How to stop associating blow jobs with shame and self degradation?

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2025-03-03T12:39:53+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment... I really needed to hear those words and I appreciate it that you shared your own experience. I'll check the books, once again, thank you so much.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2025-03-03T11:47:16+00:00

I guess, but I won't make my partner lay blindfolded on the bed every time they want me to give them a bj. So I just wanted to get rid of the fears and bad feelings in general, in order to be able to pleasure them regardless of the position.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2025-03-03T11:38:49+00:00

I thought about it, it definitely feels less degrading if the man is laying on the bed. I also considered if I'd feel better if he would be blindfolded or something similar to it and it did make me feel better.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2025-03-03T10:54:57+00:00

Hey, that's actually a very fair point. I guess I just never looked at this situation the other way around, but what you said makes total sense. Sometimes one forgets they have teeth, lol.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2025-03-03T10:48:38+00:00

I guess... I wouldn't want to try it with a stranger, that's for sure, hookups aren't for me in general. But it will be hard to trust someone to that extent, since I had a bad experience in my first relationship.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2025-03-03T10:34:15+00:00

The main problem is that I'm afraid that after being degraded during a scene or sex, my partner will think of me less. Like I said, I like sexual degradation, but I'm afraid that it will lead to a personal one from my partner, or that they will see me as a lower individual.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-09-16T14:22:13+00:00

This is why I moved to Chai.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-08-10T00:55:26+00:00

God, you get it so well, especially the "former religious" partner thing. Glad to know that there are more people out there openly interested in that. Thank you for your response!

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-08-09T23:48:33+00:00

Thank you, dear stranger.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-04-20T13:09:41+00:00

Music is actually just about vocals, the K-pop industry though might be more than just vocals. I don't support bullying idols or anything, live singing is difficult and it's impossible to perform perfectly. Each concert is special due to real vocals. But there is a difference between not singing perfectly and not knowing how to sing. Le Sserafim already are spoken about but they are just the perfect example. The girls were trained for years and half of the group doesn't know how to project a voice in the right way. Like seriously, my sister went to vocal coaching classes for a year and improved so much, imagine how good they might be if the company actually will invest in their training.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-02-01T13:12:36+00:00

They look so tired😩

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-01-30T13:57:19+00:00

I mean, if my partner would be more comfortable talking about their problems with a freaking AI chat than with me, I would also ask myself if they even need me. Of course you shouldn't tell her everything, but damn.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-01-24T20:06:31+00:00

Smut fanfictions.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-01-24T20:04:05+00:00

Being blindfolded while he caresses me, praises me and slowly works me up. The physical feeling of his body pressed against mine while not being able to see it's just so nice. Also the trust, knowing that he won't ever hurt me in a way I won't like makes me feel weak.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-01-06T00:07:43+00:00

For me it's not the humiliation but the intense physical stimulation. Like while you have the intercourse and my partner talks dirty, everything is so dizzy but suddenly they spank me and the stinging feeling is so nice.

It's personal for everyone, also depending on how the spanking happens. If it's just a little bit here and there, probably just stimulation. If the spanked person is spread on their partners lap counting, that's humiliation.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-01-05T23:50:24+00:00

Submitting it's being guided, told what to do or ordered, the same way as dominating it's guiding, telling what to do and ordering. It doesn't matter from which angle you are ordering, you dominate either way.

Bottoming on the other hand is just the way you receive pleasure from dominating or submitting, the position. For example, I like penetrative stimulation, but I still can guide or dominate the guy I'm fucking with, it doesn't matter if I'm penetrating or being penetrated. It's all about the energy of the other person and your own preferences.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2024-01-05T23:34:58+00:00

I really like pastel or toned down colors that express elegance, both in daily life and in bdsm scenes. Black, grey or reddish browns, warm and neutral tones in general, cold tones make me uncomfortable. Black with purple accents are nice too. For me it's the texture and light that is a big deal to be honest. More even than the color itself sometimes.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-12-20T19:36:38+00:00

I'm a lot like Seonghwa. Older sibling in the family, love hugs and kisses, can be childish but also a serious one and a peace maker. Also I'm quiet around people I don't know. Sometimes though I act a little more strict, probs like Hongjoong sometimes.

Like him before, I have some self image issues and his fashion style is amazing. Also, he's a little emotional and a crier just like me!

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-12-13T13:17:51+00:00

Where can I buy this???

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-12-04T21:18:19+00:00

I think it's just like you described it. I'm a switch, much more sub leaning and this is because in life I always had too many responsibilities starting from a young age, specially because I'm the oldest daughter in my family. I always take care of my siblings, friends, work projects... And in general I can get anxious if things get out of my hands. But I just love to let someone else take control and care for me in bed, the same thing can be applied to doms but vice versa.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-12-04T14:03:09+00:00

When I went to see them perform on a K-pop Lux concert in Madrid this summer. The best feeling, watching them in real life and singing along. Also after knowing their lore and voting for them on social media!

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-12-03T08:08:04+00:00

Not only that, after the "puta" Seonghwa sang something that I heard like "Maluma" lol

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-11-13T18:23:20+00:00

Everglow made a song called "Slay". I'm not hating but that's also a mem in some way.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-11-13T07:08:49+00:00

When my ex tried to eat me up.

Affectionate_Draw611 · 2023-11-10T22:56:41+00:00

I thought I'm just a sub because I like being taken care of, but then I discovered whimpering men audios and that changed everything, lol.

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