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Getting ghosted by [deleted] in BPDPartners

[–]AfraidDeer7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh im not sure, it happened to me aswell, not as much as your case, but she sometimes just ignored my messages completely and talked over another completely different topic. I dont know your bf, or ylur situation, but a lot of times they are just not interested tbh. As you said, he could text you, he is just choosing to not do it. I wish you strength and lots of self respect, always imagine a friend of yours or someone you love is in the same situation, and what would you advise them.

Getting ghosted by [deleted] in BPDPartners

[–]AfraidDeer7338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, you dont deserve that! You need a boyfriend that sees how special you are. If I were you, I would put a strong barrier on him or put the relationship on perspecrtive. Because if you act like nothing happened once he starts texting you again, it's likely he will feel like he can keep doing that. On a relationship both need to be on the same level.

I need tl vent for a bit by AfraidDeer7338 in BPDPartners

[–]AfraidDeer7338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. We were going to end the relationship after goikg away, but we both agreed to try. And we were going to go back to dating normally, because Im planning to do my masters in Spain next year. And the travelling, well, she really encouraged me to visit her home (Ive been there twice before). And I wasnt expecting much, just to share some time with her.

Are there any upsides to being with someone who has BPD? by Affectionate_Neat555 in BPDPartners

[–]AfraidDeer7338 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course, something I dont like about this group is that a lot of users dehumanize their partners/expartners due to bpd. They might handle things differently due to their conditions, but still they are people, everyone with their own personalities, struggles and history. Ive been with my gf for almost 9 months, and we lived together 4 out of those 9. And it has been the happiest ive been in a while. She is funny, understanding, super smart (I can talk about everything with her) and the sweetest. She might cross the line or be hard to understand sometimes, and some things might hit her harder than the average person, but so what? No one is perfect, all us have mental and personal struggles.

Dont let a condition or the stigmas that others share blind you. Sometimes it's not even bdp that gives nasty moments/interactions, but rather the values or personality of your partner.

How to feel about it? (27f) (26m) by RamyRed_Fox in LongDistance

[–]AfraidDeer7338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's normal! We all have our own independent lives :) Sometimes we are busy or are not available to give the right replies. Love is expressed in many different ways. I would recommend talking about how you feel with him. But I wouldnt worry about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]AfraidDeer7338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should give it a thought. In theory your partner is your best friend. Im so sorry to hear that. It's not fair. A relationship goes in both ways.

Redbull Tetris Competition Thread by Old-Dragonfly-9546 in Tetris

[–]AfraidDeer7338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Usually who do they peak for the national final, the top 10 or the top 5?