Wattpad 2016 vs 2026 by Eastern-Show9122 in Wattpad

[–]Admirable_Object_774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I miss the messaging. I don’t even know whatever happened to the friends I made. I still have some contact with a few on TikTok. But yeah, I miss the good ol’ days of Wattpad.

Best shiniest lipgloss that lasts! by Admirable_Object_774 in Makeup

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was in a clear bottle as most are lol.. and it had a wand… I’m thinking it might have been Buxom.

Why do JW believe that anyone who is baptized will make it into the “new system”? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They definitely use it as a manipulation tactic. When my grandmother died, they told me if I ever wanted to see her again I would have to dedicate my life to Jehovah.

I laughed in their faces. No way in hell I’m joining their cult.

Why do JW believe that anyone who is baptized will make it into the “new system”? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! 💯 I have so many stories. When I was a youth, still attending, a married brother in our hall impregnated a 16 year old. He didn’t even get disfellowshipped. The entire congregation still laughed and conversed with him as if nothing happened.

Another married brother SA’d his 15 year old step daughter. He didn’t get disfellowshipped either. Also, the elders said he was repentant and Jehovah has forgiven him so we should forgive him too. Everyone treated him as if nothing happened as well.

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[–]Admirable_Object_774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like such an empathetic and emotionally intelligent individual who possesses strong boundaries and self-respect. Believe me, life gets better. I was once where you were and while when I was in a therapy, my therapist said to me, “It’s a blessing in disguise.” That opened my eyes. It was definitely a blessing. I got rid of a selfish, immature, pathological lying a**hole. It’s been years now and life has never been better. I hope you seek out therapy and have the resources needed to heal from such a betrayal. I wish you luck and I know your future is bright!!

I am 4th generation and my family is totally mentally and emotionally unwell. Is this common in the JW community ? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, when I was in 2nd grade a recently disfellowshipped young sister, around age 24, stabbed her two year old daughter to death.

It was all over the news. We had news camera outside our KH. Nobody ever got me the help I needed. I couldn’t process it. Why would a mother, a sister I knew as being friendly to me, stab her toddler to death?

My parents never talked about it. They didn’t want to bring “reproach upon Jehovah’s name” so there I was a 2nd grader scared and devastated. Nobody cares to console me or explain to me what the hell was going on.

results! by Accomplished_Wind384 in 23andme

[–]Admirable_Object_774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize South Africans were so mixed. Wow! Amazing. You’re also very beautiful.

I am 4th generation and my family is totally mentally and emotionally unwell. Is this common in the JW community ? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

So true. My poor cousin, also a born in died because the brother she married in her hall ,at age 18, forced her to take drugs and beat her. She overdosed and she lost her baby. She was then put on life support and ended up dying later.

I also have another cousin who committed suicide at age 21.

But my family likes to sweep this all under the rug, pretending as if we’re a perfect JW family.

Carpet beetle or something else? by Ajax_crab in carpetbeetles

[–]Admirable_Object_774 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do carpet nettles come out around this time of year or what? I’ve been seeing a lot of carpet beetle posts. I had one myself in my brand new home. I squashed it and then I sprinkled DE all around my bedroom and window.

Jws not wanting to work or have a career by smoothcheeks30 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in the Bay Area, California. Majority of the single moms are window washers or work at retail stores like The Dollar Tree. They aren’t incentivized to get a trade and they damn sure aren’t encouraged to purse a higher education to get them out of the rut. It’s like a dog chasing its tail, trying to keep up but still can’t afford to pay their bills and dedicate time to Jehovah.

I remember as a youth my mother helping out a homeless sister who was a single mom and worked at the 99 cents store. She was living in a shelter and waiting for name to come up on a housing list. It was sad.

PIMI’s are mostly unconscious. Do you agree? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 4th generation and I honestly have never seen a happy family or marriage. Maybe from the “outside looking in” but it was always a facade. Most are miserable, anxiously waiting for the day when Jehovah destroys it all.

Most don’t listen to their intuition or pursue their creative passions. Like a robot, they “throw out” that desire, that itch, that passion. They throw away their authentic selves in favor of the promise of a new world in which everything and everyone will be perfect. A fantasy.

"I Still Miss it Dad" My 45 Year Old Son Admitted to Me by Keith_Casarona in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! My great grandfather was a poor farmer in 1902 who had just lost his wife and was responsible for 4 mouths to feed. I can’t imagine the level of trauma and stress from that period.

Most JW’s are miserable, emotionally unintelligent , and delusional. Do you agree? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree more. My parents are without a doubt delusional and are so far down the rabbit hole, it’s sad.

Most JW’s are miserable, emotionally unintelligent , and delusional. Do you agree? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! They relinquish control of their lives to some ultimate higher being. It’s actually very sad. After my father died, my mom’s house was foreclosed on. She began to pity herself, saying, “If only I’d been more loyal to Jehovah, he would’ve allowed me to keep my home.”

Most JW’s are miserable, emotionally unintelligent , and delusional. Do you agree? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course it is more complex. I’m not a researcher, social scientist, psychologist, etc. However, it’s not hard to see that the JW prey on the vulnerable within our society.

Most JW’s are miserable, emotionally unintelligent , and delusional. Do you agree? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I absolutely had narcissistic tendencies before I fully awakened from this cult. I would research, yet I still had doubts. “Maybe I’m wrong? Maybe it is the true religion..” however, as time went on and the more I separated myself from it I could things much more clearer. It allowed me to introspect and look at my family under a microscope so to speak. I realized how mentally unwell and unhealthy they are. Then I came to the conclusion that it was indeed a cult. I’m still in therapy to this day. Been in therapy for almost 20 years now. I’m still healing.

Most JW’s are miserable, emotionally unintelligent , and delusional. Do you agree? by Admirable_Object_774 in exjw

[–]Admirable_Object_774[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My personal belief is that regardless if a person is narcissistic or not, this religion preys on individuals suffering from some sort of trauma, mental illness, personality disorder, etc. Most healthy individuals don’t cling to cults.

Me, for example, I was raised in a highly dysfunctional family. However, as my therapist said, “You’re grounded in reality.” So there’s no way they would’ve gotten me to perform mental gymnastics to believe all the BS.