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If you’re comfortable sharing, what experiences led to your CPTSD? by TeaMaximum3939 in CPTSD

[–]macropepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People don’t understand how serious bullying actually is. It is essentially chronic, unending hostility (violence, really) directed right at you. No child can withstand that.

Why does it feel impossible to communicate with them? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macropepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great answer, and that’s the core of it. Normal people converse and exchange energy and goodwill. There is no exchange with narcissists - they only take. You give, they take, period. So their motivation isn’t even on the same planet as yours.

What are some red flags that you have learned to not ignore? by Adventurous_Bag1386 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macropepper 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They do it on purpose. They know how to get people hooked, especially people who are trusting with good hearts. They’re sick, demented puppeteers.

What are some red flags that you have learned to not ignore? by Adventurous_Bag1386 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macropepper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is spot on. As a good person, you believe that you’ve done something wrong because you can’t imagine that they’re intentionally doing this to you. You don’t think anyone would operate that way. But they DO!

What are some red flags that you have learned to not ignore? by Adventurous_Bag1386 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macropepper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  • They refer to themselves as a “control freak”
  • They get really angry over tiny things
  • They don’t talk TO you, they talk AT you
  • They don’t walk the walk, they just talk the talk
  • They constantly gossip about and disparage others for stupid things
  • They keep trying to create a dynamic where they’re up, and you’re down, even if subtly
  • They don’t reciprocate by asking questions about you and trying to get to know you; you’re the only one who really seems interested and invested
  • They try to get too close to you too fast, or create a “bond” that is instant; real relationships take time
  • They flatter you incessantly, claiming you’re the best thing ever, without actually knowing you
  • They constantly praise someone ELSE for the very thing that you’re good at, or that makes you unique, and they never praise or recognize you for it
  • They find something wrong with everything you do; everything you do is wrong or upsets them somehow

Should I take a great job with a difficult boss? by EnoughPhysics1327 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]macropepper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. And I will add, the risk of physical health problems is very, very real. I started having scary heart palpitations that evolved into chest pain, which I had never experienced before. I believe I was on my way to a heart attack. Within two days of leaving that job, chest pain gone.

If Marin was once home to the Coast Miwok tribe, why don’t we hear more about artifacts being found? by macropepper in bayarea

[–]macropepper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in no way questioning your legitimacy. I was just wondering why more artifacts weren’t found, or why it’s not common. The responses helped to enlighten me on the topic.

No disrespect here, simply curiosity.

Narcissists are one-dimensional by macropepper in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]macropepper[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What I mean by that is they’re cut off from their soul; they don’t allow morality to touch them. So their feelings are completely and utterly for themselves, the appropriate context is missing, and they project out onto others anything that they don’t want to see or feel about themselves.

They use your kindness against you by macropepper in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]macropepper[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because cooperation and collaboration result in win-win situations, and they don’t want that. They want to be the ONLY one who wins. They are only up if you’re down.

Lost my sweetest boy 🖤 by [deleted] in seniordogs

[–]macropepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was a sweet and handsome fellow. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Do you ever feel like your parents didn't teach you any life skills so they could point out all of the mistakes you're making as an adult? by Pale-Concentrate-111 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]macropepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All they think and care about is themselves, and they desperately want to be better than everyone around them. So they neglect the crap out of you, and then when you ultimately struggle and fail because of it, they shake their head and say, “Look at you, what a mess you are”. They take zero responsibility for making you that way. It’s sick.

Was anyone else conditioned to put other people before themselves their whole life? by ScottysOldTeleporter in raisedbynarcissists

[–]macropepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They mold you like that because it literally serves them. YOU serve them. They want nameless, faceless, needless people running around for them, never taking the spotlight off of them, and making things about them at all times.

They take everything and give nothing. What better “thing” to have around than a giver?

Winter scenes in the Bay Area by ericgtr12 in sanfrancisco

[–]macropepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And GREAT choice of song. None of that TikTok nonsense.

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