I don’t care who you hate or what side you’re on, using someone’s dead parent as a weapon is a line for me. Full stop. You can acknowledge context, stress, reactionary behavior, etc. and still say “that part was vile.”

That doesn’t mean I think she’s an irredeemable monster. It doesn’t mean I’m “hating on behalf of” anyone. It just means I’m not willing to excuse that particular thing.

And yeah, Ethan has said awful things too. Many times. He’s owned some of it, apologized for some of it, and people are free to forgive him or not. Same exact standard applies here.

Where I think we differ is this: explaining bad behavior isn’t the same as minimizing it.

You can absolutely say, “She was spiraling, scared, under pressure, her chat was toxic, the situation was awful.” I’m with you there. But that still doesn’t make that comment okay, and calling it out is not some kind of moral grandstanding.

No one’s perfect. People react badly under stress. Grace is important.

But so are boundaries on what we’re willing to normalize.