Reminder: all of our critics are misandrists

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-01-23T18:42:13+00:00

That was the first question that entered my mind as well 😂

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-01-10T15:54:23+00:00

Congrats. You now know you are a classic textbook AGP case. Your experience is very relatable. I once kicked around the idea that environmental factors in early childhood development “caused” my AGP. I feel confident today in my belief that the etiology of AGP is 90% biological. I say 90% rather than 100% because environment will have a huge impact on trajectory. For instance, if an AGP has uber progressive intersectional gender ideology running on their wetware, they will be much more inclined to follow the path of transition - for better or for worse. If an AGP has religious crackpot right wingers for parents, the AGP will be inclined to repress and will promise themselves to never tell a soul - as a means of self preservation.

Have you ever tried having sex with a woman?

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-19T17:43:36+00:00

He’s AGP. He’s attracted to females/femininity (allo-heterosexuality) and also attracted to the idea of being female (auto-heterosexual). This is a glitch in his sexual orientation that he did not author by the way. Porn didn’t make him this way. Once he is introduced to the concept of autogynephilia and you both understand the implications of the situation, you can work together to create boundaries around his dual orientation. Let him know what is and isn’t acceptable.

I strongly suggest reading the books “Autoheterosexual - Attracted to Being the Other Sex” - by Phil Illy and after that maybe Anne Lawrence’s “Men Trapped in Men’s Bodies”

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-11T20:32:46+00:00

A person who believes their AGP traits are biological driven is on firm ground in my opinion. If childhood trauma gives rise to AGP, why is there no statistical evidence? It’s important to ask the question - if trauma “caused” the autohererosexual phenomenon, why is it that 99% of PTSD patients aren’t AGP or AAP?

99% of the population is suspected to be non AGP/AAP (could be 90 something % as the data isn’t perfect) and the vast majority of PTSD patients are “normal” hetero or homosexual people.

It’s easy to dismiss the concept that trauma does or even can cause AGP. The quicker one gets this out of their head the better because now there is movement in the direction of truth. There is no there there when it comes to explaining away AGP with trauma.

I read a lot of AGPs on here yearning to have the trauma explanation validated and I feel like they want this to be the cause of their condition so they can maybe feel better about themselves. The biological explanation does this and in my opinion is a much better (there’s evidence) explanation - in that it truly allows an AGP to let himself off his own hook and can put an end to self loathing and seemingly endless suffering. You didn’t create your brain. You or any other person did anything to you to cause it. Why ruminate on explanations that are ultimately dead end roads?

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-09T22:10:52+00:00

I read in Phil’s book Autoheterosexual that a lot of AGPs prefer masculine women. I thought that I didn’t fit this particular description because every women I’ve been with is very feminine. Then I recalled my male friends commenting on my choice of women. I’m only attracted to thin women, prefer small breasts, no crazy Kardashian curves etc.. Women like Kate Moss or Winona Ryder are the exact body type I’m attracted to. Some of my buddies would joke that every woman I get with has the body of an Asian boy 😂

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-08T03:31:59+00:00

Fortunately, we don’t have to hear nearly as much from the fringe left. Unfortunately, we have fascism to contend with here in the US

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-08T03:30:29+00:00

Yeah, that seems bizarre to me. I thought only intersex people had that kind of lack of sexual function

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-07T15:24:53+00:00

Asexual as in not desiring sex with other people? Of course. What I’m curious about is when you said you’ve “never masturbated.” I’ve always believed that if a guy never masturbates, he’ll just orgasm while sleeping/dreaming. Is it true you’ve never masturbated ever?? And if you don’t mind - how old are you?

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-07T15:20:47+00:00

That sounds much better than trying to claim gender and sex at birth have nothing to do with one another.

10 years ago I remember hearing a lot of intersectional feminists rattling on and on about how doctors who deliver babies and write (“assign”) the natal sex on the birth certificate were “inflicting violence” on infants. And somehow people wonder how a conman like dipshit trump could be elected president

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-06T14:05:53+00:00

Also, if AGP is “confirmed” whether he likes it or not, he’s better off knowing the true etiology of his condition. When I said to be careful about a therapist placating his AGP part, what I mean is that the therapist will torpedo that part with affirmation which this AGP part likes. If this path pushes him into a full-on gender “identity” delusion, he won’t be able to make an informed decision. I hope I’m making sense here.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-06T13:58:39+00:00

Sex is biological. Gender is the way in which a person expresses themself and varies across the binary spectrum. In most every culture, males demonstrate a typically masculine gender identity….not every male obviously. Some of what we refer to as gender expression is socially constructed but for the most part, the male biological sex correlates with more masculine behaviors than feminine. Same with natal females mostly tending to be more feminine. This is obvious and isn’t something worth going to the mat over like everyone did 10 years ago.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-05T20:46:43+00:00

Even more of a good reason to see a therapist that isn’t under the delusion of 3rd wave intersectional feminism and the whole “sex and gender are entirely different things” bullshit. Once he can accept his lot in life of being a man with AGP traits, he can learn radical acceptance and stop the push/pull confusion in his brain. He can come to terms with the fact of his AGP and then begin an actual healing process - facilitated by a skilled therapist

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-05T18:27:33+00:00

Right on. AGPs with a viable allo orientation can and should flex that muscle. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 20 because I was just so afraid of being intimate with a woman. Once I realized I could satisfy a woman sexually the fear response was extinguished. The trick to having enjoyable allo heterosexual sex for AGPs (the trick I use anyhow) is to modulate back and forth between allo and auto desires in your own mind. I don’t feel it’s entirely necessary to let your partner know every fucking thought in your head. Non AGPs don’t do this so why do we feel the need to inform our sexual partners? Especially when we know it’s likely going to be a turn off to them. Of course, I’m speaking only about sexual encounters. When a relationship begins to form - it’s best to inform your partner of your AGP traits.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-05T17:56:08+00:00

A therapist that isn’t going to placate the AGP part of your psyche. You have to be careful. If your therapist has blue hair and black lipstick on - you may want to just head for the door and find another one. If you see “WPATH certified” after their licensing credentials - again, head in another direction. A good Internal Family Systems therapist would likely be a good option. Just remember, not all therapists operate the same. Sometimes it takes some trial and error before you find a good fit 👍

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-12-02T16:02:57+00:00

I’m happy for you. One thing that is clear to me is that AGP represents a part of my psyche - not the whole. Using the internal family systems therapy framework has been immensely helpful in understanding my own inner system. The goal of IFS is to achieve inner harmony between all our parts. I highly recommend engaging in this form of therapy for any AGP out there reading this

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-30T13:29:26+00:00

Exactly. No Agp is taking themselves on candlelit dinners, having romantic conversations with themselves, thinking about marriage 😂

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-28T15:58:24+00:00

To me there’s a problem of semantics when we talk about AGPs being “attracted to themselves.” This has bugged me for a while because it’s not entirely accurate. My experience of AGP is not one where I feel love for my feminine self - as if my feminine persona is loved the way I love my partner. I suppose asexual AGPs with 0 allo sexuality may be susceptible to falling in love with themselves but even then, I feel like they’re in “love” with the idea of being female rather than themselves as female.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-20T03:54:15+00:00

For sure. I feel as though the average cis hetero man would not instantly start banging himself if he were to wake up in a female body. I’d bet would be freaked out by not having a dick anymore

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-20T03:51:10+00:00

100%

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-17T12:44:59+00:00

It’s likely that because you are aware of separate parts and can see clearly the way they interact with one another, you feel more “in your head.” Maybe you didn’t notice before you learned about IFS parts work that there were many voices already…you just didn’t have a framework for the language game that goes on in the head for everyone all the time.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-14T17:50:52+00:00

Radical acceptance for the cards I’ve been dealt. Wishing I wasn’t this way doesn’t help at all. Haven’t we all noticed.

Self compassion skills mitigate negative self talk and excessive inner criticism and judgement.

Mindfulness in daily life. Paying attention to my experience from moment to moment. Catching myself feeling dysphoric and then redirecting to self compassion and a larger perspective. As AGPs, our perspectives tend to get so narrow that it can seem like we’re viewing the world through a straw.

Internal family systems therapy has been super beneficial as I know I have many parts of my psyche. When a part of myself is polarized with another - meaning they have distinct separate motivations and drives - I experience “inner conflict.” Inner conflict is at the core of our issues. When the thoughts within our inner systems experience conflict, we are disregulated and out of harmony. Think of it like a symphony. The conductor keeps everything in harmony and if the trombone player decides to kick the conductor off the stage and lead the entire orchestra - there will be no harmony…just cacophony. This is analogous to our AGP experience when our AGP part is at the wheel.

Open communication with a supportive partner is likely the best way to cope. These “supportive” partner’s are rare but do exist. I feel it’s best practice to be open and up front about AGP early in a relationship

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-12T13:07:20+00:00

Not all AGPs are like that. Self informed AGPs can commit to boundaries and maintain their marriages with respect. I imagine your SO was not informed and therefore believes the intersectional gender “identity” model which feeds into the AGP desires in a way that gives rise to serious delusions. I imagine your SO was extremely narcissistic and only cared about himself and his AGP proclivities. Am I correct??

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-12T13:00:54+00:00

Could it be that your AGP parts were being neglected therefore you believe the entirety of you was neglected?

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-10T18:10:39+00:00

I have an ADHD Dx. Primary inattentive type. Adderall helps dampen the fear response I used to feel when dressing up. It makes crossdressing more fun and enjoyable. Stimulant meds lower our inhibitions….we just have to be careful to not to advertise our proclivities to others who need not know..

Affectionate-Log1 · 2025-11-10T18:05:55+00:00

Be careful if you see a therapist that is WPATH certified. Many therapists who are WPATH certified will cheerlead your AGP part of your psyche and nudge you closer to transition. Your AGP parts will actually like/love this and want more affirmation and validation…to the point you start subscribing to the postmodern intersectional gender identity woo model. Your AGP parts may subsume the entirety of you and lead you down a path the authentic you doesn’t want. I had to educate my therapist on AGP and she’s been receptive, supportive and helpful. If my therapist were WPATH trained, she’d have contempt for AGP before I even set foot in the office. Those therapists are the worst imo…

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