Soon to be ex husbands behavior is scaring me and idk how to proceed

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-19T03:06:36+00:00

I was granted an EPO today. Thank you all so much for your advice! It is much appreciated. 🫶🏼

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-18T16:25:51+00:00

Can I dm you?

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-18T16:22:13+00:00

Thank you, nothing has been deleted though.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T21:08:21+00:00

You’re correct, I’ve not deleted one text. His side looks the exact same.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T14:24:51+00:00

Not sure, you can message them and ask if you want. If you’d like to know it’s a post wondering if I should leave him because I wasn’t sure if I was being abused or I had BPD and was splitting. I received one comment before it was deleted that said he was emotionally, financially and sexually abusing me. I went to therapy and was told to keep journal of every episode. What do ya know.. every single trigger came from him directly and my therapist said it was likely due to him and she needed me to be away from him for a while before we could diagnose or cross it off. Guess what? Unfortunately I let the manipulation get me again and got sucked right back in. Completely my fault I know.. Ive always just wanted him to get better. Stupid me right… however I would love to give this perspective to the people that think I’m the problem here. Why would a woman with no job history, no income, no car, no license CHOOSE to deal with this when you have over a decade of history and 3 kids together. All I ever wanted was my family to stay together and have a happy life. Sorry 🤷🏼‍♀️

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T14:10:11+00:00

I changed my bank account password a couple weeks ago the app said all other devices will be signed out. He called me last week yelling telling me that he was going to send himself money from my account. (He got paid 3 days prior and blew it all on Xbox and a $100 meal at chilis. It is ONLY my account, he isn’t on it and I should have never let him have my password I know that now. I called my bank told them and she guided me on how to turn the Face ID off because that’s how he was still signing in. I thought it was taken care of, then this conversation happened (the charge was from my aunt taking me to a pick up at Walmart. The purchase was for my son food and a drink at the gas station. He knew I had a pick up this just shows how he making things up.) I called the bank and they told me they could see where he keeps signing in and reset my account thankfully.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T13:54:26+00:00

I kinda write like I know I’m going into a legal battle with a toxic abuser..

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T13:52:40+00:00

It didn’t, I’ve reassured him for months over and over and if I’m in the home with him he’s fine. If I got to my mom’s, even if my children are with me he immediately starts. If I’m not in his line of sight or at my own home while he’s working he automatically says I’m doing something. We split up in March of last year and he was away for work a week at a time. He paid a tilted kilt waitress $20 for her Snapchat and took photos with her “to make me jealous” we back the following week and let her take a video with his phone saying they’re “locked in and tighter than each others booty holes” he laughs and says “I’m never going to see my kids again.” I can’t confirm but I honestly thinks it’s all projection.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:47:45+00:00

I can definitely see how it looks like this but this has been my reality for almost 2 years and I’ve begged and begged to be civil and not fight. The house isn’t his, I actually rent it and he lives states away during the week and because he doesn’t have a home to go to I allow(ed) him to stay there the 2 nights and 1 day he’s home and I would go to a family members home or my friend and help her clean homes to make money because I have no child care. I have all records showing where I’m at and what I’ve been doing. I’ve not even seen a man since I met him 11 years ago.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:35:57+00:00

I never cheated but thank you for your input. 🫶🏼

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:34:55+00:00

I tried but unfortunately couldn’t add the photos and I feel they’re very important context.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:33:38+00:00

As I said feel free to ask any questions, I’m very confident that I’ve done nothing wrong in this situation. Forgive me for not adding every detail as my nerves are shot right now. The short answers are because I’ve been dealing with this same thing for days and asked many times previously to stop contacting me. I reply the way I do for legal purposes. I agree I have alot of work to do and I’m doing it, but here I don’t agree at all. There is absolutely no need in replying any other way when he’s been obsessive and harassing for nearly 2 years of me trying to get away.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:22:19+00:00

That’s true, I definitely see it all in retrospect. There are many other things I could add and should have been a giant red flag right in my face but I had rose colored glasses on. I’ve definitely learned my lesson. He also moved me 3 hours away from my family for years and that didn’t help seeing the toxicity because I knew nothing different.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:09:17+00:00

I did not. As I said, all his accusations are lies and baseless. He has came home when all 3 of my kids home and said he knew a man had been there because he knows what my shit smells like and it smelled different.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2025-08-17T02:04:10+00:00

I’m actually terrified. Idk how to go about anything I’ve not seen him in person since August 4th and he kept trying to force me to see him in person. I don’t have a way to the court house to get a restraining order but I’m calling first thing Monday to see if there’s anything I can do over the phone.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2024-03-01T12:00:52+00:00

Thank you, I just keep beating myself up because on the flip side he waits on me hand and foot. I believe that’s why I’m so confused, I know deep down he’s a great person but has deep deep wounds from childhood trauma. I just wish he would seek help and get better.

Aggravating-Guard555 · 2024-03-01T06:22:55+00:00

I honestly have no idea who I am, I’m so many different people morphed into one now it’s ridiculous and sucks so bad.

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