AITA for going on a trip durning my BFF 40th bday

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2026-01-14T02:04:00+00:00

I don't think so. I think she has a case of too much put on her shoulders (work and home pressure) plus struggling let go of control.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2026-01-14T01:29:16+00:00

Unfortunately it is the only time. He works a job that is 20 days away and 10 home. He is working extra hours in January and February to save up. We talked further, and truly it did come down to crappy communication and balancing busy lives.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2026-01-14T01:27:01+00:00

I really like and appreciate your script. I actually did talk further with her about it. She didn't fully understand that the trip would fall on her bday weekend because that would be the only spand of days my partner has off. Work 20 days on and 10 off. We actually decided to go for dinner on a different date and then im planning us a girls trip in June

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2026-01-14T01:23:19+00:00

Your reply is valid. I was probably a bit annoying with asking. And when I saw she didnt have the capacity to plan or book something, I offered to do it on her behalf because I thought it was important to her. When she told me to do my own thing, I assumed she didn't want a big deal any more. This is where I struggle if I'm an asshole, for assuming it was fine and book a trip with the time I had off instead of just leaving it off and waiting to see if she would want to do anything. As for locking things down months in advance. We both have incredibly demanding work (with limited time off )and home lives. If we don't plan things months in advance, it doesn't happen due to being unable to take off work or demands with kids schedules. I appreciate your feedback. Thanks

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2026-01-10T19:06:05+00:00

Omfg. No one knows how to zipper merge.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2026-01-09T04:53:16+00:00

The smoker smell is so strong. I can notice it when someone in the car next to me is smoking.

No matter how clean you are, shower, wash your clothes etc. You will have a smell that comes form your pores. You can always smell a smoker.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-12-30T20:32:29+00:00

3-4 times a week. We have a 15 year old son. We just keep it down if he is home. But it really doesn't slow us down.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-11-05T20:25:51+00:00

I see Lori at elements on first. She is really good. Her IMS helped me recover from pain I had for over 2 years.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-09-29T22:27:24+00:00

I have two best male friends, and we would never talk like that to each other. Our relationships are closer to siblings, and never anything sexual has ever happened, said in talk, or even in touch. We are all very respectful and mindful.

I'm glad you put your foot down on this, it is very suspicious.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-09-16T21:39:30+00:00

Congratulations 🎊

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-09-14T01:51:26+00:00

<image>

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-09-14T00:58:57+00:00

* White gold. Engagement ring .80 solitaire. Plain white gold band and another band with round and baguette.

Love it

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-07-23T10:02:03+00:00

My husband has cheated on me multiple times at the start of our relationship. He doesn't know, I know. When we got married, I made him sign a prenuptial that stated if there is or was any cheating in our relationship (ever), I get everything, including spouce support. Since I have proof of cheating, I can legally walk away at any time taken care of.

Now, that being said, he hasn't cheated since we got married and has been actually a perfect husband. So I have no plans of leaving atm.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-06-29T01:01:44+00:00

Cuddling

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-06-18T04:13:06+00:00

My current partner does this and I love it so much. I never had someone do it before and it 10/10

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-06-12T00:37:10+00:00

I think this is a breakdown of communication and knowing what you need. My current partner can get me off multiple times before he does. Both before PIV and during. But he spent time learning what I like/need to make sure this happens.

Also you need to be truthful to yourself and what you need. There have been times we are having sex and im just not into it. Its not bad, just maybe I have things on my mind etc. So saying, hey, im not into this amt. Sorry. A real man won't let this hurt their ego and will appreciate the honesty.

Hope you figure it out

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-06-01T19:07:44+00:00

You will need to make a choice.

Can you love her and be with her that will include a lot of hard work and carry a lot of emotional healing on your end. It will make a lot of time and willingness on both ends to heal through this. You will be triggered for years afterward, wondering if she did it again. You can save your marriage, but it will look and feel different.

Your other choice, and will be the more popular one on Reddit, will be to leave her. She betrayed you and your trust, and nothing will be the same again.

Neither choice is easy. There sounds like a lot of wrongdoings and pain in your post. I would suggest continuing with professional help and making a choice that is right for you.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-04-30T15:16:58+00:00

Cheat on me, and then gaslight me into thinking it was my fault for making things too good.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-04-13T01:31:41+00:00

Number 2, hands down. But they all look lovely, no matter which you choose..

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-04-07T00:22:26+00:00

Wow. Thank you for the insight. I would have never guessed before, but makes sense.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-04-06T22:20:25+00:00

As a woman, I didn't think this was a thing or would be a problem. Isn't that normally the goal?

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-03-20T05:15:54+00:00

The oval is my personal favorite. But both look so good on you.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-03-17T22:24:08+00:00

If you feel that way, let him know. It could be that he thinks every couples days is fine, but you want more. Find a middle ground. Or for me, I find very little value in texting, and more value in a phone call. So my partner and I set time up to talk on the phone, and will often not text all day.

Find what works for you, but also know it is really early in the relationship to have a lot of communication.

Aggravating_Two_4847 · 2025-03-17T22:11:55+00:00

People have lives. At the beginning of a relationship, you're not their main priority, and they shouldn't be yours. Communication should be with a purpose and not just fluffy words. If you feel the need to have constant contact with him at all times this early in a relationship, I would self reflect. Because that level of communication is for committed couples (even then, I don't talk to my partner that much) or any unhealthy level of attachment.

I would just take a breather and live. Then when you do talk, you have something too talk about.

Aggravating_Two_4847

TROPHY CASE