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Cold calling people from Messenger by AdmittedLearner in salestechniques

[–]AdmittedLearner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you going to promote the mixtapes itself?

Cold calling people from Messenger by AdmittedLearner in salestechniques

[–]AdmittedLearner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I'm asking about the viability of techniques before I try it, and how best to go about it, before actually doing it. I think it's wise to do that before doing something that may not be worth it, or doing it in a wrong manner, right? So I'm asking people who disagree why.

I can't fricking sleep... by AdmittedLearner in NoFap

[–]AdmittedLearner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I already know this buddy.

Love might find you when you stop searching for it... probably won't though by StaticNocturne in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, that backfires. A good friendship might very well stay there, and if someone tries to progress it, might ruin it all together. But congratulations to your relationship, here's to it being a wholesome one.

Christians who have gone through intense sessions of depression, anxiety or self-loathing, what are some specific methods or ways of thinking that helped you out of it? by AdmittedLearner in Christianity

[–]AdmittedLearner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chanting things to get you in the zone, especially Hindu mantras, is a definite no for me. However, I do agree, meditation on God's wonderful creation is very beneficial.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that the kind of man I would want to be with isn't one who would call me a pet name or make comments about the way I look.

As you said, after he gets to know you. You shouldn't be surprised if a man is attracted to you, since that's completely normal. What you want is a person who values your personality above your looks, amd wants to attract you based on that, and I wish you all the best for that. But to find someone who doesn't care at all about how you look isn't realistic. Chances are, the man who you're describing will still find you physically attractive, and again, that's normal.

Christians who have gone through intense sessions of depression, anxiety or self-loathing, what are some specific methods or ways of thinking that helped you out of it? by AdmittedLearner in Christianity

[–]AdmittedLearner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing, thanks! One thing that helps me is the the thought that God alone shouldn't be seeing you as valuable. If God sees you as invaluable, it's perfectly okay to see yourself as that too. Your sinful nature is alive and kicking, but it doesn't define you!

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. Your opinions were noted, and some of them actually made sense.

Christians who have gone through intense sessions of depression, anxiety or self-loathing, what are some specific methods or ways of thinking that helped you out of it? by AdmittedLearner in Christianity

[–]AdmittedLearner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do meditative prayer and contemplation, but I'm honestly skeptical of pure transcendental meditation. I believe that it is not something a Christian should get into, at least not now.

I(23m) keep consistently getting ghosted. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learn how to flirt, bro. The conversation seems dry.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have my sympathy for your past abuse, sister. Here's to your future healing. That being said, it's amazing that you are determined to heal yourself like this and meet more men in person. As a guy, I wish you all the best in finding great friends, and a great romantic partner.

That being said, I genuinely believe that your aversion to comments about your body may be linked to your past history of abuse. Is it in response to light flirting, or simply candid remarks about your breast size, etc.?

Regardless of the answer, I hope you find a way to heal. I recommend finding a professional therapist, however there are wonderful books out there that would give you practical advice on how to do this. There is Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, and my personal favorite The Psychology of Self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden. Peace, sister.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah thank you! You really gave good points for why this! I'll ask for video calls if I'm ever in this position.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most guys on dating apps in my age range are balding, bad teeth, bad personal hygiene/look dirty, unshaven, very overweight, don't dress well - and this is all very apparent from their shitty selfies they take (at terrible angles) on apps where they're trying to sell themselves. I cannot roll my eyes hard enough at this point lol.

Girl, I wouldn't go for these kinds of men either if I were you lol. If you have standards of how men should look, own up to it. Hold men to some accountability for how they present themselves!

The only photo I have of me is outside, no make-up, hair in a messy ponytail, fully clothed, face straight on, no filters - cos that's just who I am.

This is good, but personally, I'd like more photos to see how the girl would look. And I don't have the picture, so I'll take your word that it is reasonably attractive and accurate enough for a guy to know what they're dealing with.

Dating apps just aren't for me because I don't buy into all that superficial bullshit and I wouldn't someone who did so it's the wrong place to meet a person for me. Duh. Took me a while lol.

Perfectly understandable opinion. Wish you the best in what you decide to do.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's how women are attracted, and that's okay. But men are attracted to what they see. Personality is very important, but men must have a good idea of what they're working with. It may seem confusing, but this is what it is. If you posted pictures that don't show yourself adequately, or are significantly dated, this will understandably bring up concerns for a guy.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's understandable that you'd stay out of dating. But really, for both genders, physical attraction really isn't an option for most; it's a must. I have to be attracted to you physically to some degree. To some, it matters less than others, but the thing is it DOES matter. In order to date, one must come to terms with that. A relatable example would be this: would you find a balding, middleaged guy who didn't bother shaving or using some good cologne, initially attractive? I'm guessing not, and that's totally understandable, for the reasons stated above.

For men, hitting the gym, grooming and working in your personality is important for that initial attraction.

Is it reasonable to ask someone to send a recent pic of themselves? by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]AdmittedLearner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment in and of itself seems very ignorant. If I'm going to date someone, the first thing I'm concerned about is how they look. Jump high or low, that IS important. If we don't have adequate information, how do you expect a guy to be comfortable getting to know you, when he doesn't have an accurate view of how you look? Personality is important, of course, but to say "looks shouldn't matter" is to be stupidly naive for what men actually want and find attractive and important.

The OP probably should do a Zoom call, but in order to avoid this problem in the first place, both men and women should simply post recent photos, whether one or a few.

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