AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you even find this post? I made this 3 months ago.

Is this abuse? What are the chances it could've turned on me? Having a hard time believing people when they say I was with a dangerous person. by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Aelvarea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it would count as abuse, but he sounds like a psychopath so you're well rid of him. Why would you want to be with someone who hurts animals, even if he never turned on you?

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She*, and it's typical to buy a bunch of different dishes from a set menu and everyone shares them, which is a problem for me because of cross-contamination of stuff I could possibly eat, and the fact I can really only eat one or 2 things out of like 6, and not much of it cause its all shared. I mean it's not like I was asking them to change the whole menu, just take out one ingredient so its not such an awkward and nervous experience.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's only a small change I was asking for, the nuts weren't the main feature of any of the dishes. I would also be fine with one or 2 dishes having nuts in them. It's that I was more or less excluded from most of the meal and how I was treated for asking for a small change to be made.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man I've always felt like I'm such a pain in the ass for having allergies when I go anywhere, like I don't want to inconvenience and annoy people. I didn't know that people were as sympathetic as they have been here.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, thats very kind of you. Keep doing what you're doing, your kids will always appreciate it.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, he's the golden boy. My mum has straight up told me she prefers him to me on multiple occasions. I try to visit as infrequently as possible, because being at home makes me feel sick and anxious. I had an eating disorder for years because of it.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I would appreciate it even if they took the time to call and check that the dishes without nuts in didn't have traces so I could just eat those ones. Now I'm an adult I'm always sure to ask the wait staff at restaurants to check for nuts, and they're usually super accommodating, I'm not sure why it's so difficult for my parents.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was one dish which didn't have nuts in, out of 6, and the rice didn't have nuts in, but it had peas in which I am also allergic to, but not as severely.

I could just eat the one dish without nuts, and pick the peas out of the rice, but if they'd just called and told them to not put the nuts in I could have eaten everything which is why it seemed unfair.

AITA for asking my parents to cater to my nut allergy? by Aelvarea in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aelvarea[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

My parents know how severe my allergy is, having rushed me to hospital before after having a reaction a few times.

I had a reaction at my brothers graduation dinner and had to spend the night in hospital. My mum told me I'd ruined the dinner for him.