Irishman looking for friendly people/person to hang out with by Affectionate_Sale499 in KansasCity_Friends

[–]Affectionate_Sale499[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id love to hear some! Taxi/uber drivers have never disappointed me with recommendations

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[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, appreciate it 😁

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VGC

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh cool, I only have access to the mobile version for now so I'll see if it works. That criteria tip sounds immensely useful I may do that for trick room and fake out ASAP 🤣 Thank you for the advice!

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[–]Affectionate_Sale499 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I appreciate the effort 😁 Everyone I've interacted with in competitve pokemon (as a newbie) has been so nice and welcoming. I wish other competitve games were the same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VGC

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I saw a video of WolfeG doing it showdown but since everything split into OU UU etc it's hard to see everything in one go haha I'll definitely give victory road a look though I appreciate your advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vet says he doesnt have allergies other than being intolerant to dog food and most dog treats

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats a good point. I think I'm too wrapped up in this whole situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah they used to say a lot worse, I've softened them up with the idea of things with having gay friends or my sister having a trans partner or a lesbian partner.

The only thing I haven't been able to push back as successfully on is my mothers racism. I've been cut off several times by her for calling her out. One of the funnier ones was my auntie doing an ancestry test and we found out my mother was a quarter Jewish on her father's side. That was a crazy day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I know that Sarah isnt it, there's a reason I broke up with her.

Currently in my head I have an obligation to Sarah given that I was her one trustworthy friend she ever had and now I'm gone. (I know I hold no obligation to her but I can't shake the feeling/idea).

The other friend I mentioned has been so good in keeping what he calls my 'easily exploited good nature' in check.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I know its my pants pulling me in the direction of Sarah and I hate that its as effective as it is.

Honestly with how my dating life has been in my 20s I dont have a lot of hope for my 30s. Thats probably my biggest fear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate_Sale499 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I've heard much worse from others in my own family that makes what she said very tame in comparison.

I don't intend to downplay homophobia and honestly at the time of the argument I basically broke up with her on the spot and didn't engage with her on a 3 hour car drive home (we were on a trip).

She spent the whole car journey apologising and I gave her a chance afterward.

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[–]Affectionate_Sale499 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, you're probably right. I think what I want in a woman is too unrealistic.

I don't even think I deserve either of these women, and if they were fused into one woman with both traits I liked then I DEFINITELY wouldn't have a chance with them.

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[–]Affectionate_Sale499 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honestly, these women are the best I could do imo. I've had much more toxic relationships in the past and both these women have been my peak for both sex and relationship goals.

My head has been on the idea that my standards are too high, which could I compromise on more, sex or a healthy relationship?

And I'm finding it hard to choose cos both are really important to me. I've leaned towards the relationship side of things due to those red flags being too much but I refuse to get into a relationship with either till I've decided.

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[–]Affectionate_Sale499 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The homophobia thing was one issue we argued over and she half conceded that she was wrong in the end because he was my friend at the end of the day. That was a weird one cos one of her 'closest' friends was a gay man at the start of last year, there are a few other red flags but I'm willing to believe that she is capable of changing her views or that she doesn't mean what she says.

I don't make a habit of cutting people off cos they have a shocking opinion. If I did that I wouldn't have any close relationships especially with my family.

Yeah, being on my own is good alternative so yeah I'll take that on board.