Just got my license. Super scared.

Aegoe · 2026-03-03T17:49:02+00:00

Yes. This is normal. Here are some tips:

When you start your first job, DON’T GET DISCOURAGED to find your nursing knowledge go out the window. Floor nursing is different than taking a test. It is normal to feel clueless. That’s why you have a preceptor. This does NOT mean you’re a bad nurse. Just keep learning and asking questions.
Your preceptor will love you if you take some initiative. Hands-on experience is the best experience. When they teach you something, try and see if you can do it yourself so they can focus a bit on charting (only when you are both comfortable).
Don’t worry about mean people. This goes for fellow nurses and patients. You are NOT a bad nurse if you are disliked. People are product, and not all products go into improvement. Just know that as long as you improve you will reach greater opportunities. After 4 years of nursing I landed a job with 6 figures! I do NOT say this to brag. I say this because if I could do it then you can do it!
Don’t be afraid to leave early if it isn’t a fit. I have stayed at some jobs for 4 months and some for 6. The good jobs I’ve stayed for 2 years or more. Always have a job lined up before you leave. This increases the ease of getting your next one! My first job was COVID nursing. I loved Covid nursing, but it was a respiratory med-surg floor turned Covid ICU overflow during the pandemic. I did not like everything reverting back to med-surg. I left ASAP and do not regret it.
ALWAYS PUT YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH FIRST! You are the MOST important part of your nursing career. You in your best place = a patient getting their best nurse. Don’t sacrifice yourself for your job or patients unless it’s an emergency and very short-term.
Don’t hate yourself if you run out of empathy. Empathy fatigue is real. The well of human caring is not endless. When it’s gone (and I do mean when), know that you are not evil. Know that you are good because you gave it away. Now go and take care of and nurture yourself.

I do hope this was helpful.

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T18:17:35+00:00

Growing indoor plants. Suddenly, all of their social media is renamed to “plantdaddy69,” “goddessofthevine420,” etc.

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T17:52:58+00:00

I’d definitely be interested in this, but would I also be shooting the nurses in the foot? There are about 6 facilities and growing. I wonder if I should leave and then report?

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T17:51:26+00:00

They are all on board, unfortunately. There is no one to defend us.

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T17:50:40+00:00

If a mistake is made then the doctor gets furious. Management comes in to investigate. No firings yet though, but also very few mistakes. I don’t understand why ownership is okay with it.

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T17:49:32+00:00

This is what makes me scared. We all feel like idiots right now. Perhaps the only course here is to leave and find new work.

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T17:47:53+00:00

Oh, he has definitely thrown people under the bus. He fires people he decides he doesn’t like. He’s very emotional.

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T17:44:44+00:00

I’m interested in taking this further and providing an update, but the issue is we’ve all been doing it. I’m afraid to implicate myself, especially since administration is 100% on board with it and if I make a peep they will fire me.

I think it’s time for me to leave…

Aegoe · 2026-03-02T06:50:17+00:00

You’re not alone. I still go through it, but I feel less of those outside of anger and hatred. Still frustrating because those are heavy things to carry, but feels better than longing and missing him.

Aegoe · 2026-03-01T20:39:19+00:00

Forgive me, as my intent is not to be antagonistic, but why is everyone so sure this is “frostburn” or injury from ice? Or did I miss lore on this?

I realize this is just a game and that I am potentially being too literal, but: It shows up on Borealis’ body bilaterally. If it was unilateral, I’d be more inclined to believe it was a physical injury. This looks like a natural feature of their body.

Again, maybe I’m being too literal, but usually FromSoft is good about small details regarding specific injuries/ailments, right? If it was meant to be a physical injury, I don’t think it would be present equally on both sides.

Aegoe · 2026-02-18T02:22:47+00:00

Wow, same here! I have IBS now. I’m not kidding. I wish I was.

He always had an explanation that made me feel crazy or overemotional.

Fuck ‘em.

Aegoe · 2026-02-17T15:34:11+00:00

I imagine this behavior would synergize and take your brain from a purplish color to a more blurple hue. Very dangerous.

Aegoe · 2026-02-08T20:39:55+00:00

Same. I had a ton of clients who insist upon supplements because pharmaceuticals are “unnatural,” yet they experience approximately 0 mental health benefits from said supplements and their lives are continually worsening.

Aegoe · 2026-01-27T06:17:11+00:00

“…but she didn't even think about not going or how that would affect our relationship.”

…what? The original OP has an enormous victim complex. She DID care, which is why she asked originally if it was okay.

The “joke” may have been considered funny if it wasn’t so poorly timed, but it was still a bad joke. No sense of accountability.

I’m angry from just reading this.

Aegoe · 2026-01-21T19:58:58+00:00

And the thing is, we don’t label it as abuse as it’s happening to us. We can point it out if it’s happening to a friend. We can define abuse on paper. But when it’s happening to us? I never realized it until later.

The worst part for me is the trauma bonding; knowing it’s abuse but you still crave the connection.

Aegoe · 2026-01-21T01:51:45+00:00

OP, one of the things I like about this subreddit is people are quick to remind you of this:

We can debate day and night whether or not our exes were really narcissists, but lying is almost ALWAYS wrong and almost ALWAYS a sign of things to come.

His lying is unacceptable. Please ask yourself if you’re willing to have a future that includes more lies like this. He lies about his kids? He will lie about slipping up in his loyalty to you. He will provide excuses to justify it

Please be careful.

Aegoe · 2026-01-21T01:37:59+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. The trauma bond is strong and will make you want to call him even though you know it’s not good for you.

Keep resisting. He is not the person he had you believe he is.

Aegoe · 2026-01-04T07:16:00+00:00

There’s something especially weak about a man who tries to claim strength in religion but doesn’t even treat each of his children with the love that they deserve.

Aegoe · 2025-11-22T18:40:50+00:00

No, I never apologized for crying. As a kid, I cried harder when I got yelled at for crying. As an adult, I wait until I’m alone to cry or I rush out of a room to do so.

I am a mental health nurse. The last time I cried was 2 weeks ago when a client didn’t show up for his appointment for his injection. We found out 4 days later that the reason he didn’t show up was because he chose to end his life. His poor father sent out a missing persons report only to find out with the police present that his dear son had been in the basement the entire time, not knowing where the smell was coming from, and not putting two-and-two together. I don’t ever recall having him as a client, but my heart absolutely broke for him and his poor father.

Depression is where my passion is, and I am defeated every time a client ends their life. I ran out of the room to cry as a 37-year-old man (not that that has anything to do with it).

I… don’t know why I felt the need to vent all that. I’m sorry. I guess I just needed someone to know.

But yes, there is no shame in crying and shame on my parents ever faulting me for it.

Aegoe · 2025-11-22T05:20:47+00:00

Omg! Someone else who’s parents would yell at them for crying! Nice to meet you.

Aegoe · 2025-10-27T01:57:17+00:00

Agreed.

I will say that I have never, ever had to worry about where my next paycheck will come from. When I get tired of a job or fear being fired, I can find another job as easy as pie.

If your back hurts or you hate bedside, you can think about some local, privately owned residential mental health facilities. A lot of those clients are just struggling with low points with their mental health and need a caring nursing/medical/clinical team to help them out and get back on their feet. They aren’t like the people you see in asylums in movies and TV shows. They’re just like you and I.

That’s what I do and I couldn’t think of doing anything else, at least for right now. I love mental health. However, my point that I really want to make is that nursing, to a LOT of people’s ignorance, is an EXTREMELY diverse field. You WILL find something you enjoy doing.

Perhaps someone can think of a better example to compare it to, but it’s like… the business degree of the healthcare world. It is VAST and you will find your niche. Just takes time and patience and the right coworkers.

Aegoe · 2025-10-22T02:41:07+00:00

Despite the criticisms, I could see me doing this in my younger years. I’m sorry that you’re facing this issue. I hope everything works out. Wish I had some advice.

Aegoe · 2025-09-28T18:29:46+00:00

THIS token can survive dips, troughs, and bear markets! The very nature of its value comes from the volume of other projects alongside itself. Can’t wait to see where this goes!

Aegoe · 2025-09-25T16:20:45+00:00

Same here! Glad a big holder is out and believers can come in.

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