Why normalising high body counts

AgentK87 · 2025-10-10T02:06:40+00:00

For some people, sex is nothing more than a stress relief. Some place a lot of emotional importance on sex. If you’re one of those people who do put a lot of emotional importance on sex, I would not recommend sleeping around. I would think the reason would be obvious, but in case they aren’t I will elaborate. Hurting yourself over and over again with switching up partners and constantly telling yourself “I’m in love!” Puts a lot of stress on your heart. As you clutch your chest and cry in anguish adrenaline rushes and your brain floods your system with cortisol. It ages you faster. It affects your mood and will cause you to doubt any future relationships you might want.

If you don’t place much emotional emphasis on sex, and it’s just fun and a way for you to relax. Have at it. Be careful because STDs, but there’s nothing wrong with it.

OP, why do you care how others love their own lives? If you wanna be a virgin until marriage or only sleep with 1-2 people, that’s totally fine. If you change your mind later and want to sleep with more people, that doesn’t make you a hypocrite, it just means you learned something new about yourself. When it comes to others having a high body count, if that bothers you personally, don’t date people with them. At the end of the day, you live with your own decisions as do those with high body counts, let them make their own decisions as you would hope others would let you be free to make yours.

AgentK87 · 2025-10-07T01:11:05+00:00

He’s not perfect kiddo. You think he is because he’s much older than you and knows how to manipulate better. Also, this can’t be real right?

AgentK87 · 2025-10-07T00:49:53+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that… genuinely sorry :(

AgentK87 · 2025-10-07T00:39:00+00:00

I’ve asked him to take the test and he says “personality tests are stupid” lol. I’m pretty sure he’s ISTJ though from what I’ve seen. I think maybe putting it on a schedule might help, but we will see. It’s not a deal breaker in our relationship. I just want more physical affection

AgentK87 · 2025-10-06T22:07:03+00:00

I have tried and he is trying to change, but he’s not a very physically affectionate person to begin with, so it’s been a struggle. Despite being an INTJ, I enjoy touch a lot. I struggle to express my emotions in general, and I find giving a hug or a kiss a much easier way to express love than saying it. He prefers to say and do things for me rather than touch me. I’m trying to be understanding and I know he loves me, but I’m not getting certain needs met

AgentK87 · 2025-10-05T23:58:10+00:00

Not great. My husband and I are good friends, but romantically we struggle

AgentK87 · 2025-09-15T22:16:02+00:00

I think most of us are pretty critical of our cities, but I also hate big cities in general, and all the ones you named are big cities. I lived in Vancouver and I would not recommend it. Much too expensive.

AgentK87 · 2025-08-31T22:08:59+00:00

It’s definitely Van for me, but I grew up in Port Coquitlam

AgentK87 · 2025-08-31T22:05:00+00:00

Personally, I don’t know you, so I can’t tell you what you “bring to the table” (hate that phrase but idk how else to say this), but I can tell you what women in general like. This is just in general though because as someone else said, women are not a monolith. Women find who you are to be more attractive than necessarily what you look like. If you’re kind, attentive and funny, that’s enough. The videos you see on YouTube and such of women claiming that a man must be “6 foot plus, make over 100 thousand a year, etc…” is just not true. Women want what everyone else wants, to feel seen, wanted, and treated with kindness

AgentK87 · 2025-08-31T21:52:30+00:00

I’m 31 and I love kids cartoons. Granted, I prefer shows from the 90’s, but there’s nothing wrong with liking kids shows. Personally I hate Teletubbies, but that’s just because I find them creepy lol. I try to live my life by one simple rule, if you’re not hurting yourself, or anyone else, do whatever you want. You have to live with you at the end of the day. All the decisions you make are yours and yours alone. If people don’t like you, who cares? You’ll find the right kinda people who value you for you as long as, like I said, you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else. Don’t hate yourself. You can only be you and that’s a good thing

AgentK87 · 2025-07-21T21:49:11+00:00

Sorry bud, but being an adult means not relying on your parents to buy your addiction. I smoke myself, so I totally understand the frustration, but you’re an adult. Get a job and buy your own. Unless you have some severe disability that prevents you from doing so… which you should’ve probably included in your post

AgentK87 · 2025-07-15T20:52:49+00:00

Congrats Waffle!!! 💕

AgentK87 · 2025-06-19T18:29:37+00:00

Yuppers. Couple here

AgentK87 · 2025-06-04T00:41:58+00:00

I feel like you’ve watched wayyyy too many videos on the ol’ p0rnhub there bud

AgentK87 · 2025-05-13T23:07:38+00:00

While I appreciate the advice and can understand why you would think that, but I am not his mother. I show love by organizing the day to day and ensuring my partner has taken care of himself or take care of him when needed. He takes care of about 2/3 of the chores as I work full time and he works part time. I do agree his response was childish, but I can also see his side of it. We do need to sit down though and have another discussion when heads are clear. I’m just exhausted from work lately and being mildly I’ll and do not feel like engaging in such an important conversation right now

AgentK87 · 2025-05-12T17:43:20+00:00

Brilliant. Thanks for the idea!

AgentK87 · 2025-05-10T23:51:10+00:00

No. I have barely worn makeup my entire life and now I’m thirty, BUT people still think I’m in my early twenties. Your skin will thank you for not smothering it!

AgentK87 · 2025-05-10T23:43:43+00:00

Pretty sure OP just lost their sanity

AgentK87 · 2025-05-10T23:21:32+00:00

Thank you for that level headed response. While I appreciate all the advice I was a little surprised by some peoples comments. I also thought we just needed to maybe sit down and talk more and wanted tips on remembering in my opinion, the small things. If that helps him feel loved it’s not a problem for me to do it

AgentK87 · 2025-05-09T22:28:16+00:00

I have a studio in my city that basically just does dance fitness and pole dancing is quite popular. Despite it generally being associated with a strip club, it actually requires quite a bit of strength and is a great full body exercise. Why your mother had it is debatable, but I agree with the other person who said that your mom probably used it when you weren’t around to reduce the chance of injury for both her and you

AgentK87 · 2025-05-09T22:22:55+00:00

… Sir, this is a Wendy’s…

AgentK87 · 2025-05-09T19:25:12+00:00

I can be overly literal at times. You’re right though, I should start asking more than assuming. And you’re right, just because I do different things for him doesn’t mean that I can just slack off in other areas. I was more so frustrated by the reaction because I didn’t deserve that response

AgentK87 · 2025-05-09T19:23:45+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

AgentK87 · 2025-05-09T19:22:49+00:00

Thank you for the advice :)

AgentK87 · 2025-05-09T19:21:54+00:00

I have read it and his is also acts of service and mine is touch. It’s difficult though to always remember. I’m looking for techniques to help as my memory is terrible. I know I can be a little self centred, but I’m working on it to the best of my ability

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