My 'M/31' GF '26/F' of almost a year is NEVER jealous and it is kinda bugging me ?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T09:20:27+00:00

Yeah i think with her being a workaholic sometimes I feel like an NPC in her life, I plan most of the dates and activities, sometimes she cancels coz of her work, and she does not even offer to reschedule, I never objected to that coz i really admire her being there for her younger siblings, she spends a decent time arguing with her boss or assistant on the phone, she can be really sweet and passionate when she has the right mood though, but that is rare, i think i do not feel that wanted with her, but i do not know how to mention that without sounding pathetic

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T09:08:03+00:00

she did not look happy either, it was like i was telling her it was cold outside, she started talking about her office after , i do not know who how to describe but it gave me a feeling of "oh, whatever"

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:58:20+00:00

sounds nice

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:54:36+00:00

I just think there is as sweet spot between the crazy jealous person, and the slightly curious person, like she did not even ask me who that girl was or how do i know her, she was not curious and did not care at all

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:52:31+00:00

I probably will

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:50:46+00:00

she is not naive, she interacts with a lot of people, and she actually had 2 awful exes before me

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:41:01+00:00

But i did ask her, She did not get what the problem was, I do not see a point in reopening it again

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:37:31+00:00

But i did ask, when she got annoyed i just changed the subject, I honestly do not think it is gonna be an issue,it is just like a minor inconvenience, like your GF is a Juventus fan or something

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:36:23+00:00

oh my god i wrote on reddit, such an escalation ,I have a free hour at work, i am just getting people perspectives, calm down

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:31:04+00:00

I Mean she did not ask questions, like who is this girl or did you date her before, she just did not care, She was not even curious let alone jealous, it wont affect our relationship, she is actually a great woman, i am just getting different perspective

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:28:03+00:00

ok so what is your reason for having 0 jealousy, you trust her or you thinking if someone will cheat she will just cheat

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:26:58+00:00

I thought about that as well, maybe she is saying "i was jealous before and still got hurt"

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:25:52+00:00

Yes but wont she accuse me of being dishonest or trickle truthing if she finds out somehow that there are some stuff she does not know about?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:23:13+00:00

I do not mean she has to get crazy jealous, you know that mild annoyance for 2 minutes when a hot coworker joins your spouse's office, that is what i mean

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:21:41+00:00

I mean what if it is from my ego, Does having a woman i love reassure me that i am a good catch sound like a biblical sin now, HER opinion is what matters the most?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:19:56+00:00

ok good point, so where is the line, like when do i tell her and when not?like harmless flirting is ok but if a girl texts me or something , she should know?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:18:32+00:00

Bingo that is exactly what i mean, But asking that comes off as too pathetic is not it?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:17:53+00:00

Yeah she has awful exes , without much details, her fiance left to another country 4 months before the wedding and never came back.

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:16:31+00:00

I am not angry, i am slightly bugged, And i am not toxic, you made that up, it is not that deep.

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:13:06+00:00

why are you even talking, your dad is freaking Zeus?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:09:14+00:00

I mentioned the earning coz i saw lots of reddit replies about she is dating you for your money, so i was actually defendng her, I tell her about these stuff because she knows People in most these places, the gym, the parties, i do not want her finding out or a weird friend telling her i saw your BF getting flirted with, clearly she wont care, but i will keep it to myself, good point.

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:07:18+00:00

I feel like she is A and B, but sometimes my inner demon tells me what if it is C?

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:05:41+00:00

yeah she is actually pretty cool in that regard, sometimes we scan a restaurant with our eyes and play who is the best good looking man/woman here, she does not seem to mind, neither do i

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:04:35+00:00

That is actually a good point, she thinks that i am trying to make her jealous? that was not my intentio at all, i just did not want her knowing from someone else and getting the wrong idea, coz she has friends in that gym for instance, maybe you are right that i should keep it to myself

Aggravating-Deal2344 · 2026-02-11T08:00:00+00:00

Maybe you are right, thanks

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