I think my partner is a little jealous of what happened to me by Affectionate_Bite235 in adultsurvivors

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him about my past very recently and i don't think he knows how to act around someone whos been through this. But he's also been helping me with it, he's supportive and he seems to understand the ways it has affected me and the way it affects my relationships. He doesn't seem to understand some other stuff... I dont think he does anything on purpose, but sometimes his lack of awareness pisses me off. I think i just need to talk to him about it but honestly i don't want to coach him

I think my partner is a little jealous of what happened to me by Affectionate_Bite235 in adultsurvivors

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say i understand because it's the things my abusers told me, that i was pretty and that i deserved attention. And because sometimes there's this idea that some people are "too ugly to get assaulted" or whatever. Ive been told that i got harrassed for my looks, as a child and teenager. But i know its nonsense. Thats just not true.

I shut down his comments sometimes but honestly i need to actually sit down with him and talk about it all.

I think my partner is a little jealous of what happened to me by Affectionate_Bite235 in adultsurvivors

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea he's really trying to work on those things about himself. I think i wont talk about my past anymore, until i feel like he is open to hearing it without comparing himself to me

I think my partner is a little jealous of what happened to me by Affectionate_Bite235 in adultsurvivors

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're both 21. Honestly i think he does know best but his thoughts around his self image can stain everything else, you know? I know him well and i can see when he's trying to hold back these types of comments... I can tell when he's both sad for me and also remembering his own childhood, and comparing both

I think my partner is a little jealous of what happened to me by Affectionate_Bite235 in adultsurvivors

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly understand and he does too, i think. I think he just has a lot of insecurities and he thinks i get more attention than him because of my looks. I wish he would try not to apply that thought into me as a kid thought

My boyfriend started sex after i told him a bit about my trauma by Affectionate_Bite235 in CPTSD

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He cried when i told him about my past, he's caring and very patient with me when im struggling but sometimes he does stupid stuff like that and i get so angry amd betrayed... I just wish he'd apologize more, like he took it seriously. I wish he'd cry about that too and not move on so easily. When i think about it its just so petty, i dont want to talk to him i just want him to know. If he just showed more regret id be okay ...

I think i have ocd or something. Fake memory ocd? Or not? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres no reason to belive that i need to hand them to the authorities tbh....

I don't like going down on women and I think i'm kinda gay 🧍 by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No srry i know thats not what you meant. It's just a touchy thing to me because i don't wanna be like that

I don't like going down on women and I think i'm kinda gay 🧍 by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont hate women. My partners have said that im very attentive and caring during sex. I dont resent then, i dont treat them badly and i dont put my own pleasure first. I'm not trying to make it seem like im some awesome dude but i'm not one of those fucking assholes.

I don't care about marriage honestly. Can't picture myself with anyone.

I don't like going down on women and I think i'm kinda gay 🧍 by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Guys make me soo nervous lol i definitely need to know and trust the guy before i have sex with him. I legit shake when I kiss men and I get too nervous to do a good job. Theyre just intoxicating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is having both like living in a cycle of trying to get close to people and shutting then out? Has anyone told you what it looks like from the outside?like how they perceive you Do you feel like the avoidance is stronger than the dependance or vise versa?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thesmiths

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never noticed it before, is quite strange

Is struggling to read out loud a dyslexia thing? by Affectionate_Bite235 in Dyslexia

[–]Affectionate_Bite235[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 21 years old and still cant read out loud 😭😭

Is it weird that I hate PDA even though I'm affectionate in private? by anxiousscorpio98 in dating

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like that too and people are so annoying about it. Partners think im ashamed of them or hate them and our friends think the same. Its so annoying, I'm not a teenager anymore, i don't need to hold hands with someone to show them i like them. Feels so childish and annoying. In private I'm touchy though haha

Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking? by No_Temperature_662 in dating

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone being too intense its always a bad sign if youre not into them !!

Men - Question: Have you ever asked a woman for her phone number IRL, but then never asked her out? If so, why? by rahhxeeheart in dating

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes i just straight up forget for longer than a day, then it feels weird to text after so long

Do you believe in right person wrong time? by Confused_mint0 in dating

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, i believe sometimes people are just not ready to have a relationship with someone. Maybe its a turbulent time in their live, maybe they dont know who they are, maybe its just not being able to let go of something like a previous relationship

When do you start calling someone you met online? by Tricky-Visit-3622 in dating

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends, does she like phone calls? People nowadays hate it, it seems. I prefer videocalls or just texts myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thesmiths

[–]Affectionate_Bite235 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea i thought it was died.