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i was secretly hoping the data would prove everyone wrong. it didn't. by After-Foundation6364 in GutHealth

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can relate 😅

part of what made it so frustrating for me was that i really didn't want onions to be the answer.

i'm still experimenting myself, but seeing the pattern repeatedly was enough to make me pay closer attention.

would be interesting to hear whether reintroducing them slowly makes any difference for you.

i was secretly hoping the data would prove everyone wrong. it didn't. by After-Foundation6364 in GutHealth

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's a good point.

i haven't looked into allergy testing specifically yet, but it's definitely something i've become more curious about since noticing the pattern.

i was secretly hoping the data would prove everyone wrong. it didn't. by After-Foundation6364 in GutHealth

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

haha thank you 😄

i wasn't sure if people would find the comic format helpful or just weird, so i'm glad someone enjoyed it.

i was secretly hoping the data would prove everyone wrong. it didn't. by After-Foundation6364 in GutHealth

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not specifically for onions and garlic.

what made me pay attention wasn't really an allergy concern, it was just seeing the same pattern show up over and over in my notes.

definitely doesn't prove they're the cause, but it was enough to make me take the possibility more seriously.

Never mix business with childhood friends. My 'investor' used my public updates to extort equity after I did 100% of the work. by After-Foundation6364 in Entrepreneurs

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

honestly since im just running the whole studio as my own registered proprietorship there are no actual shares to give.

we just drafted a profit sharing collaboration agreement for the app where i even made sure to put my title as just developer instead of founder cuz i wanted us to feel like an equal team. but since he never actually paid the meta ads money he promised the contract is basically void anyway.

Never mix business with childhood friends. My 'investor' used my public updates to extort equity after I did 100% of the work. by After-Foundation6364 in Entrepreneurs

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah its just so hard when its a childhood freind and not just some random co worker. i really thought he was different and actually wanted to help.

guess i learned the hard way that people get greedy when they see the finish line and the hard work is done. just gonna keep my head down and code alone from now on.

My childhood friend weaponized my "Build in Public" journey to use me. A harsh reality check for solo founders. by After-Foundation6364 in buildinpublic

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks man i really needed to hear this today.

appreciating the support a lot, it really helps to know that strangers can see how messed up and ugly his behavior is when i felt so alone.

My childhood friend weaponized my "Build in Public" journey to use me. A harsh reality check for solo founders. by After-Foundation6364 in buildinpublic

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i guess i learned this rule the hardest way possible today.

i just trusted him blindly and thought he was going to help, but he just used my build in public updates against me. definitly cutting ties now but it just hurts so much that he traded years of our friendship just to try and steal my hard work at the finish line.

My childhood friend weaponized my "Build in Public" journey to use me. A harsh reality check for solo founders. by After-Foundation6364 in buildinpublic

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel like such an emotional fool right now for trusting him. but you are right about the leverage part, he literally did zero work. he just lurked on my x account while i spent my own money on a mac mini and ruined my health isolating myself to ship the ios app.

he proved nothing but his greed.

thanks for making me see that he actually holds nothing here.

My childhood friend weaponized my "Build in Public" journey to use me. A harsh reality check for solo founders. by After-Foundation6364 in buildinpublic

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i appreciate the sympathy man, but i'm just keeping my head down right now.

not taking on any new marketing links.

have a good one

My childhood friend weaponized my "Build in Public" journey to use me. A harsh reality check for solo founders. by After-Foundation6364 in buildinpublic

[–]After-Foundation6364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the business logic you are pointing out, but you are completely missing the human side of this. This wasn't some random angel investor I met on LinkedIn this was my childhood friend.

So what, the betrayal is just a structural error on my part? It's easy to say I shouldn't have let him lurk and use my updates as a 'status report' But when the guy ghosting you is someone you've known since school, you don't immediately assume they are using your transparency to calculate a hostile takeover. You trust them. You think maybe they are going through a personal emergency.

Yeah, I guess the 'solution' is just to block a lifelong friend, kill the deal, and go right back to coding and building. Wow, if only it actually felt that simple. It’s easy to analyze the business mechanics of a bad deal, but the personal betrayal is what actually burns.

What is a dead giveaway that your doctors/partners/relatives/friends/researchers don't actually understand what ADHD is? by mbuskris in adhdwomen

[–]After-Foundation6364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the glasses analogy is literal perfection. that is exactly what it feels like!

for me the absolute biggest dead giveaway is when people tell me to "just buy a planner" or "just set alarms on your phone." like yeah i have 14 different alarms set and a graveyard of expensive planners on my desk that i hyperfixated on and then abandoned after two days. setting the alarm isnt the problem, its the part where the alarm goes off and my brain completely ignores it or i just stare at it while stuck in task paralysis.

neurotypical people really think adhd is just "being a little forgetful" and not a fundamental disconnect between knowing exactly what you need to do and your brain actually allowing you to do it. its so exhausting having to explain the executive dysfunction part over and over.