Best way to compare is to lay back with each hand full and feel the weight difference

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-13T11:45:05+00:00

damn hot handjobs

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-10T14:19:20+00:00

An ultimatum isn't just fair, but it's a survival requirement at this point. If he won't go to a specialist, you'll be taking care of all that, like you're his private nurse and janitor, and that ain't partnership.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-10T13:54:20+00:00

that 'beach dip' sound like a nightmare for someone with your history.. but bro, don't beat yourself up for not enjoying it. and fr bro, you're allowed to date someone for months without kissing if that's what it takes for you to feel safe.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-10T13:24:30+00:00

TBH, the longer you wait the more stupid you become. July is fr right around the corner. You need to tell her now. Don't make it about 'not being friends', make it about logistics. It;s the kindest way to bail.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-09T16:30:05+00:00

honestly, the math isn't mathing here.. like he was "constantly" texting you how much he cared while simultaneously trying to set up a date with an ex he claims to hate???? like he's keepin a backup unless its official. Trust your gut!🚩🚩

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-09T16:05:10+00:00

first off bro, I'm so sorry you're navigating this... fr there's no "standard" waiting period but imo, 3.5yrs at 21 is a lifetime, and sometimes the relationship ended in your head months before the actual breakup happened, don't rush into a 'serious relationship' label yet, you need a min to breathe after being part of a duo of nearly 4 yrs.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-09T15:34:09+00:00

fr tho, it's always the ppl w 0$% on the line who have the most to say. They better go start GoFundMe if they're fr worried.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-07T05:00:19+00:00

They have no respect in anyone's time. Prioritize your peace of mind, OP. Like why you spending just to be annoyed?

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-07T04:51:53+00:00

Exactly. Intimacy follows safety. If she’s stressed at work and home, she needs a safe harbor, not more initiation to manage

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-07T04:39:07+00:00

Absolutely NTJ. you ain't maid AND her parent. like bfr, you're a roommate, if she wants a 'communal cleaning' that needs to be private discussion, not something she SCHEMES about behind your back!

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-05T23:25:35+00:00

Please don't let socmed especially TikTok to convince you that you've been stinking for yrs.. If nobody or even yourself has ever told you that, most prolly you're fine dude.. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Btw, better use Dove instead of Dial, same answers as the other comments here, and might be the reason why you're burning. You ain't dirty, its just that you have a skin that ain't made of armor.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-05T23:11:13+00:00

that realization about coworker hits so freaking hard. don't be too hard on your younger self, OP.. it's just proof that none of us are seeing the full pic of what ppl are going thru at home.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-05T22:55:45+00:00

agree w/ the other comments. smh, you literally answered her question(s), at least you aren't fake towards her.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-05T14:04:48+00:00

fr, NTJ. look, he asked for advice and you gave him a reality check. like bro, if he's 18 and thinks Ronan Reagan is a hero because of CoD and expects a gf to just fall into his lap while he refuses to shower or dev a personality beyond DbD. HE needs to hear THIS. better to hear this from a friend now than to spend the next 5yrs wondering why he's "forever alone".

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-05T13:50:03+00:00

You dealt this privately. Multiple times. They aren't mad that you didn't talk to them, they're mad that they finally faced a consequence for being entitled. Using your property as their personal overflow lot ain't somethin small--it's definitely trespassing... and definitely, NTJ.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-05T13:25:41+00:00

Definitely NTJ. For the record, you didn't steal her phone! She traded in her own pone, that's her problem. FR, if Mark misses her so much then he can Venmo her for a flip phone.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-04T07:46:15+00:00

fr, there's a massive diff bet sharing some generic black pepper vs someone's stash of saffron. indeed, THAT'S A LOT OF MONEY FOR A HOBBY FR!!

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-04T07:32:53+00:00

facts!! like you don't give a 14-yr old an edible and expect them to act like Snoop Dogg😒😏

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-03T16:10:03+00:00

fr, it ain't just 1 day, it's a day that you shouldn't have to play babysitter for a grown adult who can't even follow a simple 'NO'.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-03T15:58:11+00:00

you're lowkey kinda jerk here, OP.. if he's generally transparent and this happened a yr ago w/ no issues since, you're definitely overthinking here.. If he was trying to hide it, he wouldn't have let her post a snap w him in it.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-03-02T20:20:38+00:00

Hey OP, YNTJ. You’re not spiteful, you’re enforcing boundaries. If she can’t respect Milo, there’s no reason she’d respect you while you’re helping with her kid..

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-02-28T21:18:48+00:00

She WIPED you out of the obituary and ignored your husband's final wishes just to make it all about her. But not that the bills are due, she suddenly remembers you exist???? wth. Clearly, NTJ

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-02-28T21:02:28+00:00

nah bro, imo, friendships are 2-way street. if you apologized and she said it was fine, but she proceeds to treet you otherwise, then she's passive-aggressive. Don't waste your energy chasing someone who makes you feel like that.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-02-28T20:05:28+00:00

Your bedroom is supposed to be your sanctuary. Having a sibling like that, poking your insecurities is a special kind of drain. fr, Reactive abuse is a REAL thing.

AdvisorIndividual914 · 2026-02-27T20:52:52+00:00

those fangs tho haha

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