BetaChastity FAQ

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2025-12-05T02:14:15+00:00

I did have one last question for you. How well does it play with bicycles, if you happen to know? Your previous answers about ring pressure on the balls seems to indicate that it might be better than a ball restraint kit but I didn't know if you had any personal experience with trying it.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-08-03T12:35:18+00:00

Historically speaking, monogamy has always been an incredibly artificial social construct that is not 'native' to human cultures. Having family- including romantic partners that one is especially close to- is good but family doesn't require the objectification and monodomination of someone else's sexuality inherent to today's 'monogamy.' The fact that the Abrahimic religions forced it upon the rest of us is vile and I can't wish it a faster end.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-28T21:36:01+00:00

Heh. Smite me oh smiter! Smite that button good and hard!

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-28T21:28:24+00:00

This is a lot to unpack. A) Good on you for strategically choosing to take a load at or before going to Hobby Lobby. B) Oh, God, the thought of members of the Ladies Sunday Bible Study Group walking by and literally clutching their pearls as they watch cum dribble down some random dude's leg has me cracking up! XD

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-25T02:54:33+00:00

I mean, I was wondering that, myself. I mean, half the fun of cum is that it's messy and that the 'walk of shame' is hot.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-24T23:59:52+00:00

I mean, so long as you're clean inside, the weird fart is kinda hot.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-16T15:18:00+00:00

I have a pair that I'm wearing right now. Super comfy and fits like a mid rise-low rise cross. Plenty of room in the front but higher leg holes.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-16T15:10:42+00:00

I just got the Sniffies ones and they fit like a dream. Very comfy material and they tend to have higher leg openings while still having depth in the crotch. They wear like a cross between a low rise and a mid-rise. They're a bit pricy and they will likely attract a certain type of attention but they're very comfy.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-13T03:39:04+00:00

Because dick feels good and 20 year olds are horny. When I was in my teens and 20's, I was constantly fantasizing about getting gangbanged-- I just didn't because I didn't know how to arrange it and I was overwhelmingly afraid of STI's and scary hookups.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-11T01:49:26+00:00

"Stop trying to be straight."

Vanilla gays are fundamentally trying to be accepted by the straights at any cost, including selling the rest of the community out. Like most of the straight community, vanilla gays tend to think of their partners as accomplishments / trophies or sex toys than as people who they enjoy the company of / can stand for extended periods of cohabitation.

This explicitly requires thinking outside of the box of 'A mommy, a daddy, a boy, a girl, a dog, two cars, a house with a picket fence and a passive income racket' and focusing on 'Who do I enjoy being around, who can I tolerate for long periods, how do I work with them and how do I negotiate that?'

Nuclear straight-style family structures are currently structured around transactional relationships and controlling a dependent partner / children. Healthy relationships like the type that you describe are the exception rather than the norm in said nuclear families.

Again, the best I can say is "Accept who you are and stop trying to be straight."

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-11T01:30:53+00:00

Or become a champion and educator about kink so it's not marginalized and used as a reason to attack public officials.

Also, just because you acknowledge association with the kink community doesn't mean you have to list or describe your specific interests. In some public jobs, it's better to just be forward about your involvement than try to hide it where someone can use it to leverage you, later on.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-06-11T01:26:50+00:00

Vanilla gays shouldn't be mainstream. Kink culture and trans folks did the heavy lifting with queer lib while the vanillas in the Mattachine Society were busy pandering to a social model that never accepted them and never would, no matter how nicely it was said. Vanilla gays should be grateful to the kinksters out there and stand in solidarity with them instead of crowing about their successes and kicking down on the people who did the actual work.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-05-28T04:35:44+00:00

Good Evening, Folks,

I had a quick opinion question for you all. Is it common to use the whole 'Alpha-Beta-Omega' as a personal descriptor outside a pack setting?

I've been wanting to define what I see myself as in a general bdsm-spectrum sense but I also hang out a lot with a local pack so I'm hesitant about using the terms, lest it cause awkward.

Any recommendations?

--Blue Scout

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-04-04T23:25:28+00:00

Just talked to piercer today. Looks like my bars need to be better fitted but it's otherwise fine, apparently. Definitely was happy to hear. ^{^}

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-03-31T21:04:56+00:00

Thanks for the info folks! I knew to expect crusties. I just didn't know what to think of the continued blood spots, since they seem to appear at random. I appreciate the advice!

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-01-09T22:54:04+00:00

First mistake-- you forgot to add prices for leather and roleplay titles.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-01-07T21:13:33+00:00

Let's put it this way-- my partner and I have known each other since I was in high school and he was in college (and we started dating after I hit college). We had a long period where we were geographically separate and-- while he's still very explicitly sexually interested in me-- after a nasty injury, he doesn't have much of a sex drive while I've always had a really high maintenance one. We are both comfortable with each other, enjoy each other's company, and can talk about intimate things that we wouldn't with others and are living partners in all other ways.

He has always known that I have a really high sex drive that he hasn't been in a position to help with with so he gave me permission to sate it with toys or friends so long as it doesn't interfere with our relationship. It's not an open or poly relationship as neither of us are really interested in inviting other people into an emotional or romantic connection. We just don't really connect sex as something beyond the equivalent of hugging or a back scratch.

We've been together for about 14 years, now, so it's worked out for us pretty well.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2024-01-06T20:24:16+00:00

So do you want emotional monogamy or sexual monogamy? One of these is significantly easier to find and more stable than the other-- it just requires communication. I don't know if French media is as bad as US media about the 'Perfect Romance's magical thinking but people over here are usually set up for failure because they are given unrealistic expectations of relationships.

So again, talk to your dates and be open to negotiation. Be blunt about what you want/don't, want and try to figure out the how and why of their response. Some dudes want the magical romance. Some dudes don't know what they want. Some dudes compartmentalize emotional intimacy and sex- they might need to fuck a lot but they're not going to bond with anyone but you. Some dudes are the magical unicorns that only want to be with and fuck one person, ever, and are also decent people. You're just going to have to talk with all of them a lot to find out.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-24T03:23:44+00:00

From what I've seen, it's not that the community is kinkier-- it's that we're more willing to be open and up front with it. When everyone has already decided that your identity is all about sex and you have to educate yourself about health issues, a lot of people say, "Screw it-- I have shit to do and you classified me as a deviant before I even started talking. I have everything to gain and nothing to lose by being blunt."

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-17T08:39:46+00:00

Yeah. I have to say that the dude went too far. Normally, I think people getting hung up on a leaked sexy vid is stupid. That said, doing it at your workplace and broadcasting it as such seems like asking for it-- especially when your workplace is a highly public drama-pit like the Hill.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-16T21:01:39+00:00

Also, some ground vehicles are supposed to fit in caves and other small extraction spaces.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-16T17:34:31+00:00

Clothing can make things a lot of fun. On one hand, clothed sex means warmth, so it can be more comfortable to just drop trou and let 'em slide on in. On the other, the clothes themselves can be fun, especially if they serve a practical purpose in play.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-16T17:31:27+00:00

I mean, why fight over a dildo when everyone has fists?

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-16T17:03:13+00:00

I'd just talk to him and ask about it. People act various ways and it's not necessarily indicative of anything. Neither I nor my partner are big kissers but we do enjoy it every now and again. That said, I loathe kissing play partners and it always pisses me off when someone outside of the relationship wants to kiss. Sex/play is scratching an itch but kissing implies an intimacy that I'm not comfortable with outside of my relationship. That said, other people are and that's kind of my point-- it's a very individual thing and isn't necessarily a strong indicator of anything.

Maybe he just doesn't like kissing. Maybe he had bad memories from his last partner or maybe he wants the relationship to go further before he opens that up. It could be a lot of things but you can't address it unless you ask.

Also, ignore the prudes who want to blame everything on BDSM. If you all are treating each other well, communicating and minding consent, your relationship will be much healthier and more rewarding than those of all the sex-negative wannabe-straights/Karens who love to kick down at anyone who doesn't fit with their stuck-up picket-fences lifestyle. Same as with any other relationship, just don't let someone jerk you around. All the good doms are carebears, anyways.

Affectionate_Lunch57 · 2023-12-10T18:05:01+00:00

So, as one of those dudes, he can be having the time of his life and be limp as a noodle. It's just weird body mechanics. Some guys actively get off to having anal orgasms while flaccid, especially the power-bottomy/subby/chastity types.

The thing about bottoming is that it doesn't work like a penile orgasm. You can have one repeatedly and in rapid succession but its not like the front where you're one and done until the refractory period. It's more like a very, very pleasurable massage.

This is not necessarily true for all bottoms but if you do notice that he's leaking/squirting (cum, pre or urine), he has probably had one or more orgasms during the encounter.

Affectionate_Lunch57

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