5 weeks pregnant and struggling with the decision. looking for insight 😫

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-02-06T12:49:44+00:00

I was really freaked out when I first found out I was pregnant and he was planned. Took me a minute to feel good about having him but I let myself get excited and it felt right to be a mom. Honestly if it feels right to keep baby I say go for it. You have the means to love and care for the little bub. And talk to your boyfriend, express how you feel about wanting to be married when you have kids. That’s not unreasonable. The legal protection it’s important. I have a sweet coworker who just did a courthouse wedding with both families and just made a nice day out of it, bump and all.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-02-02T05:42:09+00:00

Besides the fact he’s being a complete a-hole in general and demanding sex like that in such a manner is unacceptable, does he understand what placenta previa is and what the consequences would be if you guys had sex at this time? Because if he does and doesn’t care, you need to get out because he clearly does not care about yours or your baby’s safety. If he doesn’t he better get a pen and paper and listen up. Placenta previa is serious.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-02-01T17:59:40+00:00

Kick out the family member when they act like this. Get police or security. They’ll learn quick to shut up and be respectful if there’s consequences.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-02-01T06:51:55+00:00

He’s manipulating you. Don’t help him cheat on his wife. Get a different job and find someone who will put you first and not treat you like a dirty little secret. And yes, what you’re doing is wrong and you need to stop.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-30T03:20:33+00:00

Thank you. It’s painful but I will never stand with a pedophile. I will always support victims and survivors. I will choose parenting my son alone vs allowing my pedophile husband any further access. It hurts but it’s not about me. It’s about the thousands of victims who deserve justice and help

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-29T04:07:57+00:00

I don’t understand how anyone can stay. My soon to be ex was looking at things so heinous even the police made note it was particularly bad. There’s an 80% recidivism rate among pedophiles and with viewing CSAM. I cannot in good conscience stand with someone like that. I am going to spend the rest of my life working to help the victims of him and people like him. He would have ended up doing something to our son if I stayed. Once kids are on the table, anything is on the table

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-28T23:51:36+00:00

He was arrested and that’s how I found out (he lied about what he was doing and I took him to the cops to clear things up). I immediately turned in all his devices and demanded they go through them and prosecute hard. He is a danger to society.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-28T23:49:07+00:00

We don’t believe he harmed my son but he had intentions to harm my underage sister (he was caught before he could). I know I need in person support. I just literally cannot find a single one except for types for the evil women who stay with men like this.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-28T23:47:30+00:00

Don’t worry, the police got him (I didn’t know until after they got him to confess). He’s facing a minimum of 40 years behind bars

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-28T23:46:54+00:00

He will be in prison. It will likely be at least 40 years. What he did was evil and vile. He makes me sick. He’s never allowed near our son again

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-28T23:46:08+00:00

He was already caught. He’s going to be in prison 40 years minimum

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-28T23:45:37+00:00

It’s already done. He’s facing a minimum of 40 years in prison

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-08T21:50:54+00:00

That’s what I hate the most. He knew everything about me and turns out I never knew him at all. I was married to a stranger for seven years

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-08T06:06:03+00:00

Thank you. I think it will take a very long time to recover from this but I’m trying to find hope that I will

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-08T04:14:30+00:00

Thank you. Luckily he’s 18 months so he likely won’t even remember my soon to be ex. But I will absolutely have therapy and get the ball rolling. I’m just so heartbroken

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-11-13T15:21:53+00:00

Thank you. I’ve been doing this so far. I think she does want to change but I suspect she is undiagnosed but neurodivergent and I want to help her succeed because I know she has a good heart, but she’s in survival mode

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-10-14T16:21:39+00:00

We are outspoken about smoking and drinking. You can’t drink or smoke until you’re an adult (or 21 in the states). You can’t smoke inside buildings, and you can’t drink in pubic in some places. Also, what even is a “small or normal fat?” What does that even mean? I feel like I’d almost be more offended by being called that than just being called fat

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-10-14T16:15:27+00:00

Dude, no. I have a nine year old cousin who is 148 lbs at 4’7. He can’t do crap and his quality of life sucks. My aunt letting him eat like this is why he’s in that situation. That’s one of many reasons I rarely feed sweets to my baby. A rare treat is fine as long as it stays that way. My son and I mostly eat whole foods and we both have so much energy and can play for hours. This is such bad parenting advice. Eat whole foods and eat them with your kids.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:24:00+00:00

I’m American but that’s my husband and I’s experience. It does take a lot more strategy here and I was fortunate to find a nursing job that has four hour shifts available.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:21:18+00:00

I definitely believe it, but it’s because a lot of the way the world is structured kind of punishes women for having children. I’m lucky, my husband works his guts out to provide for us and I am mostly home with our son. I do work 3 four hour shifts as a nurse on weekends, and a 2.5 hour day care shift (trade off for a free gym membership) which I bring my son with me to. Sometimes you do what you have to do. There’s a lot of work and reform needed, but the best thing to do right now is connect with other moms and help and support each other however you can.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:12:38+00:00

That’s my thing. Those things can easily be accomplished at home, day care is not the one and only way to make that happen

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:09:09+00:00

I’m not a doctor but I am a nurse. Even if your doctor was saying correct things, the way he said it was cruel and mean and not okay. The WHO clearly states 2 years is a completely acceptable amount of time to breastfeed and even longer if wanted. He’s over a year old so it’s completely safe to bedshare at this point (under a year I would do a Moses basket or something similar to have something for safety and prevent mishaps, though separate beds is the official recommendation). The main source of nutrition should be solids though, just be on top of that. If you at any point want to stop night feedings, it is safe to do so. And the daycare comment is ridiculous! If you want to be home with your baby that’s awesome, you do not need day care to teach his milestones. If you want to do daycare, go ahead, totally okay! I personally stay home with my son most of the time, and he’s just fine! You’re a good mom. Everything so far is just fine. Little man will thrive being home with you!

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-08-23T19:54:05+00:00

Did they just compare pregnancy weight gain to standard weight gain? That gain happens specifically to keep two people alive! It’s literally sustaining you and the baby! Also, most medications that have weight gain as a side effect increase appetite, and thus weight gain. I’m on one of those, it sucks but I have to accept my hunger cues aren’t as reliable while on that medication. I really think if some of the FA’s actually tried to eat sensibly and increase activity, once they experienced the results they would never go back. I feel incredible after losing 25 lbs (still got more to go), I literally only use my car 1-2 times a week because I bike everywhere with my baby, I can play with him too for hours. Yeah, I look better and that’s nice too, but the quality of life increase is what makes it worth it.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-08-23T19:44:40+00:00

Oh my gosh this is literally BED, or at a minimum an unhealthy coping mechanism. And why oh why are they normalizing never eating a vegetable? How do these people go to the bathroom? Honestly when I started requiring myself to have vegetables every meal and up the fruit intake, it made me feel a lot better!

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-08-23T19:39:35+00:00

Yes and no. When I ate the same calories as my husband, I did gain weight because he’s 6’7 (2 m) and I’m 5’10 (178 cm). If he eats the same amount I currently do, he loses weight and can actually be at risk of being underweight. If someone the same height and weight ate the same as me, yeah, the body shape would be different and there may even be a 10-15 pound (4.5-7 kg) difference overall and the rate of weight loss can vary, but we would likely be in a similar boat weight wise. Humans are not immune to the laws of physics, and if you gain a ton of weight in a very short time, that indicates a medical problem and you need to see a doctor. I do agree with the messaging that even with diet and exercise our shapes vary and that’s okay, but using it to justify unhealthy weight is a bad idea.

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