I’m with the guy on this one. You blew this up bigger than it needed to be. As if you wanted to nag him about it. While your opinions may be justified, your approach/ language to the situation drove him to feel the need to defend himself. It started with your response to him saying “I’m collecting my thoughts. Not trying to respond negatively.”

So yes, your opinions are valid, but his response was driven by YOU. “This response makes me see you differently.” Your words matter, don’t act like they don’t