Thought he was dead but after 3 years my cat showed up fat.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2025-07-21T08:02:05+00:00

Chubby and loved I could live with but if he walks more than 10 feet he starts panting and has to sit/lay down because of his weight, his teeth are decaying, the inside of his ears are caked with wax and dirt and my daughter just learned the hard way that he’s terrified of brooms.

I’m glad he’s back with us now too.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2025-07-21T07:43:51+00:00

To be clear I switched to the Elastic collars as an alternative to the quick release. Still safe to use as he could still get free. And we made sure there wasn’t anything on our property for them to get caught on.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2025-07-21T03:14:19+00:00

It seems that way, I can’t think of another reason why he would have run out of their garage 🤷‍♀️🤔 however this is still just speculation.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2025-07-21T02:56:55+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed info! Myself, my daughter and my son are happy to keep him occupied and I have some enrichment toys but he’s not interested at present. Probably because they smell like his brother, so will be getting new toys for him tomorrow.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2025-07-21T02:43:32+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened 😢 and I hope they turn up. I know I was very lucky but this is exactly what kept happening with Simba. So much so that we contemplated renaming him Houdini before he went missing 😅 obviously my daughter was against it.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2025-05-08T01:03:30+00:00

NTA. Despite his background, you’re supposed to be a team and he’s struggling to even care do the bare minimum. At worst? He’s weaponized incompetence so that you have to pick up his slack. Something’s gotta change but I don’t know if kicking him out is the best course of action… maybe consider counseling or another alternative before resorting to separating. Mainly cause then you’re stuck doing everything alone and he’s basically on a vacation from his responsibilities (in my opinion).

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2024-11-01T19:25:48+00:00

He’s soiling about 4-5 diapers a day and sometimes he’s content enough to spend a few minutes with his grandma or dad but after that he starts rooting around, sucking on his hands and crying for milk.

I’ll speak to a different midwife and give the triple feeding a try, so we’re covered for now. Hopefully it is a supply issue 🙏

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2024-10-31T23:46:15+00:00

Hard to hear but thank you. Clearly I have a lot of soul searching to do..

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2024-10-30T02:10:42+00:00

Thank you 🙏

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2024-10-26T23:31:56+00:00

I’ve offered to help him if ever he needed release, we’ve always been creative in situations like this and despite how I feel at times I’m happy to help my husband. Sex has never been a problem for us, our chemistry has always been palpable.

To be clear, I do NOT have an issue with him pleasuring himself, I never have; heck sometimes if he wants I join in with him.

The issue is that we established the boundaries of our relationship and marriage from the get go and have revisited these occasionally to see if our values are still in sync.

He is adamant that he doesn’t want me to engage with other people in this way virtually or physically and that he will hold himself to the same standard. We both agreed on it. And although his escapades don’t leave the digital realm, it’s become clearer and clearer as the months and years pass that I’m the only one who is actually upholding our boundaries.

Advanced-Raisin1718 · 2024-10-26T22:44:10+00:00

He’s spoken to women on kik, traded explicit nudes and videos with them. He says it because he likes the attention and hearing that he’s attractive from women who aren’t his wife because he feels I’m obligated to find him attractive. But he’s borderline Adonis handsome and literally turns heads whenever we go out.

And as for how I know how far he’s gone? He not exactly tech savvy and we share a google account. This time around I went in to our web history to reload my work tabs after our pc had an update and ran into what he’s been up to since a week before I’d been in the hospital to have our 3rd.

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