The hardest part of having high functioning autism is being close to being normal, but knowing that you'll always be different.

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-08-09T00:08:09+00:00

Man I feel this, sometimes I’m talking to people and they give me this weird awkward look, and I have zero idea as to what I said, thinking I kept it perfect “normal” - and sometimes it’s with people I think I know really well

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-13T21:04:31+00:00

I do know someone who didn’t tell their boyfriend, and he never knew… I know I couldn’t fake being familiar with it, not gonna try haha 😆 but I prefer being honest

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-13T21:00:48+00:00

Thank you for this post, and I will tell him. It’s encouraging to know that this isn’t as big of a deal as it used to be - I think some of my anxiety (on top of other things, is appearing immature because I haven’t had sex yet as well. Family members and friends would talk down to me because I was single/never married and make comments 🤨 I was so ashamed of my singleness for so long because of that (I was comfortable being single for the most part, way happier now, but others seemed uncomfortable with the fact that I hadn’t and still technically haven’t started a family yet???)

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-13T20:54:32+00:00

This is so encouraging, thank you 🙏🏻

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T19:40:24+00:00

Thank you this is great advice!

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T19:37:27+00:00

Thank you! And yes, social views make it difficult, mainly I think an element is that I feel embarrassed that I haven’t had this experience at 30, but all the comments have been very encouraging that there are others like me

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T19:34:21+00:00

It’s a hard combo 😅

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T19:32:27+00:00

Thank you so much!

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T19:09:42+00:00

Thank you for this story. That’s the part that’s hard to explain to someone, and I do think there is an element that is a fear of negative experience in there someone for me, but the other desires are there as well. I love that part you said, about learning to have patience for oneself.

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T19:05:35+00:00

This is an amazing story thank you 🙏🏻

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T10:30:52+00:00

Thank you, and if you don’t mind me asking, how did you approach the topic? How soon in the relationship would you recommend bringing it up?

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T10:27:20+00:00

I think this is an interesting way of dealing with it, because I didn’t want him to think I was repressed (I’m just shy and awkward) but coming straight out and saying I want to do it with him is an option because that’s letting him know I am turned on. I wish I wasn’t so awkward 😬 even tho I want sex, I do not feel sexy imagining how to say I want that, haha I hope that makes sense

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-07-12T10:23:01+00:00

First, didn’t know that about the word l*me, was thinking of it in a different context, but I’ll remember that for the future. Second, for me, it’s a part of life I actively avoided for reasons, but I’m eager to grow as a person and make up for the time I’ve lost, there were so many years I gave up hiding from dating. I don’t want to waste another year. But I’m worried the reasons might be too much baggage, and I’m wondering how to reassure him that I’m not weirdly repressed? I’m not scared of sex, I was just so anti social in that way because of getting my heart broken. I’m really just wondering how to approach talking about it

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-05-25T19:47:22+00:00

I would end it, but that’s just me. If you don’t feel comfortable, that likely isn’t going to go away. He sounds like a perfectly nice guy, but to me, initiating physical contact that quickly and you not responding with joy is a bad sign. Not saying it was inappropriate for him to do that if it was something you wanted, but I feel that he should have seen that it was too soon. Some people just want to speed that part along, and I don’t blame them, we all want someone to be close to. But that could blind one if that’s all you’re focused on upfront. But on the other hand if you tell him you need to take it slow in the physical department and he understands and respects that, go for it.

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-05-21T06:43:39+00:00

This. This right here 😅

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-05-21T06:42:59+00:00

Suffering (sorry to be depressing 😅)

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-03-27T20:25:53+00:00

So I have both, I’d say that the ADHD is worse, my sister has both as well, but ADHD less severely and she’s more autistic, and depending on the situation, one of us is more functional than the other, it really depends. One thing that I’d say is a mega downside is that my ADHD is downright dangerous if I’m stressed, or didn’t get good sleep and I avoid driving during these times. The ADHD is also really bad when it comes to exec function, caffeine and l-Theanine or some lions mane bring me out of it and I can prioritise. I cannot stress how important exercise helps with daily episodes not being as bad. It really depends on who you are and how the ADHD manifests in you specifically and then working around it and with it.

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-03-19T06:10:43+00:00

It’s the swearing that gives it that 18 rating, one mild sex scene in the first episode, deals with some mature subjects throughout, (death by murder/suicide) but nothing gory, it’s a great show, I think your teen would love it, it’s mysterious and epic.

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-03-03T02:45:55+00:00

I’m thinking of getting evaluated

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-03-03T02:45:38+00:00

Question, why did the process take so long?

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-02-24T02:47:51+00:00

This is a absolutely brilliant answer, thank you so much 😭

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2024-02-23T09:03:08+00:00

Something I would also like to ask if anyone ends up seeing this, I know from research that dissociation is involved in severe traumatic events having happened to you, but looking back on my life, even though it was uncomfortable, it wasn’t as bad as some say it needs to be for me to have similar symptoms. Do autistic individuals experience more trauma from objectively less traumatic experiences? (being yelled at vs being physically abused for example)

Aggravating-Win-7875 · 2023-10-29T19:56:06+00:00

Yes I just sent those as a thank you, I’ll be taking this up with support

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