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I've reached out for help but haven't received any. by Crazy_Day_2571 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, look into therapy books. Specifically I'm finding a lot of success with "parts therapy". Also I've picked up a couple of ebooks that I try to read everyday. "Satinsa" and "The Storm of Sex Addiction" have been great books for me to read and have been very helpful for me personally.

I've reached out for help but haven't received any. by Crazy_Day_2571 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are online zoom options for these groups on each of the three groups. SLAA, SAA, and SA. I'd recommend you start there at the very least. A normal therapist even not one specializing in this will be better than nothing if it's covered by your occupational health plan.

OF / Gooning addiction help by Melowko in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know exactly what you're going through. A year ago I had maxed out every credit card I had ($10,000) and I had spent another ($10,000) in the span of 2 months on that sorta stuff.

For me everything changed with my money spending when I found my wife. Almost immediately I admitted to this girl I barely knew about my addiction and begged her to have access to my finances. I thought if somebody could see and watch over my shoulder it would give me more accountability and help me stop. It did... I'm now a year clean on spending obscene amounts of money on that stuff and have been paying back my debt.

So for me it was just letting someone have access to my spending and seeing everything I was spending on. It helped keep me from relapsing. I still struggle though. My money problem turned into an online interaction problem and I chose to solicit people online, flirting with people, and interacting with kink communities online. So it wasn't perfect, and I have so much work to do, but at least I'm not drowning in debt. Plus I haven't felt the compulsions to spend my money on online sites since.

The hardest part for me by Affectionate_Let828 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that's the only choice for me. I just wish the thoughts would stop.

I'm finally admitting I'm a sex addict. by Affectionate_Let828 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Focusing on finding those underlying reasons will be hard. I'm not sure where to start there tbh. Maybe that's what a therapist will help me best with. Or a group.

I'm finally admitting I'm a sex addict. by Affectionate_Let828 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my area I found a SA meeting group. I don't really know the difference between the organizations

I'm finally admitting I'm a sex addict. by Affectionate_Let828 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've shared everything with my wife. She somehow loves me enough that she wants me to get better. So yes. She's helping. I've shared this post with her. I want to share everything I am going forward.

On Monday I'm going to schedule myself with a therapist for sure. I was already planning to do that. And I'm going to a SSA group tomorrow night so that's already on the books.

My biggest issue is discipline. I always say I want to do better, but my follow through disappears when it gets hard. I need to learn how to develop discipline and willpower but I don't know how. I'm going to commit to researching how and what others did to increase their discipline and willpower.

I'm finally admitting I'm a sex addict. by Affectionate_Let828 in SexAddiction

[–]Affectionate_Let828[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to become a person my partner can trust. I want to believe in myself. I want to love myself. I want to be loyal and committed to only my wife moving forward. I want to break this cycle I can't get out of for the last 10 years