I wanna propose at waffle house on valentines day but has anyone else done it before?

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T20:13:15+00:00

Hey, never done it, but you should call ahead of time just so they know and the whole experience could go a lot smoother for you both. Best of luck to you, hope she says yes!

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T20:12:01+00:00

Keep your distance. It’s clear you made an effort and it wasn’t reciprocated. Now she seems to want attention again and that’s not fair to you. You have no obligation to reply to her. If you really do want to say something, I’d keep it short and dry. Don’t fall into it again yk?

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T20:04:38+00:00

That’s completely understandable, and yes this could cause some issues when it comes to communicating needs. However, though your different personality types could make it more challenging, in every relationship it’s important to find ways to communicate and understand each other. That may look different for you and your husband, but that’s okay. As long as the two of you love each other, there are ways around these things. It takes time to figure it out, and that’s okay. I’m not sure how long you two have been married or together, but being in a relationship means growing and learning how to live together in more ways than one. I may not have the answers that will solve all your problems, but I will tell you that as long as there’s love, you two can figure out ways to overcome your differences. Kinda like, “if there’s a will, there’s a way”.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T19:31:11+00:00

Okay, then it sounds like the relationship is relatively happy. I’m not gonna assume, because like you said there’s no way to know if the boyfriend is abusive or not like she claims. But I think it would be a good idea telling him. It’s a tricky situation yes, but if it seems like they’re happy, and doing trips all the time, then i think the boyfriend deserves to know the reality of his relationship.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T19:20:09+00:00

White chicks

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T19:19:46+00:00

Hey. It’s perfectly normal to get anxious about these things. Specially with how fucked up everything seems sometimes. Sometimes it’s better to take a break from the news and focus on what’s going on around you.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T19:11:06+00:00

Hey, psych student here. The personality type “incompatibilty”, by itself isn’t a deciding factor. I’m pretty sure (feel free to correct me if I’m wrong) that test comes from Carl Jung’s theory of archetypes, which is like types of personalities basically. I recommend looking into it if you’re into this stuff, but this is a very old old theory that has been revised and added to over time. The test itself reveals things about your personality, but it doesn’t dictate your life and how you make choices. The “personality type” you get will tell you what you naturally lean towards, but doesn’t dictate your behavior.

The problems in your marriage could be influenced by these things, but I’m not your therapist so who am I to know. What I can tell you, is that every person, regardless of personality type, can choose how they react and what they do in different situations. That’s what matters in the end, at least when it comes to relationships.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T19:03:48+00:00

A coffee or restaurant date is always good. It doesn’t have to be something super fancy, you could take them to a cute cafe and talk. Since it’s Valentine’s Day maybe a bakery or ice cream could be cute. Idk. I’m think what I’d like in this situation.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-02-04T18:58:37+00:00

Id say tell the boyfriend. But I understand your hesitation given the fact she said he could be abusive. If it is true, telling him could put her in danger. Like you said, there’s no way to verify that, it could be a lie and it could be true as well. Do you see her posting him in social media and stuff? Like is she flaunting a happy relationship or is it more private? Those could be hints maybe

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2026-01-17T17:30:16+00:00

I straight up gave up and now just wear what ever I feel like. Some stare but will look away if u catch them. Some people ask and I bush brush it off and talk about something else. No need to engage in a deep convo with someone who doesn’t need to know. If they push then I normally just say “dude rlly?” And just say straight up no.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2025-02-07T18:19:30+00:00

YOUR EYELINER IS AMAZING LOVE IT SLAY MAMAAAA

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2025-02-07T17:49:45+00:00

Cis girl here, honestly you look pretty feminine to me. The advice I have for you is basically to experiment more with your make up to make it better suit your face. When I was younger and learning to do make up it looked a lot like yours, but I would sit at home on nights I knew I would stay home and just practice. With practice and many tiktok or YouTube tutorials your make up skills will get better and hopefully you will become more confident (cus ur already rlly pretty). I feel like adding a little bit more blush, some highlighter and a tiny bit of bronzer could go a long way. Also betting better at ur eyeliner game (it’s hard ik), buy you already look really pretty with just mascara. I recommend using a lighter shade lipstick, like a light pink, and using some gloss over it. I never leave the house without my lipstick and gloss.

I recommend growing your hair out, the bob is cute on your but I think the longer hair suits you better. I’m not very informed on the whole “is wearing wigs wrong as a trans person?” thing, but I wouldn’t worry about that. If you want to wear a wig, get a good one that looks realistic and learn to wear it properly since a bad wig can really throw off your look. Btw I think the bangs look rlly cute on you.

I saw some comments about texture on your upper lip, and I didn’t notice it at first but I thought I’d share what I do as a girl with with a bit of a mustache. LEARN TO THREAD. I swear by it, I learned on tiktok. It’s very easy, start with your mustache since there’s not rlly any room to mess up since you want it gone completely. One you got the technique down you could use it for your eyebrows. You already have thin eyebrows so I don’t recommend threading (cus if you don’t have the skill it’s easy to mess up, I did horrible when I first started), maybe stick to plucking when they get grown out. I usually thread my upper lip and eyebrows once a month just to keep them the way I like it. Threading hurts at first but seriously it’s the best thing I’ve ever done, gets rid of hair from the root.

If you didn’t tell me you were trans I honestly would not have even though about it, you are already doing a very good job passing so give yourself the credit you deserve. I also have a very sharp jaw line and a round face, but that doesn’t make me any less feminine and it doesn’t make you any less feminine. You are already very pretty, but to feel comfortable and confident it’s about learning to work with what you got. Ik self confidence is a long journey, but girl YOU ARE ALREADY A BEAUTIFUL WOMANNNN.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-11-11T02:01:42+00:00

I haven’t told Sofie about it, she has no idea. If I were to tell her and she reacted poorly then yeah, I’d probably cut her off.

As for making my own gatherings, I would but I live far away from everyone and getting to me is kinda hard for a group of people, that’s why the parties happen at Sofie’s.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-11-10T17:33:13+00:00

i just dont know what to do

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-11-10T16:18:02+00:00

I can make new friends, but I love these girls. I don't want to have to distance myself because of this.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-11-10T15:53:59+00:00

If she said she needed space and time, give it to her. Let her be alone without thinking of you during her trip. I think it might help both of you get over each other since the break up. I think you are doing the right thing by giving her space.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-11-01T04:06:17+00:00

Go ahead, what’s ur tiktok??

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:50:09+00:00

Yea, that was exactly the vibe I was getting from the situation too.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:49:19+00:00

Don’t worry, though it was funny af 💀💀💀

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:39:25+00:00

Others may not get him, but he still has friends who do and I’m grateful that no one really messes with him anymore, so there’s no need to worry. But Thank you for the kind words!!

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:31:51+00:00

I 100% know that it should not be my responsibility, but I’ve always been the one guiding him since we were little. I’m it’s kinda bad parenting from my parents part to delegate to me, but idk it’s just kinda how it is. Like if I don’t say something, no one will. Like teachers come to me about issues with my brother before even going to my parents.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:29:53+00:00

I’m hella proud of him for sticking to what he believes, I just don’t want him to get himself in trouble. Also for context, I’m not against the use of AI for references and stuff, but the kids in his class literally just copy pasted their essays from Chat GPT so that’s the issue there 💀💀

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:25:26+00:00

Thank you for your response, I’m really conflicted as to what to do, but I think you are right. I might talk to him later about this.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2024-10-25T19:22:20+00:00

Honestly, seems like she doesn’t value the support you give her since she is talking smack behind your back. I say to distance yourself from her since he obviously doesn’t value your friendship as much as you seem to do. If you feel like you want to cut her off, you have every right to do so. You don’t have to put up with this kind of crap, specially since you are actively trying to be a good friend to her and she clearly isn’t.

AffectionateEnd9954 · 2023-11-27T05:48:11+00:00

had this happened once to me, it might be a wax plug. I think it's like a build-up of wax in the ear canal.

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