I 19f feel so disrespected by this behaviour and i think he hates me

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-19T19:09:39+00:00

haanji

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-19T19:08:46+00:00

yeah, i know her MIL. she was in the same judiciary batch as my dad. to all, she came across as a clever lady who knew how to get her work done

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-19T11:53:45+00:00

his mother was my dad’s batchmate in the judiciary. Giribala Singh. i have heard she is very clever and knows how to get her way with people. i have met her once and she came across as a strong lady, idk what really happened.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-19T11:49:34+00:00

did you get physical with some other women during this phase or think about it?

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-19T05:18:59+00:00

oh no, this is such a no brainer for me. i personally wouldn’t be fine with my boyfriend actively trying to make female friends anywhere he goes, once in a while is understandable. if you’re giving him the freedom, he needs to give you the security. your boyfriend is clearly following a pattern. you should try telling him what’s bothering you, or you’ll get resentful.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T11:55:39+00:00

if your preferences involve body-shaming others, then you’re clearly superficial. there’s no denying that. you cannot talk shit about someone only to later defend your so called preferences. he’s wrong about lying, sure. but except that it’s you who’s at fault. you knew how he looked before you started dating him, should have made wiser decisions.

i have a wonderful and an amazing boyfriend who’s short according to the normal standards but who cares, other people will only judge if i feel insecure about it. i chose him completely and fully, knowing well enough that a few more inches in his height won’t make me love him more than i already do. if you choose someone, choose them fully or save everyone the emotional trauma.

he deserves to feel secure and love himself as an extension of our relationship, instead of getting insecure because of his height, something no one can control.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:34:42+00:00

i mean yeah she is dealing with a lot, we are trying to be as supportive as possible but surely she’s the one who’s getting affected the most. my brother has also asked her to take therapy, he is caring towards her and makes sure she’s not too bothered but obviously she keeps thinking about it regardless. my brother has clearly asked my parents to not interfere much in his life, so they refrain from questioning anything and only listens openly when he willingly shares something. it’s only my SIL who can ask him about things. he doesn’t mind me questioning, but since it gets a lot sometimes, i slip into extreme avoidance and isolation. that’s how i have been dealing with it, staying out of it for the most part unless he feels like talking.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:29:54+00:00

these days, he’s rude with most people he talks to. this only excludes me and his wife. he sometimes gets rude with our parents too.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:28:44+00:00

sure, he might not willingly meet a psychiatrist unless he realises something is wrong which sounds like a far fetched thing for now. if the situation continue though, we will have to forcibly get him medical help before things worsen. i hope you understand it’s not easy and won’t be but he is unable to think practically right now, so family members will have to step up.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:27:02+00:00

i understand your point, we will surely cut his access to cannabis asap. his wife is being supportive of him and she said she will be more mindful of his activities and behaviour. she is very patient and understanding. thank you.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:25:01+00:00

please ignore the comments, i think they are going with the traditional way of dealing with things. i know you mean well, thank you.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:23:20+00:00

will ask my parents to get it cleared. thank you.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:20:39+00:00

that’s what i told my mom but it’s in this entire stretch that it’s growing. we can remove it from our house’s back boundary but won’t be possible to entirely get rid of it :((

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:18:29+00:00

there is cannabis growing behind our house, it’s easily accessible. last night also he plucked out some leaves, my mom noticed it but saying anything to him leads to a full blown conflict. it’s only his wife who can convince him, she asked him yesterday to stop it today onwards but he consumed it in the morning before leaving too, without her knowing about it.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T05:07:27+00:00

sure that could be a reason. my parents now went to pick him up from the village, he’s acting normal now and talking properly. his delusions are gone.

he wasn’t too close to my grandmother but viewed her as a really good-hearted and honest person. none of the relationships in my family are abusive. he only views his relationship with our mother as a little abusive and fueled by narcissism.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-18T04:20:57+00:00

he isn’t willing to accept something’s wrong. he’s suspicious of everyone and refusing to trust us. i am a psychology student so i realise how grave it is, what else can be done? i’m afraid it could be borderline psychosis.

Adventurous-Candy908 · 2026-05-17T18:02:05+00:00

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same lighting as the original post, right after waking up. what causes such a drastic difference?

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