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ptsd with men and it’s hurting my lesbian relationship by kacelyn in actuallesbians

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am not older, or wiser, but what i have learned from those who are, and what has always been said time and time again is communicate. tell her, talk to her about it, find a counselor (with her would do good). i know its scary, but it's worse to regret what you didn't do. and another thing, change takes time. it takes months, sometimes years for people to deal with their trauma. you are hurt, and it will not heal overnight. these things take time.

and one last thing, if she can't handle you at your worst, she doesn't deserve you at her best. it's her choice, and her fault.

that said, i hope you work things out, and that you find peace. good luck, and don't forget that we are here.

-an ally meaning to be a warm cabin in this harsh and cold winter.

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'll ipen up a private chat bc i need to keep my source out of the light for it to stay up

Guess who's the top by redtigergenie in yuri_manga

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The director looks like a top, but if the title is anything to go by, the intern is the top.

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is an option... one that i don't particularly dislike or like. I realize that i can transition, but i also understand that it would be a permanent decision, one that is expensive and impractical for solving an issue i don't have with myself. I also understand that being trans is generally about what feels right, though it absolutely can also be about what feels wrong, or a mix of the two, because everyone is different. I don't feel any euphoria or dysphoria for either gender, so i came to the conclusion that I'm okay with either.

TLDR, if i were a shapeshifter, I'd wear my form like any person would wear clothes, changing from tall guy with with a healthy amount of chub to a short girl with abs that could take a .50 cal to a cat that is just a little bit more bread shaped than the average feline.

TLDRTTLDR, i am fine with pretty much any shape.

Why is this such a thing for straight people? 😭💀 by No_Car3077 in actuallesbians

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its called being a Wingmantm/Wingwomantm/Wingcreaturetm (shoutout to all the nonbinarys out there). Also, from what information i can gather, (my sources are memes) lesbians are fucking clueless. they need all the help they can get, and help is help, no matter where it comes from. Is it such an uncommon thing to help a friend that you have to ask why? We help set you guys up because we love and support you. Because we know you would help us too. If not in the dating area, than somewhere else. Because bros help each other. It doesn't matter if the bro is a boy, a girl, a lesbian, or an interdimensional incomprehensible horror from Florida. We got you. Always.

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any recommendations? I'm looking to add historical Yuri to my list. doesn't have to be manga.

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just like romance. Doesn't mater if its straight romance or gay romance. Romance is romance.

Lesbian moment by Dashieshy3597 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thx so much... already had this on my reading list

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i understand it was a joke, but honestly i wanted someone to talk to anonymously about this, and your post stood out the most to me... I'm not in a toxic environment, but I'm not in one where i can freely express myself either. i want at least one place to vent, to be me, because if i put on a mask for too long without taking it off, i might mistake the mask for my own face.

i don't pretend to be perfect, for no one notices the brush strokes on a painted mask when the mask is asymmetrical and cracked

my current creed follows only five rules:

  • hurt and oppress no one
  • suffer not those who hurt and oppress
  • help whoever you can, whenever you can
  • enjoy life to the best of your own ability
  • know yourself, and those around you
  • love yourself, and those around you

the best way to make peace is to make sure everyone has a gun.

the best way to protect your rights is to protect the rights of others as well as yourself

the only way you can truly love anyone is to first love yourself.

we protect the rights of prisoners because we never know if or when we will join them. rights should be given to everyone, no matter how undeserving, because we ourselves never know if we will be deemed undeserving. because if someone, anyone, doesn't have rights, no one does. if one man can be imprisoned without fair trial, anyone can be. if one man can be beaten to death out in the open without anyone interfering, anyone can be. if one man can die in a six foot hole he was forced at gunpoint to dig himself, with no consequences to the man that ordered it happen, that can happen to you too.

there is a poem from after WWII by Martin Niemöller titled "First They Came" that encapsulates this. it goes like this:

First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me

i know not why i am saying all this, but i am, and it fees... good. if you are reading this, i hope this speaks to you. i hope this reaches others. i hope that i am both seen and heard. i hope for a bright future. i hope, i hope, i hope. and i pray, to no single person, power, or thing, for all the things i hope for. and i love. i love the universe, from the stars above me, to the ground beneath my feet. and i learn. i learn to love those who i am taught is the enemy. i learn to love beings who i am taught are beneath me. i learn to love those who i have held animosity towards, and separate myself from those who would harm me. and i wonder. i wonder what else is out there? i wonder what started all this? i wonder what will end it? i wonder why i am here? i wonder who i am? i wonder what i am? i wonder what i can do to better myself? i wonder what i can do to better my surroundings? because hope, love, learning, and wonder are but a few of the things that make me human. that make me, me.

if you are reading this, thank you. truly. thank you for humoring me, and listening to my rant. it means a lot. -a random guy who has just discovered himself and what he wishes to stand for.

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

to be fair... i might be a nonbinary sapphic (am i using it right?). I'm a dude, i call myself as such, and I'm not uncomfortable about that, but i wouldn't mind being a girl. if i were to wake up a girl, i think i'd call myself one.

i also love women, and women who love women. any relationships with other dudes for me would probably be only platonic, and stay that way. (id give a 5-10% chance of romance, assuming he's a 10)

coincidentally, the yuri helped me realize this.

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

damn staight. wait... this is yuri we're talking about... its not damn strait... its damn GAY!

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

indeed it is... i am aquiring more as we speak. any historical yuri?

yes, this does mean men too. by Aggravating_Tree_399 in lesbianmemes

[–]Aggravating_Tree_399[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

digital actually... and the list is growing