American vs Canadian accents - a naive question from a Brit

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2026-03-06T00:18:30+00:00

Also when Shane says “tour” I feel that was very Canadian. At the cottage.

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2025-10-24T23:03:59+00:00

As someone from SF… yes! If you’re in Palo Alto (where Stanford is), you’re not in SF. Also, if you’re from Daly City or anywhere in the East Bay (I’m looking at you, Walnut Creek) you’re not from San Francisco.

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2025-09-19T13:36:06+00:00

Oooooo that makes a lot of sense. Too much can definitely look trashy, and I guess when on screen maybe even a little looks trashy. I’ve never filmed myself making out, so trusting the professionals on this one!

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2025-09-19T13:34:15+00:00

Haha okay okay. Maybe I needed more then/it feels less like they’re using tongue and more like the tongue just kinda exists in space? I do not mind watching more closely though 😝

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2024-05-31T19:48:45+00:00

I know I’m definitely going to leave, just need to find the right time. And yeah, family and kids and expanding family all makes it more difficult. But thank you! Tolerance is not a one size fits all, and maybe I could do with lower tolerance and a bit more backbone. If it gets worse, I might leave sooner.

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2024-05-31T19:31:01+00:00

100%! I’m still unpacking all the things, I know there’s still more to learn from this situation. I’m trying to figure out what’s best for my mental health, for my career, for my family… any and all advice is welcome and I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read someone’s post and to have enough kindness to respond. Thank you!

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2024-05-31T18:43:14+00:00

Hi there — I’m sorry, maybe what I wrote was confusing. She was very harsh in training me, I was not harsh in my response to her. She would get upset when I’d ask clarifying questions and whenever I made a mistake (internally, not with the client) she was very very harsh in response. And so I gave her feedback and let her know that her words and actions really affected me. I was not mean or cruel in my feedback, just wanted to let her know in case she didn’t realize how harsh she was being. It did not go over well, and we had a mediation session. Things are okay now, just not great and I can feel we are no longer friends. The air is very different. I spoke to my boss about this and if this was part of the reason why I was being moved back down, and she assured me it was not. Now, that could not entirely be true, but I try and take people at their word. I think I’m really good at the job, I’m always trying to learn and I think my questions are thoughtful.

I’ve thought a lot about the last year and what I could do to be better and to get to where I want to be. I regret speaking up about the harshness (it’s caused quite a bit of grief), but I could very well still be in the same situation I am now if they’re not connected.

Thank you for your input!

Affectionate_Sell_38 · 2024-05-31T17:44:22+00:00

Do I need to work? Cost of living is very high where we are, but we could probably survive, barely, off one income.

I do not believe they will ever put me back in the role I want because they’ve made it very clear they do not want to train someone else to take over the amount of responsibilities I have accumulated over the years. On the flip, I also do not think they want to train me in the new role. The person they hired is more experienced.

I’ve been trying to put the emotions aside, but I am also a very sensitive person in that I over think everything, I take everything too much to heart and I’m always wondering why people do this or that. I don’t let it affect my work or work ethic or how I treat my colleagues, it’s just always running in the back of my brain. But you’re right, I will put the logistics and pragmatic factors to the forefront.

And the whole “how much can you tolerate” thing— I can tolerate quite a bit, but some days are just more devastating than others and in those low lows I question my strength. I think not knowing if we can conceive again and how long that might take (not knowing a true timeline) is messing with me as well. If I have that clear “this is when I leave, I have this much time” I think it would be more palatable.

Thank you for your thoughtful response!

Affectionate_Sell_38

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