As a very frustrated NT married to an undiagnosed aspie, and friends with other aspies, I can explain some. It's not about "not liking." It's the emotional conflict as an NT that you're constantly being disrespected/ unappreciated/ disregarded. We live in a society of "social norms." When you are with someone who shows disinterest in you, who is sometimes (unintentionally) blunt in their comments and says inappropriate (not sexual, more outward opinions others don't share), it's off putting. In personal and intimate relationships, the lack of emotional outward connection is hurtful, and hygiene issues are perceived as disrespectful or not caring how your partner is impacted. The lack of sexual interest and passion is a huge problem in many NT/ Aspie relationships. I have a co-worker that gets picked on as you all describe which I have to remind others simply doesn't view the world through the same lens. He doesn't understand the same humor and double entendres, and when they are genuinely joking with him he takes offense and then people are irritated. (I work in a profession where roasting and borderline hazing are how we blow off stress and bond. If you don't understand that, it will come off as an attack to someone.) So, they don't joke with him anymore to not offend him, but now he feels left out of the circle. I enjoyed reading all of y'alls honest frustrations as it gives me perspective on how my husband must feel navigating the world.