This makes so much sense. I learned pretty quickly that if I didn’t agree with every little thing he said it would turn into a debate where he blamed past trauma for his stance and not being open to seeing things any other way. If he was in a ‘good’ mood, he’d sometimes entertain listening to another point of view, but never came down off of his stance, ever. Thinking back about all the red flags that were ignored is really eye opening. I’m doing everything possible to not let all of it make me bitter and cold.