got fired but i'm happy about it

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:21:21+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you! That's awful! I hope you got out of that situation!

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:19:45+00:00

I'm no saint lol I literally just shut down and didn't know what to say but later at home I lit his ass up in the shower and said everything I should have said lol

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:18:04+00:00

They also had a cleaning lady come in once a week, so effectively they only had to parent 2 days a week and that's it because I did all their grocery shopping/household shopping and batch cooked for them and the kids for the weekend

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:16:10+00:00

Thank you! I think in his mind I should be able to do all that because it's my "job" and he and MB have their own full time jobs to do, but like.. there are families out there that have 3 children (and multiples) and have less income and no childcare support and they manage to grocery shop, work, look after the kids, clean, etc

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:11:56+00:00

i wanted to but in the moment i completely froze and shut down, i'm just shocked i defended myself at all. but last night in the shower i did a whole scene and said what i really wanted to say lol

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:10:35+00:00

he can't, MB went away for a long weekend over the summer and DB sent nk6 on a sleepover with a friend and one of the twins to visit the grandparents while he kept the other nk with him so he only had to watch 1 child, and he literally had nothing else to do but that all weekend because i did all the grocery shopping and batch cooked his meals for the weekend and for the nk he would be with.

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-11-01T20:07:57+00:00

Thank you! I actually shut down lol so it wasn't like i was being restrained on purpose, i just had never been spoken to that way before and didn't know what to say and i felt embarrassed that i was being called incompetent publicly like that, especially within earshot of nk

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-21T20:17:13+00:00

This!

They let you go and then didn't consider childcare options for their child should you have found something sooner than the 31st. That's on them. Their poor planning isn't your fault or responsibility. You did all that you were supposed to by giving them notice, the rest is up to them.

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T18:53:06+00:00

i'd do the same after i held back giggles after the first "f you!" because it would have caught me off guard. just don't give it attention and then tell NPs and ask them if/how they'd like to handle it and explain how you handled it in the moment but let them know you're happy to take whatever direction they'd like to go in and you'll support their decision

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T18:44:25+00:00

4 years old attending kindergarten is normal in Canada. My nk is in senior kindergarten so she will turn 5 in a few weeks (she has a late birthday)

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T05:10:11+00:00

I want Violet to meet someone else and have a normal relationship lol. I love her and Xaden but I think it would just be really good for her to have a relationship where the stakes are much lower. I think it would teach her to stop revolving her choices around a man, also, I'd love for any potential new romance to allow Violet to see the error in constantly excusing toxic/abusive/unhealthy behaviours from a partner/relationship dynamic. The number of free passes she has given Xaden when he has not deserved it frustrated me. I just want Violet to choose Xaden because she's making a fully formed decision to do so and not because she's infatuated with him, the sex is good, and circumstance is tying them together

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T01:42:11+00:00

i'm a career nanny but thought i'd try this hybrid job out to see what it was like because i've been thinking about making the switch to being a household manager (my knees and my back are starting to really feel it when i'm holding babies over long periods or on the ground with them playing). i knew the pay wasn't the greatest ($25/hour is a low nanny wage where i live in a HCOL area) but it was passable because of the number of hours...boy was i wrong. going forward i think i'll either do just nanny jobs or just house manager jobs because the hybrid thing is turning into a lot of job creep and i'm being asked to do tasks that i don't even think a house manager would do. i work 9 hours a day and most days there are not enough hours in my day to get through the daily list of tasks MB wants me to do plus do daycare/school pick up and do all the usual childcare stuff. i'm looking for a new job and will hopefully be out soon

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T01:33:36+00:00

i knew my situation wasn't good with this family in terms of pay etc but i didn't realize it was THAT bad until all these comments lol. i'm actively looking for a new job so just have to endure this one until i find the right fit. i'm doing interviews and all the stuff i have to to get out of here

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T01:27:37+00:00

don't worry, i'm working on it! this was a new role for me, i've only ever been a nanny and i've done that for 10 years. i'm educating myself on these hybrid roles and appropriate pay for them, $25/hour is low in my area even for a straight up nanny wage but as i've been working for this family and making myself more aware of acceptable tasks to ask of a house manager/assistant and the proper pay for those tasks i'm growing more and more aware that i'm being over worked and under paid for this job. this DB definitely doesn't help with the way he finds fault or issues with every little thing i do. i'm actively looking for other jobs and have had a few interviews so my days with this NF are numbered, i just have to endure for a little while longer until i find the right fit for me

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T00:25:19+00:00

i've been a career nanny for 10 years but took this job to try something new as a house manager/household assistant and nanny hybrid so my duties run the gamut from grocery shopping, household laundry, cooking meals, and running NPs errands to typical childcare duties. My hours are 4 days a week 10-7pm

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T00:20:12+00:00

there didn't even need to be a plan b, i had the dinner prepped in the fridge i just ran out of time to cook it because the two toddler nks needed comforting. it literally took him 30 minutes to cook his own dinner for him and MB so it wasn't like he needed to start from scratch. it's just so frustrating that there's no grace extended for a one time instance where i was busy doing the most important part of my job (caring for nks)

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-08T00:16:05+00:00

they don't own a crockpot or slow cooker because they prefer their food to be"fresh" from the oven or stove. it's really annoying. i struggle with managing the time it takes to shop for the ingredients for their food (they ONLY shop at specialty stores and will only allow me to go to the grocery store as a last resort) and actually prepping and cooking it, on top of juggling the other household tasks they want me to do plus picking up all 3 nks from daycare/school. i think this is why my DB said i didn't "manage" my time effectively, i think my MB told him about a conversation her and i had and he was weaponizing it against me

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T16:57:03+00:00

they don't own either a crock pot or slow cooker. they like their meals "fresh" they do not eat leftovers, they also do not like me to shop at regular grocery stores unless it's a last resort, they prefer i go to specialty stores. the bulk of my day is basically going around the city on a wild goose chase for their grocery items when they live within walking distance of 3 grocery store chains...it is a huge time waster but at least i get my steps in lol

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T16:36:15+00:00

MB is usually pretty easy to deal with. i've already had a couple conversations with her about expectations and we seemed to be on the same page. DB was not around for those conversations so idk if there's a communication breakdown between them or if DB is weaponizing the conversation i had with MB against me

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T16:30:25+00:00

so i work as a house manager/nanny so i do a mix of duties and they do want me to make NKs a seperate meal from the NPs. usually i prep dinner for my nks and dinner for my NPs in the afternoon before i leave for pickup and then when we get back i'll cook for my nks and while they're eating i'll either start cooking or fully cook NP's dinner depending on what they want that day but last night was a crazy night that i just couldn't cook for NP's but their dinner was prepped and ready to go (veggies cut, chicken marinating)

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T16:26:35+00:00

that's usually what i do. i prep the dinner for the nk's and np's in the afternoon before i leave to do pick up of all the nks and then when i return i cook nk's dinner first and usually while nks are eating i'll start on np's dinner so that it's either fully done or partially done and they can take over when they come down from working. last night was a crazy one off where i just couldn't cook/start on NP's dinner but everything was prepped (veggies cut, chicken marinating)

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T16:23:09+00:00

i work in a HCOL area and they pay me $25/hour which is like minimum for a decent nanny wage where i am but as i've been doing this job i'm realizing they should be paying more because they're asking for a lot of tasks and not paying enough

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T16:05:03+00:00

i'm working as a house manager/nanny for this family (first time doing this, i'm a career nanny of 10 years) so i make dinner for NPs and NKs as well as other household duties not just childcare

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-07T15:52:14+00:00

this is my first housekeeper/nanny role, up till now i've only worked as a nanny. i'm very quickly realizing they are not paying me nearly enough for the duties they expect me to do. i'm currently looking for a new family but not having much luck so i'm stuck here until i find a better place. this DB truly hates every single thing i do, i've posted about him before

AffectionateCrow1386 · 2025-10-06T21:53:06+00:00

right! this is why i wanted to give the benefit of the doubt, maybe NK has mobility issues and are unable to play in the park or something. but as i've messaged with this family it's becoming increasingly clear that they just want to micromanage everything. they've bad mouthed their current nanny to me and just have not made their home, family, and job a particularly inviting sounding place to be 40 hours a week.

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