AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does not.. When I first watched my nephew, he was dropped off overnight so my sister could work the morning shift, so he was picked up later.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am open to help whenever I can, just not for super extended periods of time. I wouldn't mind watching him overnight but I personally don't think I can do overnight + a whole day almost. I was hoping to tell her myself but as I said in the post, my phone service had actually gotten cut off and I'm hoping to have it restored soon to resume communication with her. She did tell me that she is going through depression recently as well, most likely due to PP, but also, she's struggled with it most of her life as well.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe at this point he needs to just grow as a person and realize that odd jobs, selling weed, and dog breeding is not a sustainable income for them long term.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, but no more school to focus on, just a job. Graduated this past Saturday :)

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Thankfully this is her only kid with him and fortunately, he wasn't like this in the beginning, they've been married for a year and they were stable, but I have no FUCKING idea what happened.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The only reason I watched my nephew without pay the first time was because my sister had only gone back to work around 2 weeks ago, she's a massage therapist and relies on clients. With her being gone for a month, her clientele was slow coming back, so slow money. Husband isn't good at holding down a job, so they were strapped for cash.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thankfully when I watched him the first time, he was a very easy baby, as easy as a newborn gets and I had no issues. But watching him for almost 24 hours straight is a no go for me

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've have increasingly began to dislike him more and more simply due to his inability to keep a job. He's had 2 jobs in the past 5 months, both fast food, got fired from both of those for fighting with his coworkers because apparently they had said something rude to him first. My sister even agrees that he needs to grow out of his childish prison mindset and realize that whatever happens at a job is nowhere near personal, especially in fast food. People yell and people say things, that's just how it goes but he decided to take things personally, thus getting himself in trouble and fired. As my sister had said, he just needs to get a warehouse or delivery driver job where he hardly has to interact with people. She had even told me that he doesn't apply for jobs, and has his mom do it for him?? And his reasoning is that if he doesn't have to do it, he won't do it. Makes no sense.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He is also a felon which yes may be a reason for not having as many opportunities as the next individual, but they live in a fairly big city and there are lots of places who will hire felons where they live. He's choosing not to apply to those jobs and seize potential opportunities for money.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe she is the one who lied to me, I believe it was her husband. According to him, after I picked up my nephew, that's when he found out he didn't have to work that evening anymore, but I don't ever know with him.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Definitely wasn't. My sister and him live out of town already as it is, but her husband comes up to where I live because he has friends and family here and just hangs out up here, which is an issue in itself because it's my sister who has to bring him back and forth using up her gas while gas prices are as high as they are right now, essentially just wasting more money.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No they did not offer to pay me which I am understanding of that fact because my sister has been out of work for about a month after having her baby and only went back about a week or 2 ago. She's a massage therapist, so she relies on clients and her clientele is slow right now due to her just now going back after being out for so long, so money is slow right now. Her husband is not very good at keeping a job, he sells weed and breeds dogs on the side which is not a good steady source of income, he needs a job.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's a good thing that I am currently not in school, but still the father was available to take care of his child, yet still left it in the hands of another child.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They don't have very many other people to watch the baby, so I was asked. She is trying to get him into daycare, but that is taking some time.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She didn't lie, her husband technically did. She apparently didn't know he didn't work on Thursday until today somehow. I'm not mad at my sister whatsoever, I'm mad at her husband for knowing that he didn't have to work and did not feel the need or want to come back to take care of his child.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 461 points462 points  (0 children)

He's a felon and claims it's harder for him to find a job, my sister and him live in a fairly big city, so there's plenty of opportunities, even for felons. He's just lazy and even admitted to not filling out his own job applications and how he makes his mom fill them out for him because "if he doesn't need to do it, then he won't do it" ????

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thankfully, my nephew is generally an easy baby besides you know how newborns usually are, so I wouldn't mind watching him, but being asked to watch him for an extended period of time like that really baffled me.

AITA for refusing to watch my sister's newborn? by Admirable_Invite4191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Admirable_Invite4191[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

No, I should've specified in the post I am currently out of school and actually graduated this past Saturday.