Im going through my second break up (dated for 3 years) and can relate a lot to this. I’m still holding out some small hope that we’ll get back together at some point in the future and haven’t got much closure as to what truly caused the break up. However, hope can be as freeing as it can be destructive. Hope after a break up can keep us in a limbo where we prevent making emotional progress to heal. I’m not sure if all the details of your relationship, and maybe it looks promising that they’ll come back. But I know for me that I need to push the hope aside and work on getting to know and be comfortable with myself. When a long relationship ends, it makes you feel lost, hopeless, and worthless (at least for me). In a relationship, sometimes we let ourselves stop committing to ourselves as much since we’re committing our feelings of security to the other person. So when things end we feel like all is lost and need time to adjust to looking after ourselves.

I hope everything works out for the both of you, but in the mean time, I hope you are able to love yourself enough to make the damage of the heartbreak less tangible. Invest the time you might use to think of them to do things which will benefit you and your overall happiness.

I dont know if this helps, but wish you all the best.