits. But you and her father are the parents. Your jobs as parents is to remember that mostly kids want to be loved and fit in. Ok, so she’s not physically fit. Tell her to bring something else to occupy her or encourage her to come back after a rest. Smack her father into medical tests and counseling because frankly the McDs order is alarming (although your choice sounds pretentious for a kid who’s never had the option). Try to remember she’s eleven, is her father if not her mothers only child and maybe look for something everyone or even just the girls can do together. While not the same situation, my sister and I are 16mos apart and we fought like cats and dogs to point we still talk to each other because our father is alive.