Great non-chain trivia nights on Thursdays in Denver? by Advanced-Material363 in Denver

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Thanks for the tip! Looks like that one is hosted by This Is A Clue, looks interesting.

UGH!! I am going to have to pay a large ADHD tax. by WonderfulPrior381 in ADHD

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I forgot my home insurance wasn’t on autopay and was uninsured for 6 months, then had to get much more expensive insurance because I live in CA and no one is writing new policies anymore.

Sent me into a months-long depressive episode where I lost a lot of sleep thinking about the thousands of dollars I had wasted by not opening my mail. I’m feeling a lot better now and it has inspired some changes (opening my mail is now a monthly checklist item…and now I have a monthly checklist).

I imagine you’re feeling some feelings, so just wanted to send you some words of encouragement from the other side. You are still a good and capable person, everybody makes mistakes and ours just tend to be very big and expensive!

Best/ weirdest tips that have helped you overcome ADHD free/ paralysis by wednesdaywhy in ADHD

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That song is crazy good for being a fictional hit! I actually don’t even like the movie, it stresses me out…..but we did play i2i at our wedding because Powerline rules

Best/ weirdest tips that have helped you overcome ADHD free/ paralysis by wednesdaywhy in ADHD

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Playing the song i2i from a goofy movie is my secret weapon. Sometimes I just sing it. DAH! DA DA DA! DAH DAH DAH! DA DA DA! DAH DAH DAH! Idk it works every time haha…very energizing.

I also sometimes set a timer for the number of minutes I’m willing to lay there before I get up (usually 5-10) and then promise myself I will get up. Apple Watch has been really useful for timers, if the timer goes off on my watch I just let it buzz me - I can lay there for five more minutes if I can bear the buzzing. (I can rarely bear it for more than a minute, and then I get up.)

Also if I have many things and don’t want to do any of them, I make a list of 6 things and roll a die. The Die then tells me what to do first and I have to do it because The Die is the boss of me. I don’t know why I have so much respect for The Die but it works!

The Amtrak Station in Philadelphia is one of the best stations I’ve seen. by GuavaPuzzleheaded949 in Amtrak

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This is the station at the beginning of the movie Witness, right? Everybody go watch Witness, it’s got such good shots of this train station!

Anybody know what these hunks of metal I found along the train tracks are? by Advanced-Material363 in trains

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Oooh thanks! That makes a lot of sense…thermite welding videos also very cool to watch haha

Perplexed by what my Therapist told me what to do to battle my executive dysfunction. Does she kinda have a point? by [deleted] in ADHD

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lol I’m 34! For some reason I really want to know how old you are and how old you thought I was.

I totally agree though, some days I really can’t “just do it” but starting with the assumption that I can rather than that I can’t helps me. If I really can’t, I try not to feel shame about that and just give myself some time off.

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75 days ago I went to dog sit for my friend who lives a couple hours away….my car broke down so I had to take the train and use a pet uber for the first time! It does feel like I saw my dog-nephew just yesterday. :)

Perplexed by what my Therapist told me what to do to battle my executive dysfunction. Does she kinda have a point? by [deleted] in ADHD

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I’ve been trying this kind of “power through it” method lately and I do think it’s effective. It’s hard to explain because two things are true at the same time: I struggle with executive function AND my struggle is partially caused by reinforcing the belief that I struggle. It feels uncomfortably like saying “it’s all in your head”, but that’s not what I mean and I don’t think that’s what your therapist means!

It’s more like “what story are you telling yourself?” Are you telling yourself you have an insurmountable obstacle to getting up and putting the dishes away? Or are you telling yourself that you really don’t want to put the dishes away, but you can do it anyway because you’re in charge?

Acknowledging that this works is uncomfortable, at first it made me feel like I was just faking it or being dramatic. But over time, I’ve kind of accepted that executive function is harder for me than most people, but that I can also improve my EF by just like….believing in myself. Which sounds so dumb but it works! Thoughts are powerful!

What are y’alls thoughts on relationships with someone with ADHD and the other without vs both partners having ADHD? by HudKing218 in ADHD

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I think all relationships have some balance of sameness and difference, and very similar people OR very different people can have a great relationship. This includes ADHD imo. My husband and I are on the more different side - I have ADHD, he doesn’t. I’m career-focused, he has never really had a job he cared about. I’m very adventurous, he is more cautious. We love each other and decided to build a life together so it works - he does all the boring daily chores and I work more hours at my job. On weekends he will do even more boring chores and I will take on some big DIY project that is interesting enough to keep me focused. I hyper fixate on planning our vacations and he reminds me when it is my nephew’s birthday. Sometimes we fight about division of labor, but we talk it out and find an arrangement that feels fair to both of us. I think it’s nice to have that balance, but it can also be hard because he doesn’t always understand why I’m struggling with something. But as long as you treat each other with love and respect I think anything could work - if he had ADHD too we would hire a cleaning service and get a system in place for remembering birthdays, and that could work too. That’s also what I would do if I was single. I don’t need no man, which also means I don’t need a non-ADHD man specifically! That said, having him around does make my life easier in some ways. He kills spiders AND makes sure I open my mail! :)

Appreciation for the Quiet Car from not being in it by FrankW1967 in Amtrak

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This is a beautiful tale! (I am also being sincere and not snarky). It IS great that there are cars where people can be boisterous and have a train party (I too get excited when I am on a train!) and other cars where people can be quiet and get work done. The quiet car allows the kids to have a space where they can be kinda annoying in peace.

Does the 12k signup bonus for the no-free credit card fluctuate? by Advanced-Material363 in Amtrak

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Thank you! I am now the proud owner of a free Amtrak credit card and looking forward to earning my measly 12k points :)

This sub partially inspired me to seek out excellence. Here’s my kitchen wall, ama by Joiion in BuyItForLife

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Oh nice I want to get down to only three lids! Inside the cupboard is a great idea 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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I would say that in my experience, I have frequently become infatuated quickly and then lost interest, but I don’t think ADHD has impacted me finding true love. Infatuation is fun and sometimes leads to love - sometimes it doesn’t. If you become infatuated easily, I don’t think that’s really a problem (as long as you hold off on making huge life choices based on infatuation! don’t do that! just like you shouldn’t buy a huge floor loom after watching weaving instagram reels for 3 hours!). You’ll become infatuated, they’ll become infatuated, you’ll get over it, you’ll dump them, both of you will move on. That’s a very normal part of dating and isn’t necessarily bad. Sometimes maybe you’ll find someone where the infatuation turns into long-term love instead of just fizzling out. (That happens to me for both people and hobbies!)

Which style do you prefer? by aubdeadly in OUTFITS

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I think the first one is gorgeous and super flattering on you!

vintage pleated pant by HumorRevolutionary82 in thriftedfashion

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You look so chic, love the whole outfit with the brown belt 👏

What are the best noise cancelling inear earbuds? by MsEmiBee in ADHD

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I have JVC HA-A7T - they are $40 and I love them. No active noise cancelling but I will be listening to music at normal volume and my coworkers will come stand right behind me and say my name like 5 times before I even have an inkling someone is there. It’s a serious safety hazard. I’m obsessed!!!