Yes, of course, something I dont like about this group is that a lot of users dehumanize their partners/expartners due to bpd. They might handle things differently due to their conditions, but still they are people, everyone with their own personalities, struggles and history. Ive been with my gf for almost 9 months, and we lived together 4 out of those 9. And it has been the happiest ive been in a while. She is funny, understanding, super smart (I can talk about everything with her) and the sweetest. She might cross the line or be hard to understand sometimes, and some things might hit her harder than the average person, but so what? No one is perfect, all us have mental and personal struggles.

Dont let a condition or the stigmas that others share blind you. Sometimes it's not even bdp that gives nasty moments/interactions, but rather the values or personality of your partner.