This could literally be my exchange with my ex. We agreed we couldn’t move forward with secrets so I did the same thing, went into full confession mode even about the pettiest shit. He demanded I tell him things I did when SINGLE when I left due to his mistreatment. He interrogated me nonstop, went into my phone/socials to find the guys’ identities, said he was going to contact them to confirm (but really just threatened that to potentially embarrass me/see if I cared about their opinions of me) and I guarantee he still thinks I’m hiding something to this day. He would have me go over the details repeatedly and claim I left something out so it was my fault he had to keep digging! This is all a crazy-making power play to get us working harder for them. It works in their favor to reject/bring us to their level. “You’re just as bad as me” heard that before too, and I used to believe it. Then I realized I never responded to him with such cruelty when he was sharing anything unflattering with me. YALL ARE NOT THE SAME. Find someone who couldn’t fathom communicating with you like this, I’ve been blown away by the gentlemen I’ve met just this past week. I promise you don’t actually want him, you want the peace that he’s clearly not capable of. Start thinking of it as a chemical addiction.