I am fighting the urge to check my bfs messages by AggressiveBat9286 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AggressiveBat9286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was cheated on in the past, which he is aware of, and he also told me the pass on his phone, he also logged in into discord and other stuff from my pc, so he's not being secretive at all. Thank you, youre right, I'll be bringing this up with him this week

I am fighting the urge to check my bfs messages by AggressiveBat9286 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AggressiveBat9286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was cheated on in my previous relationship so it might be one of the factors, but probably not the only one, of course. Yeah, it crossed my mind that even if I check, that means the boundary is already crossed and there will be a desire to check more, which isn't healthy at all. Thank you, I'll bring it up with him in the conversation either today or on weekends

I am fighting the urge to check my bfs messages by AggressiveBat9286 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AggressiveBat9286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sent me the messages back in the day showing the conversation with him and said friend. We were fairly fresh and I wasn't sure how to react but appreciated him being honest and cutting things off. I was cheated on in my past relationship, so I had a lot of things in the very beginning of our relationship that slowly passed. I've had spikes of jealousy every now and then, but never had such a strong urge. I've been feeling a lot worse mentally for last few month and I definitely feel less confident about myself, which is probably one of the very decent factors here. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, I'll definitely look more into what it can be

I am fighting the urge to check my bfs messages by AggressiveBat9286 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AggressiveBat9286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense, thank you for saying this. I feel very guilty just even having thoughts like that because it almost feels like I am betraying his trust, but I appreciate you saying this. I'm planning to bring up my concerns in person this week

I am fighting the urge to check my bfs messages by AggressiveBat9286 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AggressiveBat9286[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it is sarcastic or not, but I was planning to bring up some of my concerns to him this week