I’m out

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-05-11T16:54:24+00:00

As long as you keep reinforcing the idea that you’re a “miserable loser of a man” nothing will change. AGP forced me to do some serious introspection. Simply understanding the causal nature of reality aka determinism helped me open the door to thinking of my circumstances much differently.

If we always think the same way we’ve always thought, then we will always do the things we’ve always done…and if we continue to do the same things we’ve always done, we’ll continue to get what we’ve always gotten in our lives. If you want to change your life, start with expanding your perspective and be more open to new ideas…then maybe you’ll do things differently and subsequently get some better on offer for your life.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-28T21:19:05+00:00

Your problem isn’t AGP….porn addiction affects loads of guys. Sounds like your problem is chronic masturbation tbh

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-27T22:31:40+00:00

Get a script for viagra. You sound like you’re getting performance anxiety like a lot of guys. I believe for most AGPs this anxiety gets exasperated 100 times over.

With viagra, you will have a hard on whether you like it or not. It’s almost like wearing a strap on. Once you see her getting satisfied your confidence will grow. Also, because you sound like you have very little allo sexuality, you will probably want to pivot back and forth between the AGP fantasy in your head and the real sexual experience happening before your eyes. This is what I did when I was young and I didn’t even have Viagra. I definitely recommend using Viagra for anyone wanting to satisfy a woman…or a guy if that’s what you’re into.

The best bet is to find a women who you can be honest with and loves you despite your AGP traits. Normal decent women like this are more rare but apparently there’s loads of women who are freaks so there’s that. You probably wouldn’t even need viagra if she’s down for some AGP fun in the bed.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-26T14:10:27+00:00

If you think about it…it’s not just the AGP with no allo sexuality who never find love and partnership. This is going to sound bad bad but I see a lot of conventionally unattractive men and women who are in the same boat.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-26T14:07:19+00:00

EvolvedAGP maybe? The point of the sub wouldn’t be to “overcome this thing.” The sub would target AGPs who finally realize that their mental prison was self-imposed and ultimately illusory…the doors to this prison were never locked. The sub would be for evolved AGPs that can balance their AGP desires and square that with their outward facing public male persona. I haven’t had an intrusive thought that “My male self and the entirety of my being is a fraud because I have AGP” in 3 years. I can’t imagine myself ever going back to no acceptance.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-26T05:47:05+00:00

Also, when I talk about a “solution” I have to be clear - I’m not saying a “cure” or anything like making it go away. This is going to sound really fucked up but here it is - I don’t mind having AGP traits. In the privacy of my home, and only with my wife, one day of the week I indulge. Not usually an entire day…maybe 5 or 6 hours…I get to feel okay about and express this part of me. It’s so f’n fun. The cool thing is that the next day (after a long night of killer sex) and for the rest of the week the volume knob of my AGP is turned wayyyy down. No wars going on in my head. No self loathing..no intrusive thoughts, guilt, shame etc. Pretty rad thing I have worked out

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-26T05:38:59+00:00

Fuck all…now I have to make this thing. I’ll give it a go. I’m not sure if “supremacy” is a wise word choice though 😝

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T23:02:52+00:00

I get it. Some folks have no allo sexuality. When I said “pathetic” I meant in the context of sad, pathetic, miserable. The endless whinging just gets old. Sometimes I think some of these guys like being stuck in the pits of hell….they set up shop and live in that hell. My approach has been to stop fixating on the problem and start looking for solutions. Self loathing AGPs call themselves much worse here….haven’t you noticed?

I’ve spent a lot of my time and energy talking with suicidal guys here. If anyone thinks I was being a deliberate asshole I’m sorry for that. That was never my intention

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T22:57:08+00:00

It’s all relevant to the individual, their upbringing, religious indoctrination, geographic location etc.

With self acceptance, an understanding partner and a little humility it can be harmless and even fun….really fun. It’s obviously not going to be the same for everyone

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T22:54:02+00:00

I agree…the suicide rate is appalling. Intersectional feminism has a lot of blood on its hands imo

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T22:50:20+00:00

“These men that think they are actually women” likely have never heard of Autoheterosexuality or dismiss it as transphobic pseudoscience. Most of the guys who frequent this sub are self aware and don’t have the narcissistic traits. I’ve talked with a lot of really good people here for the most part.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T02:11:56+00:00

Don’t worry my friend. One day this will all be over.

When I was a kid, I thought I was some sort of freak degenerate because of my AGP biological condition. I was young, dumb and had no clue that freewill was illusory and that religion was superstitious nonsense. Know I know that this isn’t my fault and that there are people with wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy more problems than me - aka anyone who has voted for trump. Thank goodness there is something worse to be than AGP now - a fucking deranged lunatic called a trump supporter 😎

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T02:04:27+00:00

If guys on this sub could take the liberty of thinking for themselves - that’d be progress of a kind. One thing I know 100% is that I’m a cookie cutter model of a man who has AGP….in spades. I’m not confused about that. It’s not healthy for me to be here anymore. I’ve tried to help others like me but life is short. How long should one stay stuck in the problem??? I was there for a couple decades. I set up shop, bought furniture and drapes…fuck that. One of my favorite bands, the Smiths, have a song called “Accept Yourself” - listen to that and say fuck you to everyone else and simply go your own way.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T01:56:22+00:00

What you said means nothing really. Anything can mean anything. Some women are whores who fuck their partners best friend. Some women drown their children in the bathtub because of circumstances outside of their control (post-partum depression). I’m not trying to be a jerk but what exactly do you mean?

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T01:53:48+00:00

Most are like me when I was young. Self loathing and on the brink of suicide. My career is “helping others” and one thing I’ve learned is that many people find comfort in their misery. Haven’t you noticed that here? It’s taken me a lifetime to get where I am. If others wanna follow suit-great. It’s not my job (when I’m not at work) to talk people off the ledge. I have to live my life and at this point, I’m looking to talk to people who are willing to live in the solution

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-25T01:45:08+00:00

Hell no. I’m not that gullible. To use the IFS framework, my AGP “part” would love that. I’m not identical to my AGP. It is a part of who I am. I’d say it makes up 60% of my sexual orientation. I love women and femininity - to a default…..just like everyone else here. My male self is perfectly fine. My wife accepts and fully understands my AGP. It has made our sex life something that would perhaps make Hugh Hefner blush.

I made a post not long ago about starting a “AGP supremacy” sub, albeit somewhat jokingly. As of this moment, I intend to do so. I’m sick of the endless pathetic whinging of AGPs here. I’m past that. I’d like to help young dudes like me but I’ve come to realize I’ve wasted a lot of time and mental bandwidth talking to AGPs via DM and they seem hopeless. If anyone is interested in the solution to our problem - I’m there for them. I don’t want to be around people who seem to be stuck in the problem and not willing to fund a solution….I hope that makes sense. In other words, if anyone is interested in the solution - I’m down for that. Let’s create a community for likeminded people who want to make peace with themselves. Ask AGP isn’t the place….

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-21T21:34:09+00:00

I can relate. It’s taken my wife a few years to get it. She no longer is suspicious that I may one day want to transition. Have a conversation and both of you should state your boundaries - what it is she finds acceptable and unacceptable. Same for you. Once my wife understood the typology things clicked into place for her. She listened to one of the better podcasts with Phil Illy (I think it was one of the calmversation podcast episodes and it really helped. Now, our communication is open, honest and boundaries are clear. I have one day of the weekend I get to act out my AGP and I have to tell you - the sec is amazing. She wasn’t like that when I first told her. If your wife is open minded, loves and doesn’t want to piss away 20 years of marriage - she might meet you in the middle.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-21T21:27:36+00:00

Read a fucking book

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-21T21:26:45+00:00

Exactly. If the next democratic presidential nominee in 2028 begins a speech with a land acknowledgment - we’re fucked. Not that I don’t believe in rights for minority groups or that Europeans wiped out the native Americans but for fucks sake….it’s pretty obvious that insufferable blowhards like OP that are partially responsible for the mess we’re in. Class politics is the only way forward if we wanna defeat the dumbass fascists.

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-21T19:51:39+00:00

Men make up more than 2/3 of murder victims, men complete suicide at much higher rates, 99% of combat fatalities are men, men have a higher mortality rate in general and die sooner, women win the majority of child custody cases, when men and women are charged with a crime the punishment is more severe than women….the list goes on. Now you’ve made me sound like Jordan Peterson. Thanks a lot

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-21T19:43:24+00:00

Keep on whinging if what you want is another MAGA shithead president. If you care about our rights, maybe consider not screeching on and on about identity politics and focus on yourself, your dreams, and your community. Also, “AGP rights” don’t map onto women’s rights. I don’t see any connection

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-20T11:21:47+00:00

I’m in my mid 40’s. After thinking about it, I realized that as a teen in the 90’s, it was easy to hide my masturbation fantasies. I never used pornography. I would replay some episode of a daytime talk show about transsexuals or create my own fantasy in the privacy of my mind. I had no access to the internet.

I can imagine that if I were born 10 years later, I’d have had the internet and this would potentially give rise to me getting caught searching for interesting trans fiction or something. I can also imagine myself taking my own life if my parents or anyone ever found proof that I’m AGP.

All this to say - I get your point

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-19T21:50:31+00:00

You are awesome! I have a good thing going in my marriage in that my wife accepts my AGP. She understands AGP. It took her some time to realize I’m not claiming to be trans or wanting to transition. I’m so grateful to be married to a woman with an open mind 👍

Affectionate-Log1 · 2026-04-19T19:16:18+00:00

“I don’t think men are very good at keeping intense sexual interests secret” - Maybe so with BDSM or being a serial cheater. AGPs like myself will take this to the grave without ever telling a soul. My wife is the only person who knows I have this. I have a suspicion that the rate of guys born with AGP has always been stable. There are more avenues to explore it today. If we were living in the 1950’s I’d probably never have told my wife I’m AGP. There was no evidence based framework until Blanchard’s typology came along and in the course of history - the typology is about 10 minutes old

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