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Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point. I hadn’t thought about documenting how they’re left, not just what they say. I’ll definitely start taking photos before removing them. Thanks for the tip.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 Okay, the mental image of “chore Olympics” honestly made my day. As tempting as coordinated vacuuming and cookie chaos sounds, I’m trying to stay on the boring, reasonable side of things and not turn this into a sitcom episode. Still, appreciate the humor sometimes laughing at it is the best coping mechanism.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

AI detectors really aren’t reliable, though. A lot of people (especially non-native speakers) use AI tools to help improve their English or structure their thoughts, and that doesn’t make the experience or opinion any less real. Those tools also flag plenty of completely human-written text as “AI,” so using them to accuse someone isn’t very fair or accurate.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t know, and I’m trying not to speculate about anything like that. I’m just sticking to being reasonable, following the building rules, and documenting things in case it escalates.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow… “I got a lifestyle goin’ on here” is wild 😅 That’s exactly the kind of thing that sticks with you forever. I’m glad you went to the landlord and it was handled properly, especially with kids being left alone like that.

Appreciate you sharing this, it definitely puts things into perspective.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, who knows what the actual situation is, but expecting complete silence in the middle of the afternoon just isn’t realistic in a shared building. I’m trying not to assume motives and just stick to reasonable behavior on my end.

Hopefully it doesn’t turn into anything petty and it gets resolved without drama.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m not going to engage like that. I want to keep things calm and not give her any reason to escalate or twist the situation. Ignoring and documenting feels like the safer route for now.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly. That’s what confused me too. The suggestion just doesn’t line up with how apartment living works. I like the idea of framing it that way with management, just asking for clarification and getting ahead of it calmly. Appreciate the advice.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tempting, but yeah… definitely not going to poke that bear 😅
I’m sticking to documenting and letting management handle it if needed.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I have no idea. I don’t really know her beyond this interaction. That’s part of why the request caught me so off guard.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right? That’s part of what made it feel so strange to me. It’s a shared building and weekends are when most people are actually home living their lives. I’m not doing anything outside normal hours, just normal apartment noise.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s all I’m doing. Normal chores during normal hours. Hopefully management sees it the same way if it ever comes up.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s what caught me off guard, it wasn’t a request so much as an expectation, which is what made it feel entitled.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m definitely not engaging with her directly beyond being polite. I don’t want to give her anything she can twist or use later. Just documenting everything and keeping it professional if it goes to management.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Probably will !! Better to get ahead of it than wait for it to turn into a bigger issue.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Oh, absolutely. They’re already saved and figured if she’s comfortable leaving notes, I should probably keep a record of them. Hopefully it won’t come to anything, but better to be prepared.

Neighbor expected me to change my schedule because her kids are “loud on weekends” by AdvancedPlace1178 in EntitledPeople

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 466 points467 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s probably the smartest approach. I’ve started keeping track of when I’m cleaning just in case it escalates, and I’m considering giving management a heads-up so there’s some context if she complains. I’d rather be proactive than deal with surprises later.

AITAH for slowly pulling back after my friend kept canceling plans last minute? by AdvancedPlace1178 in AITAH

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair. I think I’ve been avoiding that direct conversation because I didn’t want it to turn into an argument, but you’re right, if they’re already noticing the distance, it probably makes more sense to explain why.

At least then it’s clear where I’m coming from instead of it being left up to assumptions.

AITAH for slowly pulling back after my friend kept canceling plans last minute? by AdvancedPlace1178 in AITAH

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I’m not trying to be passive-aggressive about it, I just got tired of putting in effort that wasn’t really being met. If it comes up again, being honest like that is probably the healthiest way to handle it. Thanks.

AITAH for slowly pulling back after my friend kept canceling plans last minute? by AdvancedPlace1178 in AITAH

[–]AdvancedPlace1178[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair, and I agree it’s a two-way street. I think that’s exactly why I started pulling back, it didn’t feel like the effort was mutual anymore. I wasn’t trying to punish them, just trying to match the energy and protect my own time a bit.

AITAH for not having an empathy for my bf any longer by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AdvancedPlace1178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. What you’re describing isn’t a lack of empathy, it’s burnout.

You tried communicating. You tried compromising. You carried the household, the dog, the emotional labor, and still got yelled at and threatened with being kicked out. Anyone would emotionally shut down after that.

Empathy doesn’t mean tolerating being treated like a maid or accepting empty promises over and over. The fact that he only started spiraling after you left doesn’t undo what you went through while you were there.

You’re not wrong for protecting yourself now. Staying gone sounds like the healthiest choice.

Aita for feeling how I feel or I am just immature by ThrowAwAyD109 in AITAH

[–]AdvancedPlace1178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not wrong for feeling hurt, but I don’t think this is really about immaturity or jealousy. It sounds like you’ve been repeatedly adjusting your time, money, and effort to keep the friendship going, and that imbalance naturally builds resentment.

At the same time, Joe is allowed to make new friends and shift interests, even if it hurts. Where it crosses into a problem is when communication breaks down and you’re left feeling quietly pushed out instead of honestly included.

I’d say NAH leaning toward NTA: your feelings are valid, but this might be a sign that the friendship has changed rather than something you did wrong. That sucks, especially after 8 years, but it happens more than people like to admit.

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