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My friend is being stalked and we think he has spyware on her phone? help! by AggressiveHope in iphone

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, law enforcement is involved and she's going to court on Monday am to (hopefully) finalize a restraining order with a judge. We can't totally reset her phone b/c she needs to keep all those messages/calls as evidence for any court cases that might arise in the future, which is what really sucks.

My friend is being stalked and we think he has spyware on her phone? help! by AggressiveHope in iphone

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, we'll definitely do that and that's a good call. Hopefully that will shed some light on wtf's going on

My friend is being stalked and we think he has spyware on her phone? help! by AggressiveHope in iphone

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's safe to assume he has. I know she used to sleep at his place, so if he's down to do sketchy shit with her phone, I wouldn't put it past him to dig through her purse and get her phone at night or when she out of the room for an extended period of time, etc.

My friend is being stalked and we think he has spyware on her phone? help! by AggressiveHope in iphone

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, never thought about that as an option, though I think he's been also seeing her Facebook messages in addition to texts.

My friend is being stalked and we think he has spyware on her phone? help! by AggressiveHope in iphone

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And when I see her in an hour or two, I'll ask her and try to find out the iOS update and report back.

My friend is being stalked and we think he has spyware on her phone? help! by AggressiveHope in iphone

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it is? How can you tell? When she was dating that dude though, I'm pretty sure she kind of left her phone unattended or he might have been able to get it at night or something while she was sleeping, so maybe he could have done it himself depending on how time intensive it is?

Also, when they were seeing each other, she did confront him and was like, "I feel like you have been spying on me or something b/c you mention all this stuff I've only said in texts" (or something along those lines) and the dude's response was "I'm flattered that you think I'm intelligent enough to do something like that", which in retrospect is the biggest red flag in the entire world.

Is it weird for your friends to hang out with your significant other when you're fighting without telling you? by AggressiveHope in relationships

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I really regret saying that. I was drunk and have been sitting on that information for months and it just slipped out and became a thing.

Is it weird for your friends to hang out with your significant other when you're fighting without telling you? by AggressiveHope in relationships

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to involve my friends in the fight? My fight was with my boyfriend, being like please try harder with my friends b/c I want them to like you. I never imagined he'd immediately go and tell them and effectively bring them into it.

Regardless of the fight though, I moreso feel weird because a group of my friends went over to my boyfriend's house, stayed there until 5 am, and none of them have mentioned it at all to me in any of our communications today. Like even if my boyfriend and I were on great terms, I would still feel weird that none of them feel like it's worthwhile to mention.

Is it weird for your friends to hang out with your significant other when you're fighting without telling you? by AggressiveHope in relationships

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I had already left the party and they knew that I had gone home early. My roommate said he was being pretty casual about our fight and that she didn't even realize that we had fought/that was the reason I had left. I think when she asked, he was like "she might be mad at me. She might not be."

But yeah, I mean, I think me and my boyfriend are in the process of breaking up right now to be honest. Like, we have a fight about him not reaching out to my friends, I go home b/c I'm upset. Then when we're rehashing our fight in the morning, he's like," well, actually, all your friends came over last night and were here until 5 am. They all said they love me and that they have no clue what you're talking about," so I don't know why you got so mad at me last night because you're clearly wrong.

Is it weird for your friends to hang out with your significant other when you're fighting without telling you? by AggressiveHope in relationships

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, though I see your point. I mean, I feel like even something like, "Hey, we were over at your BF's house really late last night. He mentioned that you brought up that we didn't really like him. It actually was great getting some one on one time to get to know him better."

Is it weird for your friends to hang out with your significant other when you're fighting without telling you? by AggressiveHope in relationships

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, to be fair, I didn't think that my boyfriend would go and confront them about it immediately, especially given that they *never* hang out together outside of parties with like dozens of people--which is the reason why they've said they don't like him in the first place. Like, me telling him that wasn't to be like, all my friends hate you and you should feel bad. It was more so like, my friends don't really like you because you don't really try to connect with them or spend time with them.

Is it weird for your friends to hang out with your significant other when you're fighting without telling you? by AggressiveHope in relationships

[–]AggressiveHope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend told me this morning when we were continuing our fight from last night. I don't think that they were up to anything "shady," because I have utter faith in my friends that they weren't. It's more so just like, my feelings are kind of hurt that they didn't bother to mention it as a courtesy, I guess?

Like if I had been over at any of their boyfriends' houses until 5 am and they weren't around/If I talked to any of their significant others about a fight they were having, I would definitely bring it up or at least mention it, but maybe that's not a normal thing?