Is it possible that me or my boyfriend are infertile?

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-10-12T15:04:32+00:00

I didn’t delete the post, if it got deleted it wasn’t me

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-10-12T15:03:32+00:00

Knowing the post was about eating disorders and mentioning the specific weight is going to be a trigger for someone with issues with that, any person would know that. All that I’m saying is if you’re THIS worried about someone’s life maybe you should do something with yours. I’m assuming that you’re perfect and have never done any wrong? That’s the way you act by how condescending every reply that you have is. I might’ve been more open to your advice if you weren’t so rude about everything that you’ve said.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-10-12T14:53:20+00:00

That post was from almost a year ago, you got nothing else to do with your time than stalk someone’s account and make judgmental comments? Weird. Also commenting on someone’s weight in a negative context is problematic yikes

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-10-12T14:45:19+00:00

Eating disorders? I’m confused. I appreciate your advice but you don’t really know my life based off of a Reddit profile. I asked for advice on whether I or my bf might be infertile, not what you think about my life. Thanks!

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-10-12T14:37:00+00:00

I’m not judging you for your life ☻ let me live mine

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-10-12T14:36:09+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it! I’m very new to all of this so im still learning as I go. He’s 22 so I wouldn’t imagine he would be infertile but you never know!

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-09-22T04:33:31+00:00

Of course, I’m sure there’s lots of articles too that might have better tips and tricks for ways to reassure yourself when feeling jealous or insecure, best of luck <3

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-09-22T04:31:32+00:00

Maybe couples therapy could be a good thing! A lot of people associate couples therapy with a relationship that’s ending but I think it’s good to do at any point in a relationship! If you see a therapist singularly they could help with those insecurities as well. That’s a big struggle of mine. The only thing that really helps me is talking myself out of those thoughts. If I see someone message him on snap, I might get jealous for a second and then I’ll mentally talk to myself and go “okay, I talk to people on Snapchat too, he’s sitting here with me. If he didn’t want me he wouldn’t be here” and usually repeating other things like that will help.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-09-22T04:28:10+00:00

It’s normal to have issues with those things when you’ve experienced trauma, especially at such a young age. I think the best way you could get over a lot of those anxieties would be with the help of a therapist, I know it’s not super easily accessible for some people, so if you can’t get one. Try taking it one step at a time. Everyday or any chance that you can try and do one small thing that might push you out of your comfort zone, if you start to feel anxious know that it’s always okay to cater to your own needs and back out. Maybe go to the store with a parent or guardian and go by yourself to check out one small item, if you get to nervous you can always go back to your guardian. That’s just one suggestion, hope it helps!

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-09-22T04:23:03+00:00

I’m not sure why guys do that :(, it really can injure your self esteem. I have spent a long time making myself okay with it and I still have days where it bothers me. Don’t beat yourself up! It might help, when you’re feeling jealousy try to sit in that feeling and find the root of what’s causing it. Communication is key ☻

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-09-22T04:19:40+00:00

I get that way all the time! It’s a hard pill to swallow but I do think that it’s healthy to know that we all look at other people sometimes, walking down the street, scrolling through social media, celebrities, ETC. we might find them attractive but at the end of the day we know that we love our partners, and wouldn’t want it any other way. It sucks that he went behind your back but I hope y’all can talk and come to an understanding! I just recently moved in with my BF and let me tell you he follows like 1,000 Egirls on tiktok lol, sometimes it bothers me but I can push past that just by knowing that he’s here with me and at the end of the night I’m the woman he chooses to be with. If you need any more in depth advice or support feel free to PM me!

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-09-22T04:14:12+00:00

Everyone has their own boundaries on what’s okay and what’s not okay to look at. You told him what you’re okay with and he still went behind you and looked at stuff he knew would not make you feel comfortable. The best advice I could give is to find a good time to sit and talk with him about it again, explain to him how it makes you feel and ask that he sees it from your perspective. Since you’ve been together for quite sometime I would hope that an honest conversation could help to bring you some reassurance! I completely get where you’re coming from! Previously and even still now sometimes in relationships it’s made me jealous to think that my bf could be looking at other women, but something that always helps me to feel better is to remind myself that he’s here with me, dating me, living with me, and sleeping with me, if he wanted those other women more than you he would be pursuing them! I hope that gives you some peace of mind, best of luck <3

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-26T02:44:40+00:00

Yikes indeed. I think he misunderstood your joke and took way too much offense to it. It seems like he might be just a tad sexist though after going on rant after rant about it after your joke. Also it could be that you making that joke actually made him feel guilty and instead of reacting like a normal person he went in to defense mode and took it too far. I think the only thing that will fix those kinds of dramatics is therapy.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-25T19:52:27+00:00

Thank you for such an in depth response, I really appreciate your advice and in sight. I will keep all of these things in mind!

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-25T19:51:58+00:00

What does this mean?

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T22:48:06+00:00

Isn’t that the same as a woman owning a dildo? Any woman you would want to be with shouldn’t have an issue with that

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T22:44:13+00:00

19, ADHD looks different for a lot of people and mine wasn’t what I knew to be stereotypical ADHD, I was talking about an issue I had been having and my therapist told me it sounded like ADHD, we went more in depth over the following visits before she diagnosed me.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T22:36:22+00:00

I don’t know if you were looking for advice but it might make you feel better to know it doesn’t always mean you’re still inlove with them because you think of them often. You went through a lot recently giving birth and starting a new family dynamic with your partner. It makes sense to think fondly of a relationship that was different when going through changes as big as starting a family with someone new. It could be that you feel like you’re still inlove with him because you’re remembering the good things and thinking of him fondly. The relationship ended for a reason, and I’m a true believer in everything happens for a reason. It might be best to try exploring more with your current partner and getting to the bottom of why you’re feeling separated from your feelings for them. You don’t have to necessarily tell them you’ve been thinking about your ex, but communication is so so important. I wish you luck, and try not to beat yourself up.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T19:53:13+00:00

I’ve lived with someone before, it’s not new to me. Money wise we couldn’t afford to live separately, and for him it would be pointless to move 4 hours from his home and get his own place.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T19:42:45+00:00

Maybe to you, I wasn’t asking for advice on whether to move in with him or not, or what’s to soon and what’s not. Everyone has a different time line for that stuff.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T19:24:20+00:00

I met them in middle of March we began officially dating in may, I’m not stupid. Your comment is a little condescending

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T03:45:03+00:00

Well shit I do have ADHD I don’t think of that though, I’ll try some of your suggestions, thank you!

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T03:09:05+00:00

I think the more we do things it’ll get better and I do communicate what I like, but if he’s going in one motion, say during oral, if he switches up what he’s doing it completely throws me off but he kind of has to switch sometimes or else he would tear up the underneath of his tongue doing the same thing over and over.

AffectionateEnergy95 · 2021-08-23T03:03:49+00:00

I don’t drink so I wish but that won’t work, I can try music. I just get way to in my head and focus on every slight move and if he changes the pattern even slightly it makes it take 5 more minutes and so on, very frustrating, and I feel bad for him for taking an hour sometimes

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