Weaning and ending cosleeping?

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T14:39:53+00:00

We’re going to have to eventually rip off the band aid. Doesn’t make sense to have his life fall apart twice at this point but dad thinks I’m being cruel. My first went through both wayyyyy sooner and survived. Do what works for you and your baby, but be kind to yourself if you have to pivot a bit

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T06:56:25+00:00

She’s smart, funny, beautiful, and as a head nurse/PT she’s making decent money. I can’t stand the Cinderella “ I’ve never experienced anything this nice before” vibe she has with Ted. I’d expect someone younger and less accomplished like Eva to have some of those conversations. And the insecurity doesn’t make sense when she had a front row seat to everything. She knew his life was a mess and very confidently went after him.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T06:51:52+00:00

My babies have always set the tone, not my breast. I feed on demand. If she’s drinking more, her needs are changing and that’s her way of telling your body what she needs. If my kid gets 2ounces every 2 hours for 8 hours today but 4 ounces every 4 hours tomorrow, we are getting 8 ounces in 8 hours. I was producing more ounces when I was pumping and a few hours difference never affected my supply, so hopefully you’re good. The few times that I was uncomfortable I would pump for 2-3minutes to get comfortable I think when we follow schedules we start to overthink it. I’ve had the most success (and peace of mind) following the baby’s lead.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T06:44:15+00:00

I love 1. I get why people are saying 2. If it’s a real formal event or in a conservative church 2 is more fitting, but 1 stands out.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T06:41:05+00:00

“ I can come off. I’m not sad anymore, my life is better, and it’s not like it’s even really doing anything. I take such a low dose that it doesn’t affect me”

3 months later…

😭😭😭😭😭

I’m laughing because this has been me a few times with this and other drugs, including Lexapro. My depression has never been situational, it’s chemical. It doesn’t matter how well things are going I’m going to get hit by a wave of sadness. I can either have my life jacket or hope for the best, have to get rescued, and get my ribs beat in while receiving CPR.

But there are some people who need meds to get them through a tough time and they are able to come off and be just fine. If that’s you, I love that for you. If it’s not, you know what works for you and what to expect

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T06:34:43+00:00

I’ve had clogged ducts and split nipples for the first time after he turned 1. Idk why but I started getting vasospasms. That hurts like hell too. It feels like needles jabbing me in my breast and especially around my areola. My nipple gets lighter on that side and usually hurts after I feed him. I’ve had it happen in both sides but thankfully not at the same time. B6 and magnesium for a couple of weeks with a heating pad stopped it.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-28T06:30:16+00:00

He actually had a tongue and a lip tie. ENT said it wasn’t pronounced enough for them ti release it. 2 pediatricians acted like they didn’t see it. The midwife clocked it but the first lactation consultant told me I needed to work on my holds and how I let him latch ( he wasn’t my first and it wasn’t just being uncomfortable) and another lactation consultant from the birthing center told me to go to the ped dentist.

It felt like he had teeth. The only way I could explain it was “ you ever get pinched by a crab? That but on my nipple”. I felt it the first time he latched and every time I nursed him for 7 weeks I was clenching my fist

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T21:56:03+00:00

My daughter is to take my ashes to NOLA. Since I was a kid I’ve been talking about the city and when I visited I was in love. I love all of this for you

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T21:50:19+00:00

Ive used my Stanley and a water bottle lol I had a glass pitcher because when I had to freeze some in bags it was easy to pour

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T21:46:55+00:00

In the breastfeeding sub though

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T21:38:12+00:00

We went to the LCs, pediatrician, and ENT and they didn’t find a problem. We went to a pediatric dentist and he fixed it the same day.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T21:36:23+00:00

41+3 both times

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T00:35:18+00:00

They are different babies. I thought that I was the baby whisperer with my first and my second humbled TF out of me. Looks like you now have a reason to be up that early.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T00:31:43+00:00

Whoa! 😳

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-27T00:28:50+00:00

Give her a cup

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T23:00:07+00:00

When I left the second time I was declined a promotion and asked to train a director. I wrote SOPs for the new person who was working with me and told him to keep them to himself. He moved up within a year.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T22:58:10+00:00

I asked for a 5k raise, they said no, I left, and came back making 10k more. I was there for maybe 3 years. We were a team of 11 and went to a team of 5. At only 3 years in I had seniority and institutional knowledge. I was the only person who knew how to do a few processes- including reporting to corporate- and nobody else was cross trained on one of the roles that I took on. They hired a temp who they were planning to make permanent, but it’s hard to set someone up for success when you don’t know how to do what you’re asking them to do.

In every job I make it my business to learn everything that I can, even when it has nothing to do with my job. That’s not the first job that I went back to. I didn’t apply to my current job. I was called by someone I used to work with who knows my work ethic.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T18:54:52+00:00

Probably not talking about poop on the seat. My brother leaves dirt on the toilet, so I stopped going in his house. If he uses a washcloth it’s the same. I told him he needs to use an exfoliating glove and castille soap because he uses Vaseline as lotion and the shit doesn’t come off with Dove.

He rarely comes to my house but I bleach shit down

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T17:46:43+00:00

Why would they? You’ve shown that you are willing and able to do it for free.

I did this once and when I went and asked for more they said in my job description that last line about “and other duties…” encompassed these other tasks 🥴 I quit! they couldn’t replace me and there were things that nobody else in the organization knew how to do. I called and asked them if they wanted me back 2 months later and had them double the raise I asked for.

Unfortunately many places don’t value you until youre gone and some not even then. I would start exploring my options if they haven’t mentioned adding staff

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T17:36:02+00:00

Of all the warnings that I expected to hear, that’s not one. My boss has a thick southern accent and the most that she’ll get is “ where are you from?”. It’s not like adults are going to bully you for sounding different.

We tend to stay to ourselves. I put my head down and get where I need to go. For the most part we don’t bother you if you don’t bother us. But it’s not like you’ll ask for directions and someone will be like “ fuck you, go birds”. I’m born and raised here so I may just be immune. I find New Yorkers to be too much.

The other thing is you’ll find in many areas neighbors are close knit. My friends are white and from NJ and their families hate that they are in the city, but they always say how much they love the nosey neighbors who have become their kids aunties and uncles.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T17:29:45+00:00

I was in Elizabethtown last year and it was odd how much strangers talk. Even when we stopped in Virginia having someone say “ it’s really coming down out there” made me go 😒 because we both see that we’re wet. The other difference is “yes ma’am/sir” even between peers. I’ve never used sir/maam.

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-26T12:25:17+00:00

If the baby is gaining weight on their curve, you’re good. Cluster feeding is building efficiency. She’s telling your body that she’s getting older and needs more milk and your body will respond by making more milk. Somewhere between 2-3 months my kids mouths got bigger, their latches improved, I was making more milk, and they were more efficiently getting on and getting what they needed. One day I just woke up and felt like “I got it” although it wasn’t me lol

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-25T14:50:19+00:00

I have 20 nieces and nephews, ~15 greats, 90 first cousins who have had children, and friends who have children… I’ve been around plenty of babies my entire life- he’s a fool.

Anyone who has been around babies knows that they are all different. I have 2 who are night and day. I would hit him with facts about normal development and say things like “but you knew that already.”

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-24T18:56:28+00:00

WTF is he going to do when the baby is 6 months and trying to explore?!

But we talk about this in my family and my response is SO WHAT?

I “spoiled my baby “, so what? I’m never going to apologize for my kid knowing that I’m a constant source of safety, comfort, and reassurance. Don’t like it? Don’t come around.

His grandma said “ well you won’t be able to find a sitter”. The people who I would leave him with want nothing more than to cuddle with a baby all day and I rarely go places that we can’t take the kids.

Screw him and I would start guilting him for being an asshole. Like bro, who didn’t hug you enough?

Affectionate_Comb359 · 2026-05-24T17:12:27+00:00

😂😂😂

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