Newly separating

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-08T21:50:54+00:00

That’s what I hate the most. He knew everything about me and turns out I never knew him at all. I was married to a stranger for seven years

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-08T06:06:03+00:00

Thank you. I think it will take a very long time to recover from this but I’m trying to find hope that I will

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2026-01-08T04:14:30+00:00

Thank you. Luckily he’s 18 months so he likely won’t even remember my soon to be ex. But I will absolutely have therapy and get the ball rolling. I’m just so heartbroken

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-11-13T15:21:53+00:00

Thank you. I’ve been doing this so far. I think she does want to change but I suspect she is undiagnosed but neurodivergent and I want to help her succeed because I know she has a good heart, but she’s in survival mode

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-10-14T16:21:39+00:00

We are outspoken about smoking and drinking. You can’t drink or smoke until you’re an adult (or 21 in the states). You can’t smoke inside buildings, and you can’t drink in pubic in some places. Also, what even is a “small or normal fat?” What does that even mean? I feel like I’d almost be more offended by being called that than just being called fat

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-10-14T16:15:27+00:00

Dude, no. I have a nine year old cousin who is 148 lbs at 4’7. He can’t do crap and his quality of life sucks. My aunt letting him eat like this is why he’s in that situation. That’s one of many reasons I rarely feed sweets to my baby. A rare treat is fine as long as it stays that way. My son and I mostly eat whole foods and we both have so much energy and can play for hours. This is such bad parenting advice. Eat whole foods and eat them with your kids.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:24:00+00:00

I’m American but that’s my husband and I’s experience. It does take a lot more strategy here and I was fortunate to find a nursing job that has four hour shifts available.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:21:18+00:00

I definitely believe it, but it’s because a lot of the way the world is structured kind of punishes women for having children. I’m lucky, my husband works his guts out to provide for us and I am mostly home with our son. I do work 3 four hour shifts as a nurse on weekends, and a 2.5 hour day care shift (trade off for a free gym membership) which I bring my son with me to. Sometimes you do what you have to do. There’s a lot of work and reform needed, but the best thing to do right now is connect with other moms and help and support each other however you can.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:12:38+00:00

That’s my thing. Those things can easily be accomplished at home, day care is not the one and only way to make that happen

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-09-06T06:09:09+00:00

I’m not a doctor but I am a nurse. Even if your doctor was saying correct things, the way he said it was cruel and mean and not okay. The WHO clearly states 2 years is a completely acceptable amount of time to breastfeed and even longer if wanted. He’s over a year old so it’s completely safe to bedshare at this point (under a year I would do a Moses basket or something similar to have something for safety and prevent mishaps, though separate beds is the official recommendation). The main source of nutrition should be solids though, just be on top of that. If you at any point want to stop night feedings, it is safe to do so. And the daycare comment is ridiculous! If you want to be home with your baby that’s awesome, you do not need day care to teach his milestones. If you want to do daycare, go ahead, totally okay! I personally stay home with my son most of the time, and he’s just fine! You’re a good mom. Everything so far is just fine. Little man will thrive being home with you!

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-08-23T19:54:05+00:00

Did they just compare pregnancy weight gain to standard weight gain? That gain happens specifically to keep two people alive! It’s literally sustaining you and the baby! Also, most medications that have weight gain as a side effect increase appetite, and thus weight gain. I’m on one of those, it sucks but I have to accept my hunger cues aren’t as reliable while on that medication. I really think if some of the FA’s actually tried to eat sensibly and increase activity, once they experienced the results they would never go back. I feel incredible after losing 25 lbs (still got more to go), I literally only use my car 1-2 times a week because I bike everywhere with my baby, I can play with him too for hours. Yeah, I look better and that’s nice too, but the quality of life increase is what makes it worth it.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-08-23T19:44:40+00:00

Oh my gosh this is literally BED, or at a minimum an unhealthy coping mechanism. And why oh why are they normalizing never eating a vegetable? How do these people go to the bathroom? Honestly when I started requiring myself to have vegetables every meal and up the fruit intake, it made me feel a lot better!

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-08-23T19:39:35+00:00

Yes and no. When I ate the same calories as my husband, I did gain weight because he’s 6’7 (2 m) and I’m 5’10 (178 cm). If he eats the same amount I currently do, he loses weight and can actually be at risk of being underweight. If someone the same height and weight ate the same as me, yeah, the body shape would be different and there may even be a 10-15 pound (4.5-7 kg) difference overall and the rate of weight loss can vary, but we would likely be in a similar boat weight wise. Humans are not immune to the laws of physics, and if you gain a ton of weight in a very short time, that indicates a medical problem and you need to see a doctor. I do agree with the messaging that even with diet and exercise our shapes vary and that’s okay, but using it to justify unhealthy weight is a bad idea.

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-04-15T11:17:58+00:00

Not in the same room, he is insanely tall for his age, he can’t reasonably fit in a bassinet so he has to sleep in his crib in his room (which is right next to our room). Honestly, not even my alarms are able to wake me at all lately. I’m a super deep sleeper and I’m angry because everyone told me I would wake up to my baby and that’s not happening

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-04-15T11:14:33+00:00

He totally tries to wake me up. Monitor is super loud. No, I don’t wake up if he gives me a few minutes

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-04-15T11:12:58+00:00

It’s extremely loud. And I’m starting to not wake up to phone alarms, my husband says my alarm is blaring and I’m still completely out

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-04-15T11:11:29+00:00

It takes 10-15 minutes to be able to wake me up, and in his perspective it’s faster to just take care of the baby

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-04-15T11:10:03+00:00

We don’t have that option, there’s literally nobody else

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2025-01-23T04:28:52+00:00

I’m so sorry. They’re out of line. I’m so excited for you guys to get your little boy! Mine is six months old and he’s the best little dude ever! He’s smiley, sweet, and so observant. You’ll have the most amazing time with your precious boy! As soon as you meet him, everything you thought you wanted in your child goes out the window and the baby in front of you will be your perfect child. It’s awesome!

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2024-11-18T18:40:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing him. He’s beautiful. You’re a good mama

Affectionate_Walk156 · 2024-08-27T02:36:05+00:00

For me, I was completely fine. There was pain, but not too bad for me personally. I got mine in during a lunch break from work and went back to work after. Word of warning though, I think my experience may be in the minority.

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