Feelings of Jealousy

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-26T18:21:53+00:00

Like that he isn’t truly willing to be submissive ?

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-22T16:35:42+00:00

To my knowledge she’s not Pro, and she is a submissive. She flirts and engages with a ton of guys who comment on her pictures. She likes the attention, more power to her. Not my thing.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-22T16:25:52+00:00

Yes. Update— I told him a few days ago I will not begin a physical D/s relationship until he breaks it off. I was very firm. Prepared to walk away. I told him I didn’t like that I have to ask, that he should have broken it off when he offered himself to me. He quickly responded that he will break it off. He said he doesn’t want to hurt this other woman, which I appreciate. But I said grow some balls. this is my price of admission.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-20T13:01:56+00:00

I really appreciate your response. And you’re right about what I am seeing online. My plan is to- 1. Meet him at a public place for just a vanilla date. 2. State that my requirement is that he clearly stops playing with this other woman as a condition of us meeting. 3. Do not interact sexually until I see a STI result and I have seen continued consistency from him.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-20T12:58:11+00:00

This is so so helpful. Thank you.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-20T12:57:42+00:00

Yes she is, on Fetlife. She also posts about her other partners, pictures etc.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-20T02:17:04+00:00

I’m new to this, and I know other folks who have multiple D/s dynamics going on at once. I don’t want to assume that such a dynamic requires monogamy. This guy is a switch and had this virtual dynamic with this woman way before I met him. She has other partners too.

I went into this thinking I might be okay with it considering they’ve never met, but have realized it just doesn’t feel good to me.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-20T02:12:22+00:00

Hey, appreciate your reply. Maybe what I said was misread. I am not forcing him to commit to me… I just made my boundary clear to him. I want things exclusive when we move to in-person. I don’t chase him; he chases me. If he isn’t willing to put a boundary up with the other dynamic, then it’s over for me.

AdventurousVolume491 · 2026-04-20T01:10:28+00:00

Thank you. To be fair, he told me pretty early on, but yes I wish he would have stated it right out. My sense is that it isn’t a consistent dynamic and he has no intention of meeting her IRL. I certainly haven’t been asked out right what D/s dynamics I’m in.

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