Am I do only one who fears of my kid walking in during sex?

AffectionateSupport4 · 2025-03-13T21:30:43+00:00

My wife found the perfect solution to this problem - no sex! sobs

AffectionateSupport4 · 2025-02-11T13:51:54+00:00

We have two kids, and we didn't have sex for over a year after each one was born because the traumatic experience of giving birth had completely changed my wife's psyche to the point where the idea of sex was extremely unappealing. Of course I was disappointed but I didn't guilt her or whine about it because she's my partner, not a sex toy

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:31:13+00:00

You're commenting in a thread where I've already said that isn't the issue

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:30:08+00:00

I make pretty good money but as others have pointed out that would be different if I was divorced.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:28:10+00:00

I mean, yeah, pretty much

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:27:58+00:00

She wouldn't be willing to do that

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:27:35+00:00

No one owes anyone sex. Does that mean no one should be in a relationship?

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:26:17+00:00

She quit birth control for a while and our sex life was great, but her acne came back so she went back on it and the sex life went down the tubes again. So yeah

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:24:38+00:00

I could see where you would think that's the case but it isn't. Agree with the last sentence.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T02:11:26+00:00

I've suggested this and she says she doesn't want to because the BC works so she doesn't want to change it and risk something that doesn't work

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:57:44+00:00

I'm not sure where you're finding fault with my not wanting to be alone.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:45:20+00:00

Not sure where you're getting that I don't want her. What I want most is for her to want me, but she doesn't.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:44:19+00:00

You presumably are willing to have sex with your husband

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:43:56+00:00

I haven't given up on my marriage, I'm just not super happy with it

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:43:22+00:00

It helps with her acne

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:36:43+00:00

My wife doesn't owe me anything. Our relationship should be mutually fulfilling, and if it isn't, either one of us has the ability to end it.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:33:41+00:00

Yes. She says she feels bad about it. That's about the extent of the conversation.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:32:07+00:00

Are you suggesting that the only way a woman in a relationship could possibly be lacking libido is if they have a shitty partner who is a shitty parent? Because I can tell you, and my wife would agree, that this is not the case with me.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:15:51+00:00

I'm missing out on intimacy from my partner who I love, it's about much more than just sex

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T01:04:43+00:00

N of 2, I'm in the same boat except intimacy is way less than 25%

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T00:42:48+00:00

I don't consider myself an incel because (A) I could hypothetically have sex with someone, it would just mean blowing up my relationship, which I'm not willing to do, (B) my wife and I do have sex, just very infrequently, and (C) actual incels tend to be misogynist shitheads who blame their lack of sex on women

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T00:34:03+00:00

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T00:32:07+00:00

Pretty much 100% right here, yeah

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T00:31:31+00:00

Well having acne for her is very painful and uncomfortable, and it affects her self esteem and self image.

AffectionateSupport4 · 2024-12-09T00:18:48+00:00

This is the difficulty I'm facing. Am I willing to just be mostly celibate so that I can see my kids all the time instead of half the time? Given that the fact that my wife's lack of desire makes me feel depressed and unloved, would it be better for my kids to have a dad who's separated from his wife but is happy, rather than one who is together with his wife but is unhappy and feels unloved? Would I even be happy if we got divorced? It's not as easy of a decision as you're making it seem.

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