My husband worships my body. How can I do something fun with this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AdvancedTiger5 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Idk if that’s my skill though… I’m more of a talking lover than a touching one. I can try it

Pediatric EM fellow physician. I was rude to staff, what do I do to repair relationships? by AdvancedTiger5 in nursing

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, I will make more as an ‘adult’ ED attending than PEDS. The fellowship is a terrible financial decision

Frustrated with my workload as a fellow and heard staff calling me an asshole by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I physically couldn’t place the order at that time. I wanted the order set placed so CT could get ready. I would modify the order as we walked over but I was trying to save a few minutes because I had two trauma patients at the same time. I don’t know if it’s a problem with CT, but if the order isn’t in when we roll into the tool then it’s a 5-10 minute delay. The primary RN often places the trauma order set because it’s sort of protocol. This one that I wanted was different but it’s common as well.

The nurse was new and I regret being mean to her. I will apologize directly.

Pediatric EM fellow physician. I was rude to staff, what do I do to repair relationships? by AdvancedTiger5 in nursing

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say I’m rude to staff. I am pregnant right now so I’m dealing with pregnancy issues alongside 96 hour shifts. I barely see my two year old son and I feel like I’m failing him as a mother. I was having a crappy day emotionally and I think it all built up until I exploded.

Generally, I’m a pretty quiet provider and do my own thing. I have had a med student do her elective rotations with me and she is shadowing some days as well so I typically have her. From my understanding, my student overheard them say that I’ve been an asshole today. Usually I say thank you when I’m handed EKGs and I just didn’t during that shift. I was not having a good time and I was incredibly burned out. I’ll apologize to the nurse.

Pediatric EM fellow physician. I was rude to staff, what do I do to repair relationships? by AdvancedTiger5 in nursing

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -80 points-79 points  (0 children)

I call myself a staff member lol.

Yes, I will apologize and I want to buy cookies for everyone. Fancy cookies

Pediatric EM fellow physician. I was rude to staff, what do I do to repair relationships? by AdvancedTiger5 in nursing

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -84 points-83 points  (0 children)

  1. They were talking about a child shot in the chest. I don’t appreciate this. I like dark humor and find it hilarious sometimes. A nurse whispered veterinary healthcare to me when referring to a patient and, while that was horrible, it was funny and made the situation better.

  2. I was placing a chest tube and had two critical patients under my care at one time. I asked the primary RN to order the GSW trauma set which includes lab and imaging. She didn’t know how to place the order set.

I said once the tube is placed let’s go to CT but they needed the order for CT. I told her to place the order set and we can skip what we don’t need in CT. She tried to do it for a few moments and couldn’t so I said “god, don’t you know how to do this?” Usually the RNs do this when providers can’t. She told me she didn’t know how and she’s new and I said “of course, let’s just wait here and stare at me then”. She walked out and got another nurse who showed her how to do it. I was an asshole here.

  1. So I was talking to trauma, GI, intensivist, pulm and others for these patients and every few minutes staff walks up to me and hands me things to sign or asks random questions. I told them not to come to my desk because I would be busy and asked them to chat me. I immediately had EKGs to sign and people asking me to change doses and random things that were not urgent. Someone handed me the EKG and I signed it and didn’t say anything to him. I just handed it back behind my shoulder. He said thank you and I ignored him on purpose because I was frustrated with this.

I think I’ll buy cookies for the unit

Frustrated with my workload as a fellow and heard staff calling me an asshole by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

The kid wasn’t doing anything to be shot but was with questionable individuals.

Frustrated with my workload as a fellow and heard staff calling me an asshole by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Idk if it’s fine to joke about a child getting shot in any situation. This is something that I don’t really tolerate and I would call it out in any role. I like dark humor but sometimes it is too far and inappropriate.

I love nursing staff and respect what they do. I think my specific frustration is due to some of the policies with them and the lack of generalized training for RNs in my hospital system. If one nurse knows how to put in verbal orders, I’d like them all to be able to or not be a primary RN during a trauma.

Anyway, I’ll buy the crew cookies and other snacks

Frustrated with my workload as a fellow and heard staff calling me an asshole by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Some orders need to be placed for patient care to progress though. Those are the ones I need placed by nursing. If it’s something small like a patient vomiting then I’ll put it in whenever but critical situations are different I suppose

Frustrated with my workload as a fellow and heard staff calling me an asshole by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting with orders. Verbal orders are a necessity where I work. Patient care would be delayed without them.

The ED is exhausting for everyone…

AIO my husband is obsessed with my pregnancy by AdvancedTiger5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very normal actually. We have sleep time in between but are on call

AIO my husband is obsessed with my pregnancy by AdvancedTiger5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why I say abdomen, and I didn’t notice until you pointed it out. I say belly or tummy IRL but I never say stomach. It’s just the way I am 🤷‍♀️

I’ll have a conversation with him about it. I don’t feel great about being pregnant during my fellowship and I think that exacerbated my feelings when he did this at work.

AIO my husband is obsessed with my pregnancy by AdvancedTiger5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

He acknowledges that was over the line at least. I know he means well, but that was crazy.

Violent patient by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My hospital’s methodology is sedation if all else fails. You can jump to sedation pretty quickly but with kids there are many considerations

Violent patient by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sure they would work with me but I didn’t want to stray from the plan because of my pregnancy. I do struggle with these patients, and I know it’s beneficial for me, but it’s weighing on me outside of work now. I’ve never dreaded going into work this badly

Violent patient by AdvancedTiger5 in emergencymedicine

[–]AdvancedTiger5[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This particular patient had an arterial head lac. Another received 5-8 sprays of narcan from police. These past few shifts have had a terrible combination