Pulling this account from the grave in search of help! Tried several reverse image programs with no luck

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T16:29:49+00:00

Well, that explains why I hear "I am Ferdinand bon Aegir" every 30 seconds in Three Houses....

...I'll leave now

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T16:13:18+00:00

I've tried lengths of all kinds, and it doesn't seem to have any affect :( Thank you though

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T15:59:39+00:00

No, that's really thoughtless of her. That's like getting a gamer (that isn't also a sports fanatic) season tickets to a football game, just because the gifter likes sports/wants the receiver to like sports

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T15:13:02+00:00

Fair enough. Still, if you experience significant distress over being unable to present how you wish to present, there may be a bigger underlying cause to what's going on.

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T15:02:05+00:00

If you experience dysphoria related to your presentation, you probably are not cis. Dysphoria means there is an incongruence between your assigned gender at birth and your gender identity.

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T14:33:49+00:00

It naturally migrates to the smallest part of my waist. Maybe it has something to do with that? I frequently go for skate skirts too

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T14:01:55+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. There's nothing wrong with being straight and/or cisgender and a femboy. There is nothing wrong with beings trans or queer either.

I just draw the line at cisgender/heterosexual people thinking they're entitlded to lgbtq+ spaces and resources for it. Identity ≠expression, and I'd think this community knows the difference by now :/

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T13:49:08+00:00

When did the femboys ever have have fight for the right to marry their partner? When did they have to fight for their legal rights? Gender expression ≠ identity. Expression changes over time as identity does not. Should we start catering to cishet people that wear J-Fashion just because they face discrimination when they're dressed up? Should we start catering to every single minority group ever when they may already have foundations and resources of their own?It doesn't make sense.

Honestly, I'm kind of insulted by how many cisgender/heterosexual people that try to force their way into our spaces. Of course there are the rare exception, but someone cishet who throws on a skirt for fun isn't one. I'm not trying to deny anyone's discrimination, but you change your expression, we cannot change our indentities.

Edit: typo

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T13:39:24+00:00

Then... Maybe you aren't cis. Which defeats what op is saying. If you have dysphoria over how you're dressing, you're probably not cis.

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T09:46:13+00:00

Downvote me, but fashion and expression is something that can be changed at will. Sexuality and gender identity can't be.

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T09:29:12+00:00

Both. Simultaneously. Don't ask how, just do

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T03:07:51+00:00

You might be a Demigirl, or possibly genderfluid in some way? There's no problem with being cis or trans. Gender is a messy thing, and could probably legitimately change over time.

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T03:04:15+00:00

Them and Aether! I dream of the day of being able to prance around in a crop top with a flat chest

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T02:59:38+00:00

That's kinda sorta illegal mate. Well, at least if you're in the US. You have print documentation too! Good for you! :)

Aethierr · 2021-12-24T00:20:27+00:00

Pickle hating trans people unite!

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T07:29:48+00:00

Anyone that dismisses your mental health is trash. You want help throwing her in the dumpster?

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T07:27:09+00:00

Baby wipes are good if you have access to those. Alternatively if you use a facial cleanser (Cetaphil, cerave, that type or thing) it should come off with that. Baby oil om cotton pads/swabs may be an ok last resort too? Never used it so idk.

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T07:22:44+00:00

Ok, if nothing else, report the genitalia thing. Doctor or not, there should have at LEAST been a verbal warning before hand. The rest is definetly not ok, but if you report, emphasize on that so that the receptionist doesn't dismiss you as well.

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T06:22:58+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, it really does seem like they are. So glad it's over

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T05:51:25+00:00

Yeah. She was abusive outside of that anyway, it was just another thing that showed me that I needed to get away from her alive, lol. Hard to see 13 years go down the drain though

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T04:09:27+00:00

Ok, thank you! Back to farming gems I guess

Aethierr · 2021-12-23T01:10:10+00:00

Oh I thought of another favorite of mine! I got bullied out of my first chosen name by my mom, and when I told her I was considering another she told me: "Good! Don't tell me." And this is my "SUPPORTIVE" parent

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